not sure why?

Question

when my husband get to a certant level of his drinking he treats me like crap. im a happy person when i drink .he only treats my bad. any one know why

Answer 1

Alcohol affects different people in different ways. I'm like you, I'm a "happy" drunk. But I have a friend who gets depressed and cries when she drinks (not fun to be around) and another who gets mean and looks for fights when she drinks (even less fun to be around).

Answer 2

Everyone's body chemistry is different. With your husband, and people like him, his chemistry sees the alcohol as a poison, as such, certain septors of his body shut down, leaving an inbalance in his chemistry, hence, the ugly attitude.
Another factor is if your husband is a negative person that may have to fake a positive attitude, or perhaps he is just not happy with something in his life.
All of these factors contribute to someone that drinks. They are not necessarily alcoholics, just unhappy or have a negative attitude.
You have to be the judge of that and act accordingly.
I would suggest less drinking and more activities that do not involve alcohol.

Answer 3

He should stop before he gets that way and you should let him know that if he does not remember. This needs to be discussed when he is not drinking. When people drink they all respond differently to alcohol. Remember that alcohol is a drug. Some people are nice and some are mean. It doesn't mean they are mean in real life , just the effect of the drug on the body. If you explain this to him in a normal conversation with just you and him, hopefully he will understand and not get to that point next time he drinks. Good luck.

Answer 4

Sorry to hear that. People just react differently to alcohol. Some people think that the facade drops when people drink. That would say that you are a pretty happy person. On the other hand, that would suggest that you husband has some underlying animosity, anger, etc. Or maybe, that's just what the booze does to him.

Answer 5

Probably because he has had too much to drink. If it ever gets violent you need to step up and make him stop or leave. Never accept violent behavior just because he is drinking, it can lead to more abuse even when he is not drinking. Otherwise, just call him on it when he is sober and tell him you do not appreciate being treated in that manner.

Answer 6

This is very very common. Alot of people get angry and hateful after drinking. I don't know why. I myself get more loving and honest. I would watch myself b/c if he is verbally abusive then it is only a matter of time before he is physically abusive. I would say 95% of abuse by husbands have alcohol involved in the equation. Don't think you can change his drinking mood. The only thing is for him to not drink and that is very difficult in itsef.

Answer 7

From my observations Drunks react in different ways. There is the Mean Drink (your husband) happy drunk (you) sleepy or quite drunk the careless drunk. I think there must be reasons why the reaction to drinking is so different. I wish I knew. I would be rich.

Answer 8

Because some people are happy drunks, and the others are angry drunks. My families are different, one can handle drinks without a problem, the other can't.

Answer 9

Get out of the house when he is drinking and tell him you won't accept that behavior...he will soon drag your happiness down. I have been there and it really feels awful. Seriously you need to do something about it to save your marriage and act now.

Answer 10

Same thing I used to do. The older I got, the more regrets I've had about the things I've done. Drinking only made them worse. Is there something unresolved in his past?