does a wife that turns her husband down for sex about 75 percent of the time and never initiates sex still?

Question

expect her husband to not cheat on her? so many of my friends are in this same boat and i ask myself are these women that pretty much have just about written off the marriage anyway?
knowing the male sex drive, how can they reasonably expect him to stick around?

Answer 1

If you are speaking about your own relationship, you need to speak to your wife. Find out why she doesn't want to have sex. If it's something you can help with then learn your lessons and help out. Sex in marriage is just like anything else, give and take.
If the lack of sex continues and you can't live with it, you may need to let her know you are looking for "outside help".
Honestly though, if you aren't doing anything to help with the family and children and aren't making her feel sexy she is probably wondering why bother.
On the other hand, I tend to agree that women in general don't seem to want to have sex as much as a man. I haven't quite figured out the reason, perhaps some don't feel it's as important as cleaning the bathroom or folding the laundry. (for the life of me I don't know why) Perhaps it's because women in general haven't let themselves explore and experience all of the wonderful sensations sex can give.

Answer 2

Sex is a very important part of marriage and very important to have a happy and healthy marraige. The wife that isn't having sex with her husband really says alot about the marriage. Obviously this is not only a concern that she isn't having sex but there is other problems in the marriage too. Communication is always the key to a happy marriage and lacking this could affect the entire marriage and lead to many different problems. Talking is great if possible and sometimes therapy just for the marriage in general is a great idea. Having someone there to mediate takes alot of stress off. Going alone is always a good idea because there may be some issues you need to resolve that isn't directly coming from your mate. Cheating is not a good idea because if you are feeling the need to cheat and not willing to go to counseling with your mate then do him/her a favor and just stand up and leave her/him.

Answer 3

You know as a woman i am in this same situation.. i would love to have sex 3 times a day, sex is important when its lacking i feel very frustarted and get pissey but you must ask why is the sex lacking. If its just a simple i don't want to, then you need to dig a little deep and find the underlying cause. Some women i know complain they can not get wet,its boring , and the number one complait its "like wachin the same movie over and over again. women like change try something diffrent touch her diffrent, be spontanous, be romantic, just have some wild fun. I think its unresonable to just expect anyone to go cold turkey. However is there is some reason she/he can't well they can not help that but they could give u a hand job-bj or soemthing like that. Sex is nature so go along with it.

Answer 4

O(K I am an not going to judge you all guys want alot of sex but boy you are not aproching this right she wants more then sex so give it to her spice things up sit her down and tell her that it is going to affect the relationship. Tell her how you feel and ask why she doesn't want any but acsept her answer don't argue about who is write just say that you need her to atleast go half way on making the relationship but you have to go the other half do somthing for her that is not sexual in any sort maybe do something romantic set up a dinner plan but don't expect sex that night if it comes it comes leave sighns that you love her like flowers or a message at work that you love her and miss her. I know it makes you mad but getting mad won't solve your problem. DON'T CHEAT. you don't know what you got until it is gone if you love this woman than try to understand her. YEAH IT IS HAR TO READ A WOMAN SO ASK. ask her how she feels and not just once in a blue moon if she says she is fine SHE IS NOT FINE do somthing to make her feel speciel besides sex! hope I could help good luck to the both of you

Answer 5

I am starting to understand men now more than I ever have, and I also understand your frustration. This isn't a question that every woman can answer because many of us like to have sex with our husbands. I personally could do my husband everyday a couple of times. Women are so complex that the reason your wife is doing this could be a number of reasons: Maybe she doesn't like her body, maybe you aren't romancing her enough, maybe she is cheating on you, maybe she has a health issue in that region and is embarrassed about it. Start by asking questions and talking to your wife, let her know that you are horny and she needs to do something about it because you have needs that aren't being met. Don't feel bad about this because sex is an important part of the relationship and if she gets an attitude then she needs to get a grip before she loses you.

Answer 6

You must also consider that for women, sex isnt just an act and often they withdraw from sex if they feel the relationship has lost certain levels of non-sexual intimacy. Women, as men are also biological entities. Hormonal changes, and stress also play a huge rolle in libido. This woman or women you speak of may very well still love and adore their husbands and may also wish that they could get that "spark" back. Sometimes its a relationship "glich" ~ something that both spouses need to work on. It isnt just a womans job to give it to her man when he wants it. The couple as a whole needs to focus on loving the OTHER in the way he/she NEED to be loved. Relationships require work and reinvention once in a while. I dont think cheating on a wife, who for some reason isnt able to participate sexually is fair or reasonable. In fact, it sounds like a good way to break someones heart, get sued for divorce, and end up with a lot less in life.

Answer 7

You should talk to her about this - not us. Really. What is it that she wants you to do to turn her on? For some women this can be as easy as to take interest in her, help her with laundry - do things together. Feeling that old companionship that you used to do earlier. Get away one weekend -romantic stuff. What do the two of you need to do to find her sex drive? I'm sure it is there - unless she has been raised religiously and thinks sex is a sin or something.

Good luck - the both of you!

Answer 8

Try not to lump all the wives together. Different couples, different problems. For a woman, sex does not start just in the bedroom. She is sharing her body with you which means she needs to feel like she will be taken care of. If there is a problem with the emotional part of your marriage, there will be a problem with the physical part too. So do some thinking about what your role is in all of this.

Answer 9

Hey, I understand where you and she are coming from. I still have a strong sex drive just not with my husband. I am not cheating on him but things have definitely changed since marriage and children. Try to understand her point........she is probably stressed about finances, kids, work, ect. We (females) do not want to have sex when we are stressed. Unlike most men who need sex when they are stressed. Not a bad thing just different. Most importantly don't make her feel guilty or like she has to have sex with you. That is a huge turnoff. Try to think about how things were when you were dating. Maybe come up behind her and hold her in a nonsexual manner. I say nonsexual because if she feels like you are trying to get her in bed she will probably shut down. Women need to feel loved to have sex and men need to have sex to feel loved. Think about this next time you are trying to get some from your wife. I hope it helps. Oh, and please don't cheat on her, just be honest if it gets that bad then it is probably time to leave anyway. Good luck!

Answer 10

yes...they would expect him to not cheat...maybe she has some issues from a previous bad relationship....maybe she was raped or molested, who knows...he should try to find out why she turns it down or why she does not initiate (which, by the way, some women are not comfortable initiating anyway)...and, no, it does not mean they have written off the marriage...maybe they are tired. do the men that have these problems with their wives do anything that would make their wives want to sleep with them? "Hey, Baby, you wanna' have sex?" doesn't cut it.... a lot of guys stop "working for it" after they get married....they expect their wives to just automatically want sex just because they are married and he is her husband....wrong....you still gotta' work for it.