why do the closest people to you hurt and use you?.........?

Question

And then in the end you get the abuse and pain, because "it was all your fault for helping in the first place"

Answer 1

that's the way it is i'm afraid! u could explain that u feel like ur taken for granted. try just listening as aposed to helping them out, it will always come back to bite u on the butt otherwise! I know how u feel!

Answer 2

I was in the same situation as you before. I helped the person that was close to me and then I got hurt. And was told that its my fault for helping him in the first place! People who are the closest know how much you feel about them. Most times, they will abuse your love and trust. Like me, I take it as a lessons learnt in the hard ways. It took me 10 years to stop believing him and stop helping him. Each time when I helped, I hope it was the last time, but the "last time" never come.

Answer 3

Because when people hurt, they lash out and the ones nearest to them are the ones who get hurt first. When people feel worthless they want to prove their value by being more than someone else and so they use someone who loves them as a door mat to get over themselves.

The thing is, by hurting those close they alienate the ones who they need the most. This makes them feel worse about themselves and the spiral of hurt and worthlessness continues. Cut yourself away and prove you are stronger than they are, then they will either come back with their tails between their legs or find someone else to treat badly.

Answer 4

for one if ya try to help someone and you get hurt by them dont think its your fault I hear this all the time ticks me off, you are not, just tryin to be a good person at heart but remember anyone who does this isnt a friend or good and ya can always move on, people are selfish and crood now not like they use to be and it doesnt matter what ya do ya still end up the one w/ the shaft but dont change and get like them its rare now to find someone caren and dont want to make the whole world nothinbut cold, chear upand remember it just means your the better guy.

Answer 5

The ones that are closest to you take you for granted. They feel that they don't necessarily have to treat you with respect because you will overlook them. It doesn't make it right but, admit the truth is give it some time and you'll act like this didn't happen either! Because we love them.

Answer 6

Your enemies will never hurt you just because you won't let them. We have to be aware of our friends and close people, always ready for the worst from them.
Anyway, try only to make good things to people cause that law that says "what goes around comes around" is for sure.

Answer 7

We can't pick our family and we never completely know our friends and sometimes unfortunately we never know what a person may be capable of until they do it. We have to guard our hearts without blocking blessing that may come our way. Dont let what evr happened become a part of you forever. When you finish grieving and you probably need to grieve a little..... live your life and enjoy it!

Answer 8

They are so used to you being close and naturally take you for granted. It's not easy not to take someone for granted but I think it's human nature.

Sometimes we are nicer to strangers or our bosses than we are to our partners. They often bear the brunt.

We should try harder to be good to those closest to us though. They are the REALLY important ones.

Answer 9

Seems to me that you have been born into a rather unfortunate family. I am very sorry to hear that. Thankfully not all of us share that kind of experience. But if you feel it is more than you can bear, you should talk to the appropriate authorities.

Answer 10

Well if it was family, a mate, or best friend, etc; it's because they feel you should know them inside and out by now.
So when they use you for your help, assistance, advice, money, favors, etc; they assume you "understand" and that it's "all good", without all the extra explanations, thank you's, and other reciprocals........Capisci?