We live in New York right now, and my Dad has finally decided he no longer wants to be with my mom and is moving to possibly Florida. I've not got a decision of whether I should stay with him or my mom.
I'm only asking you all this for your opinion so don't yell at me for asking a bunch of random people.
Im about 3 weeks pregnant (and i'm 16, please don't critize me about that either) and I get along with my mother more, but my dad has the money. Im quite afraid that if he moves he'll no longer want to be apart of my life.
He's not too crazy about me or the baby, but he has still invited me to come along with him.
2006-07-24 05:15:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have asked the Baby's dad not to be apart of my life for certain reasons.
2006-07-24 05:27:15 · update #1
The baby's dad can come visit his child any time he wants, but I just don't want him apart of my life.
2006-07-24 05:47:32 · update #2
What about your baby's father? Isn't he a factor in this at all? I assume you'll be getting child support from him. What about his visitation?
With the kid coming, you need to think about those things more than about your mother & dad. Unless the baby's father has already abandoned you, the baby alone is probably greater reason to stay where you are than all other considerations combined.
Besides, if you stay with your mother, your father should still be paying her child support until you are 18. So, that's another reason not to go with him just because of money.
I am sorry that you are in such a difficult position. You'll be in my prayers.
2006-07-24 05:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by M Huegerich 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think you answered your own question. If you get along better with your Mother, then you should stay with her. She may not have lots of money but so what! Your Dad still has an obligation to support you until you are 18. Hopefully your mom will enforce that and you two won't have to scrape the bottom of the barrel. Money does NOT make the world go round.
At the age of 14, I chose to live with my Dad for money reasons. HA - that was a stupid mistake. Yeah, we had plenty of money and I had EVERYTHING I wanted.........except LOVE! He was never home. Always out with lots of strange women and I was just a fixture in his house. I was soooooooo lonely!
So, don't make that mistake. Go with your Mother. At least she will shower you with LOVE and that's what's important.
2006-07-24 12:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by oklahoma_whistle_britches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough question. Just because your dad has the money doesn't mean he's going to support your child in the way that you may be looking. I think it's something the three of you need to decide, meaning your mom, your dad and you.
2006-07-24 12:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
taking into consideration that you are pregnant you need your mom's presence more than your dad.... if ur mom is workin n earnin enuff for both of u ppl to live together i would say u should join your mom....
but dat doent mean you should ignore your dad... try to butter him with some emotional dialogues and keep hold on him too so dat u can have him wen u need money....
n last but not least i dun wanna kno were is ur bf... i wud ask if u wud add me in ur yahoo bcz i feel u r a sweet person who has been a victim of dis wicked world..... if so m one of dem too :)
2006-07-24 12:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by ii_classy_ii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay with my mother, because while he has the money, I think - concluded from what you wrote about your father's attitude against you and the baby - that you'll get more emotional support from your mother.
If he wants to help you, he can do it - but I think in your current situation, you should stay with your mother.
2006-07-24 12:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your mom, right now she needs you and you need her, support each other, but stay in touch with you dad too, just because they´re getting a divorce it doesn´t mean that you have to cut one of them out of your life, good luck with everything.
2006-07-24 12:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by lizeth s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would stay with whoever i love the most and kno will take care of me better... also i would keep in mind my friends and school. if you were to move, check out the schools and the programs they have, if its better down there then who knows... make a list of things that you like and are important and if its better in ny, make a check there, better in florida, check there... after awhile, youlll see whats best for you...
best of luck!
2006-07-24 12:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with mommy. Good luck with the baby! God bless you!
2006-07-24 12:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have thought about it and invited you to come along.Or he really wants a grandson and wants to be there when its born
2006-07-24 12:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋