It seems like too much of a hassle when there are so many other things to do. Any suggestions?
2006-07-24 04:12:21 · 13 answers · asked by Lindsey W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are a couple of things here. First off start by talking to your doctor. A lack of libido could be a health related issue than needs to be taken care of. If not that then it sounds like you simply are too busy with your life. You say there are more important things to do but what is really more important that love and your marriage? It is real easy to get caught up in this fast paced world and let your self get over whelmed. You need to step back from your life and figure out how to make it simpler and less complicated so you can find time to enjoy life. What good is living life if you don't take time to enjoy it and have fun?
2006-07-24 04:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hello Lindsey, it sounds like you at least want to get it back which is good.
You and your husband should plan an evening out to dinner. Go to a nice quiet restaurant where the two of you can just sit and talk. Once there, stay positive and talk about the great times the two of you have had sexually! Talk about what you used to do together when you first met, just after the two of you were married and talk about any sexual fantasies either of you may have or have had that you haven't tried. Once home, slowly remove all of his clothes and have him lay on the bed while you remove yours. Then lay down next to him and start to relive some of those things you talked about at dinner. You have just fallen into a rut and it can take some effort but you can find your libido again. It's still there, you just have to remember to let it come out once in a while.
Good luck
2006-07-24 11:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons for drop in libido. Being tired and having things on your mind are two of the most common. You need some down time, I'd say. And time to yourself. Then you will rejeuvenate and be able to give yourself to your spouse. Also, medications, hormone levels, and diet can affect libido. You didn't say if you were on medication or how old you are. If there are stressors like financial problems, then that can do it for a woman. Take a look at some of these causes and see if any of them apply to you. Then work on them a little at a time and be good to yourself. It may take a little time, but if you want to want your partner, it will be worth it and it will work out. Good luck!
2006-07-24 11:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u can go seek medical advice and see if theres anything they can give u to help with the situation, u can try to spice things up to make u crave it more.. but u must remember that just because your libido has decreased your spouse may not of , and they do need to have that in their relationship with you, so you should try very hard to fix this problem so that it doesnt become an issue in your marriage.. and giving love, and showing love, should never feel like a chore.. so u do need to figure out and fix whats going on..
2006-07-24 11:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is that kind of attitude that has gotten you in this situation...it can be so easily done to take care of your family for years and years and not yourself...but when you get to the point that you don't care anymore...its time to put your foot down and let them know you need attention too...it doesn't always come naturally...so your generous nature needs to be put on the shelf and allow others to take of the emotional and physical slack that has taken its toll on your libido over the years...good luck...I hope you get the love back you have given to by the amount of family you have cared for over the years..
2006-07-24 11:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married longer and know exactly what you mean! You are right there are much more importants things that need doing if you want to survive in this crazy expensive world we live in! So don't feel bad cause sex isn't everything. I'm sorry to say I don't have answer other than to let you know you're not the only one!
2006-07-24 11:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a hassle? "So many other things to do..." What could be more important than intimate time with your spouse? I'm sure HE doesnt' feel the same way.
You should probably speak to a therapist or a doctor.
2006-07-24 11:15:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your just not into him some husbands make it feel like a chore and it doesnt feel romantic anymore and it not you I think many women go through this thinking of all we have to do we just have alot on our plates men are such pain in the buts when it comes to that ,however your stress levels are just high relax you guy need some alone time no phones,kids
2006-07-24 11:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Re-prioritize
2006-07-24 12:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by therandman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!
I don't have that problem, but I do know people that do. See a doc, get your meds, all will be "right as rain". Be spontaneous with your husband. It's a turn on that works. Good luck.
2006-07-24 11:51:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋