2006-07-24 04:32:59 · 40 answers · asked by CDEVINW 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
1) Think about it. Why is he/she going out with your ex-b/f?
If all you said while you were with him was that he was the greatest thing since sliced bread, chances are (a) the bestfriend wants some of what you thought you had, or (b) the bestfriend is trying to avenge your feelings.
2) If, after you set aside your feelings, you think the pair will be good for each other, make each other happy or whatever -- congratulate them!
Life is competitive! Always be the better person!
2006-07-24 04:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by wireflight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least your boyfriend isn't trying to date you and her at the same time like MY ex boyfriend James Rogers did, which I found out about TWO DAYS before my 22nd birthday. It just depends, on how close the friendship really is (why would she want your castoffs anyways), how much you trust her, whether she came to you and asked "permission" (even if it's been 6 months or longer), how weirded out you are by seeing them together, or whether or not you think the friendship can survive this. One advantage is that you can tell her what he's really like, although she may not believe you-- love blinds a person sometimes. My former best friend, Tiffanee, believed the guy over me, though we'd been friends for TWELVE years, so yes, the friendship ended. She made her choice, I made mine, to cut her out of my life. It was the hardest thing I ever have done in my life, but a necessary step.
2006-07-24 04:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by Minda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she is your best friend, she probably knows why he is your ex. And if you really like her, you should allow her to make her own mistakes. Then you can tell her,"See I told you so b****"
If they end up being soul mates, then well, you can't blame her, maybe they were meant to be, and I know it hurts, but I guess this pretty much puts an end to your friendship because there will always be lousy feelings on your side anyway. It's just not a comfortable situation I would think. I guess you can kiss your best friend good bye.
2006-07-24 04:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know if they might be soulmates. Be a big person and be happy for them. You'll move along much quicker too. Or do you still want him? If you do, she shouldn't do this out of respect for your feelings, but make SURE you really do. It's not fair to get in the way of what could be a great thing for your BEST friend!
2006-07-24 04:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take it very personally I mean it's an unspoken rule among my friends an I. I believe if my friend dated my ex then more than likely she wanted him while I was with him and you just don't mess with you friends bf or ex. Thus I would have had to cut her loose as a friend or if I was okay with it I would certainly not trust her any further than I could throw her!
2006-07-24 04:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference does it make? You want your best friend to be happy, right? And you don't care about the ex, because he's an ex, so, what's the problem?
2006-07-24 04:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't care, but I guess I say this because I don't have a lot of girlfriends and never did. It's never happened to me before, but in all honesty I feel if I wasn't seeing the guy anymore, we obviously are through. It would be irrational of me to expect him to not see other people. So what if it's my girl! Say what?!?! Did you say my BEST FRIEND?? Oh! Hell No!!! N E V E R M I N D!!
2006-07-24 04:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by U'Nique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remind your best friend that stupid boyfriends come and go, but friendships are supposed to last forever. So if she wants to ruin a good friendship over your leftovers, she can go right ahead, and it will be her loss.
My best friend and I made a pact when we were teens to never hurt each other over some stupid guy.
years later, we are both happily married, and we are still best friends... and we can happily say we never fought over the same guy!
2006-07-24 04:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend did that, and tried to hide it from me. When I found out I was a little hurt buy didn't say anything to her at all. Waited for her to feel she could tell me. The longer that went on, the surer i was that our friendship couldn't work because she didn't trust me enough to tell me what was going on, but I never resented her for dating him. I didn't want him. Doesn't matter who dumps who either. One way you don't want him. The other he doesn't want you so why waste your energy. BTW, they are married now. He beats the hell out of her and she won't leave him. And her mother married his father. blah.
2006-07-24 04:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by t79a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly feel uncomfortable with this, let her know. if she's really your best friend she will understand and back off. even though there should be an unwritten constitutional law that bans friends from hooking up with other friends' exes, there's really nothing you can do except let her know how you feel. this is when u find out who "your real friends are."
2006-07-24 04:38:17 · answer #10 · answered by effin' h!lar!ous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋