Kids expect too much because we give them too much and we really are turning them into disrespectful, ungrateful spoilt brats! Does anyone else agree with me? They really think we should give them everything they want without them having to earn things. We as parents, need to get a grip and quickly.
2006-07-24 04:49:47 · 17 answers · asked by missieclass 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Agree whole heartily. Kids have peer pressure as adults do. I believe we should start as we mean to go on and educate our kids from an early age. You work do chores etc you get rewarded. As for being disrespectful and ungrateful, again it boils down to educating at an early age, whats acceptable behaviour and whats not in society in general
2006-07-24 04:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by mickeyarsenal 1 · 17⤊ 2⤋
I think everyone seems to expect too much. Most people seem to think that all their problems are caused by someone else. If we could start getting people to understand that all their problems have been caused by themselves and they have a choice in how they can react or act then you will have people who are not so selfish. Yes parents do cause this...it is the whole I want my children to have a better life than what I did so I pile on a bunch of stuff to make them feel good about themselves. My father always said find the one thing (a physical item not love or time spent with parent etc etc) a child really really really wants more than anything and never give them it. If they want it let them buy it themselves but never just hand it to them.
2006-07-24 11:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by erik c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What good sensible answers this questions has brought forth. I can honestly say that I never spoiled my children. At christmas, birthdays, they never got most of the things that they would have been brainwashed into thinking they should have, by tv. They got what we thought best, and what we could afford. We never borrowed to spoil them. If you knew them you would agree they are the loveliest people you could wish to meet. They are not foul mouthed and they have respect for others. One odd thing is, I tried to teach them money doesn't grow on trees, but they all spend spend spend! :-) So yes, parents. need to set standards, bounderies which must NOT be stepped over, above all teach respect. But you know as well as I do, see some wayward kids, look at the parents, and you see why eh? Maybe I was just lucky.
2006-07-24 12:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by Dick s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're so right. The issue here is one of a culture of consumerism and the celebrity. If someone famous is getting, wearing or doing something, the kids want it now.
The fact of the matter is that more and more parents are prepared to go into debt, spend on credit cards etc. to satisfy their child's whim. Sometimes it's down to the child pressurising and making life difficult, but often, like one answer mentioned already, the parent's desperate need to "prove" love. Love can't be proved by material things, it is an unconditional and wonderful gift and it is love which is lacking in a lot of these children's lives because it is substituted by gifts of monetary value.
2006-07-24 12:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you and I think a lot of it is wanting to give them everything we always wanted and never had without thought to the idea that we were probably better off not having those things. I find myself really having to check myself with my daughter so that I don't go overboard. There's nothing sadder than being in the toy store and watching a parent lose an argument with a four year old who wants a toy. Kids need to not have so much that they don't appreciate what they have.
2006-07-24 11:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I, myself have been guilty of spoiling my children. My first son is the absolute worst though. He was with me and his dad for five years all by himself, before I had another child. And we gave him pretty much whatever he wanted. I also tried to be his best friend, which was a huge mistake. So now my husband and I have to go back and undo everything that we did so that we don't have a spoiled brat on our hands. The best thing that you can do is NEVER get started spoiling your kids.
2006-07-24 12:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right! I have 3 boys and I have noticed a direct link to Nickelodian and cartoon network. This junk is teaching them that it is acceptable and expected. Cut off the TV and you will see that when they have to entertain themselves with their own brains they will be much more accomodating. Although we try to provide for our kids, remember we are not their servants. If they use a demanding tone of voice. Put an end to it, the world will be a better place. Think about the little girl named veruca salt from the original charly and the chocolate factory!
2006-07-24 12:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i agree i think for the most part of it we want togive them everything we never had.like we were quite poor as kids,untill we were taken away from home,,,but now we try to give our own kids all we never had.i agree we are turning them into spoilt little brats but if you can balance the dicipline with the good stuff then they wont be as bad.mine get time out in his bedroom.but get treats if hes been good and i tell him why hes getting the good stuff.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2006-07-24 12:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your so correct...kids these days are running riots and taking controll of parents...and the parents refuse to get tough with them because they can be arrested or just dont think its right..these are the kids that grow up thinking the whole world is theres and go to lenghs to get what they want...coz there so used to it...i dont want people to beat there kids up when they are cheeky or abusive...but they should be smacked on the bum hard enough to let them think twice about there mistake again..no wonder we are facing the youngest teenage pregnet generation...theres to many blind eyes turned everywhere...and the goverment has to act now....and start national service as young as possible...as i fear the big world will be to much for some spoiled bratts when its time for them to flee the home!!
2006-07-24 11:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by mixmastersback 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that the answer NO is not used enough any more. Children now expect to be able to have anything, anytime and almost anywhere. Try putting a few limits onto them, and clip them round the ear if they complain. That should solve it.
2006-07-24 13:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you, and it is our fault as parents. I try to make my kid understand that money doesn't grow on trees as my mum used to say, I didn't believe her back then, but I sure found out quick enough when I left home.
Kids these days "expect" not "respect".
2006-07-24 12:04:12 · answer #11 · answered by WeeMags34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋