I will ask his honest opinion about something that involves both of us as partners ! He'll wimp out & say "whatever you think"...THEN like a week later (like this morning) he'll give me his honest opinion AFTER it's too late & I needed it a week ago before I did something !! I sell a lot of stuff on eBay & I asked him last week about some things I was listing, what he thought & price & if he thought it was something good to list, he said "whatever you want to do". So I spent the time taking the digital photo's go through all the downloading crap & spending the listing fee's & I have to do all the work, this morning at breakfast he says to me "I don't think things like that sell very good on eBay" !!!!!! A lousy, f...... week later !! Then he wimps out & says "well, I wasn't sure & well, blah, blah, blah.." BUT I needed that opinion BEFORE I did all the work ! He's always like this, it's like if it fails it can be all my fault. He REALLY pisses me off !!
2006-07-24 03:28:23 · 17 answers · asked by day by day 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To Rickymc..typical male answer.
To Goodspeed don't assume, all of the stuff HE wants me to sell is his ******* junk ! You asshole !!
2006-07-24 03:48:17 · update #1
Selling eBay was ALL his idea to make some extra money, I'm doing it FOR HIM !
Hey, "Nightwish" don't be so male oriented in responding to questions asshole !
2006-07-24 05:25:55 · update #2
He may be one of those people that need time to process things. I don't think he's trying to make you mad. Next time, give him some time to think about whatever you've asked and see if that helps.
2006-07-24 03:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married a guy who doesn't communicate well - but you knew that already.
He probably just said "whatever" because he's not interested in doing all the Ebay work, and he knows that's your thing. Then, after thinking about it...he thought his stuff might not sell.
Instead of being so whiny, just say "well I guess we'll see..."
And yes, I get that his response does not make you feel appreciated...but he probably doesn't see Ebay selling the same way you do.
Men are from Mars...women are from Venus...pick your battles
2006-07-24 12:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men have been systematically emasculated by media and modern society since the mid '70s. By watching TV, men have learned that any man who puts in his two cents on an issue with a woman is sure to lose, and be humiliated in the process. Think about it. When was the last time you saw an argumentative woman get her comeuppance from a man? It never happens. The result is that women have become very opinionated, and men have decided that it's "easier" to just let the woman have her way.
I personally think it's a recipe for disaster, but men can't argue like women can. Apart from societal scorn for doing so, they might evern get locked up.
It's safer to say I told you so.
2006-07-24 10:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why do you need reasurance???? Its YOUR business or stuff your selling, you know what price you want for your items. I think your looking for reasurance because your insecure about your desicisons....Men don't care much about that, and he was telling you that it was YOUR thing and your project. I think he wants you to be sure about youself and desicisions....that's why he said whatever you want. I think that if you would have TOLD him what you priced your things at, instead of asking for his clearance he would not have come back to you the way he did. Be more confident in yourself, because if you need his reasurance this is an easy in way for a guy to start controling you, he will see that you need him for reasurance and he can more influence on what you do. Don't let that happen, and he realised what I am telling you later and tried to get his thought in. Be confidnent and tell him what you do or did, he will add his comments if he wants, but just feel secure and confident in your own descisions.
2006-07-24 10:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by dlmvm0612 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he loves you, and so instead of really telling the truth of the matter he simply avoids confrontation and says "what ever you think", which by the way is thee statement to say when the truth is really an argument waiting to happen, example, he probably wanted to say you spend way to much of his hard earned money to buy junk time after time and now your trying to pawn it off on someone else and its costing you to sell it too!...but instead he says what he says because he loves you and he still pisses you off...I think there is a word for a person that reacts in such a way...but I'll just allow you to guess what that might be......"whatever you think".
2006-07-24 10:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men dont always tell you what you want to hear because they are afraid of making you mad. I was in a relationship and would ask him a question and he would say what ever you think. i would not have ask the question in the first place if i didnt want to know what he thought of it. They want you to make the decisions and then if it is not what they like they sulk up about it, do them the same way and when they ask why you are upset about what they have choosen then tell them that you are just acting like him and now he knows how it feels.
2006-07-24 10:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by patricia m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a really indecisive person, and for a man to be that way is definitely not healthy or attractive... was he always like this? if so, then you can't blame him for being this way now... BUT since you two are married you should have a talk with him about how his indecisiveness is not helpful to you -remember, accusing and yelling are not going to get your point across- and if he doesn't understand or care, then you should go to marriage counseling... are you the dominant one in the relationship? he might feel threatened by your ability to accomplish certain tasks so efficiently... guys have really sensitive egos... anyway, i don't know your situation completely, but i wish you luck...
2006-07-24 11:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by constanze_mylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just saying whatever comes into his head. Like maybe he's tired and staring and thinking something and just says it innocently.
Maybe he trusts your judgement and so he goes along with what you think will work but then sometimes he has thoughts and just mentions them, not thinking it will matter at all anyway. I have been known to do that myself.
2006-07-24 10:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you ***** alot . If he had told you what he though you would have bitched then. You were probably going to list the items no matter what he said. This is a viscous cycle. You are both adding fuel to the fire,
2006-07-24 10:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop asking for his opinion and start thinking for yourself. Otherwise you are not going to have confidence in your abilities. Prove him wrong!! Do what you think is right. If it is your project and it doesn't have a major impact on your relationship, does it really matter what he thinks?? Good luck
2006-07-24 10:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋