A woman has the right to choose an abortion but....?

Question

shouldn't the father of the child have a say so. I know there are alot of dead beat guys out there but most are not
if a women makes a choice to abort and what about the father and also if she sneeks off and does it anyway how is that right? should there be a father of child block on the form or something
i know my opinion what is yours. serious answers only i love smart as-s remarks but i want true thoughts please

wow for the first 5 question i though i was in a witch trail but the last half was really good answers. one comment i would like to make to the "pain of childbirth"and other crap is that the only thing that supports yall's opinion she carries it her baby wow yall are missing the question or maybe i am their must be alot of virgn mary's out there so i say boo people who answer that way your avoided the real question so ill spell it out in simple terms in a country of equal rights too all shouldn't it be the father's choice too it took two to tango like i said unless your another virgin mary lol

hey dark king what the hell are you talking about .ooooo1 and 1 and 1/2 and e=mc2 you over thinked the question let me explain pee pee in woo = pregnate she not want but he want don't he have right lol

well the more i read these answers the sicker i get. thank you dark for pointing out why i try not to talk to people that are not from the south but you know all the numbers and all it proved you have too much time on your hands to find out pointless facts but your hillbilly redneck junk is what it is junk dude i'm proud to be a hillbilly redneck and from the south maybe you should visit sometime we take life is alot layed back down here and with the pointless numbers you need a break

Answer 1

I somewhat agree with you on this. But in the end, it's the woman who has to carry the kid for 9 months and then give birth to it. I think it is the woman's choice in the end. And if she and the baby's father have a close relationship, they should definately talk it over before she goes and "sneeks off" to have the abortion.

Answer 2

I absolutely think the father should have some say, but it all depends on the situation. It would be difficult to insist on paternal consent, as there are some cases (like rape) where the father won't, and probably shouldn't, ever know anything about it. Can you imagine a rapist trying to force the mother to have their child?

In the end, though, it is the mother who has to go through it physically and it may not be something that she feels she can handle. (In that case, it shouldn't have happened to begin with...but things don't always go as planned.) It is a very difficult situation. Morally, the mother, in many cases, should feel obligated to consult the father, though good morals should govern that. It's just too difficult of a situation to try to lay down rules.

I think that, if you do not want to be a parent, you should not be a parent, even if the father does. There are enough people out there having kids who shouldn't be. You should never bring a child into this world if you do not want to. I think that even overrules the father's desire to raise the child alone. But still, it's a tough call.

Answer 3

I think it is a decision that should be made by both partners.

If the woman does not want the baby and the man does, he should be willing to take full responsibility for his child, ie: she goes through the pregnancy and he takes full custody of the child from the day he/she is born. Amazing though that I have never met a man raising his newborn on his own but I have met MANY woman raising children on their own.

If she goes along and gets an abortion without letting the partner, well that's just a sad situation. Very little trust or understanding between the two parties. At the same time each situation and circumstance is very different. There was a case is South Africa where a guy sued his ex girlfriend for putting their daughter up for adoption without his consent, unfortunately in some instances we live in a backward society because he lost his case.

Answer 4

Well I believe the father should have a say in abortion itself.Without the father's sperm there would not be a baby growing in there and at the same time without the mother's egg it will not work as well.I think the Dr whose doing the abortion must ask the women with her husband or with the person whose responsible for the pregnancy.She has to ask consent from both parties before getting to the abortion.Its not right for a women to sneek out and do abortion.Its totally wrong.I m against this.Pls respect the other partner he might want the child,you will never know.

Answer 5

If nature intended the father to have a say then nature would have given men some other form of reproductive organ. A man in his lifetime produces billions of sperm cells. Literally billions of billions. Average volume of semen per ejaculation: 2 to 6 ml (0.41 to 1.22 US teaspoons). Average number of times a man will ejaculate in his lifetime: 5,000 which gives the total lifetime ejaculate: 17 liters or 18 quarts. Average number of sperm cells in the ejaculate of a healthy man: 40 million to 600 million.
So for the low count there are at least 200 billion sperms ejaculated by the man. For the high count it could be 3 trillion sperms.
A woman is born with about 400 ova.
So if you go by sheer numbers your opinion should have a weight of minimum 0.13 billionth to a maximum 2.0 billionth.
The first number is 0.000000000013 and the second number is 0.00000002.
that is not taking into account that the woman has to bear the child for 9 months before it is born. That should introduce an additional weight into her decision. In short, the man's opinion matters 1 part in billions.

After re-reading the question and the asker's comments, I come to the conclusion that the asker is a southern redneck hillbilly... and his computer should be taken away immediately.
Jesus H Christ. And I thought I could tell him some interesting facts.

Answer 6

It seems reasonable to me that the prospective mother to prospective father discussions have already taken place long before the woman presents herself at the doctor's office.

If the wear and tear on the father's body was comparable to what the mother can expect, I might be more sympathetic; or, if the appearance of an unwanted child had any inescapable effects on the father, I would also be more sympathetic.

Look, no one wants to have an abortion. No one does it for fun, or as primary birth control (in the U.S., anyway). It's a last-ditch gesture, and tying it up in the courts over what he *promises* he's *going* to do is pretty much a waste of time and (the taxpayers', who elses) money.

My bottom-line advice: guys, if you want a say in your children's lives, even their existence, is, marry the woman FIRST. Build trust FIRST. Exhibit reliability and love FIRST.

Here endeth today's Lesson.

Answer 7

No way! It's HER body. She shouldn't have to tell the man ANYTHING. Of course it would be nice for the couple to discuss the issue but in the end it is her decision and ONLY her decision. You can not force a woman to carry a child for nine months. You can not force her to go through 9 months of EMOTIONAL and PHYSICAL discomfort. Why the hell would somebody want to have a child that they can't support? That is SICK! The world is already over populated. Abortion is NOT wrong. Abortion is NOT murder. How is it murder if the fetus can't feel a thing?

Answer 8

I do think that it is totally wrong to abort if the father does not know or if the mother does it without consent. I think it should be a mutual agreement but for some reason women like that think it is thier decision when in reality it isnt. I would be pissed, but what can you do? There really does need to be something for father's rights that would protect the unborn child agianst the wicked mother! Good Question!

Answer 9

A woman has the right to decide for herself on her life choices but sneaking off is not good....If men had children too there would either be twice as many people on earth or we would be near extention,,,men are babies when it comes to pain but in a utopia the men should have the first child and the woman second,,,put the shoe on the other foot how would we as women feel if men did this if the man was pregnant and decided not to go thru with it?

Answer 10

Well, I agree that if the laws regarding child support and custody are to continue to be biased AGAINST men, (as they are now), men should have the right to choose to continue the pregnancy too and not have an abortion. Seeing how society says that woman don't have kids, but the couple has kids, then switch the issue when it comes to abortion. Then it's women who are having the pregnancy and it's their choice because they are the ones suffering for the next 10 months.... And because it was their choice, a man might have to spend the next 20 years paying child support..hmm, 10 months or 20 years..... But he has no say in it. I agree with you. Now, I am TOTALLY PRO CHOICE!!! Don't think I'm not. But this is a complicated issue and one not really brought up, as it hinders our efforts to continue saving this right to choose.

Answer 11

While ideally a woman would discuss the situation with her partner and come to a mutual conclusion about the situation, ultimately it still is, and should be, left up to the woman. Though the father certainly bears responsibility for the child's creation, it is not him who has to go through the nine months of pregnancy and the labor, and many girls find themselves under enough pressure to choose one option over another, from family, friends, and their partner, without turning things into a legal battle.