WE have been married 6 years and have a 3 year old son I want another child he on the othr hand doesn't .. would it be wrong to stop taking my birth control and get pregnant without his consent?
2006-07-24 03:18:27 · 27 answers · asked by JeNe 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Yes that is really wrong. You should really be happy about the family you have now and don't mess up your relationship. Maybe eventually he'll come around and want another child. I think in the meantime you should talk about it once in awhile and see where that might lead to.
2006-07-24 03:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by kittlesworth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would, that is called cheating. My husband and I have been married for 6.5 years and I always wanted a baby ever since we had been married for 3 years, he didn't want one though. I knew he trusted me, that is why I just couldn't cheat. I thought about it many many times in my desperation for wanting to have a baby but I knew I was going to be miserable and i was going to live with that secret the rest of my life. It is wrong and it would be a bretayal for you to do that against your husband's will. A baby should be a two way decision. Whenever I thought my husband was never going to want to have a baby, he suggested it! now I am 12 weeks pregnant and we are BOTH very happy, I am 29 yo and I don't feel old at all, I am just happy. Think about it and for the time being, keep enjoying your 3 year old. My mom had 3 kids my sister me and 14 years later my brother! it is never late for that, but I think it is a decision that concerns you and your husband, do it right.
2006-07-24 03:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would. Having children is something a couple does together...you could end up ruining your marriage and making your husband responsible for paying child support for a baby he didn't want in the first place (kinda crummy thing to do).
Don't be deceitful. This is too serious of an issue for you to insist on getting what you want...there's another life at stake here, it's not like you're going out and buying a car your hubby doesn't want you to have.
If you are determined to have more kids, and he's dead set against it, then the two of you may need to part ways as you're not a good match and no one should be forced to support or raise children that were "snuck" upon them...it would be different if you two were being irresponsible with regard to birth control...
Think of it this way...if the roles were reversed, would you want it done to you? Treat others as you'd like to be treated...few of us like someone tricking us, and trying to force us to accept something we know we do not desire. Unkewl...
2006-07-24 03:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How will it affect the child if your husband doesn't want it? I understand wanting to have a baby... but if you should take the child's welfare into account here. A marriage should be a partnership, decisions that will affect your entire family should not be made unilaterally.
So in short... in my belief it would be wrong.
2006-07-24 03:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it. If he loves you, and loves your child - he'll come around. There's always a thing like oopsie, I had a cold. Or oopsie, maybe I forgot a day or two. So what!
After having my first, who was close to 10 lbs, I swore I never wanted another baby. But, now pregnant with my 6th & 7th...but hey, who's counting!
2006-07-24 15:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that would be sneaky, underhanded and down right stupid. Do you want to have this child and then have him resented by your husband. Besides I think your husband would figure it out eventually and then what would he think of you. Think before you act. Don't make a mistake. A child should be brought into this world by two parents and loved by both.
2006-07-24 03:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i does no longer tell. a chum of mine did a similar component and had slightly female. She's by no skill advised her husband (that i be conscious of of) and has no plans on doing so. Her husband wasn't inevitably disillusioned, yet replaced right into slightly curious as to how that ought to've occurred. some issues are greater effective left unsaid b/c then it messes w/ the whole have faith difficulty and marriages CAN destroy aside b/c of that. He won't be conscious of what she has or hasn't lied approximately. p.c.. your battles!
2016-12-10 13:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decieve your husband and he finds out he may never forgive you and your marriage could be over for good, do you really want to put that on a child? Talk to him and see if he will go to counseling with you and then maybe yous can find a compromise.
2006-07-24 03:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by Shelby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes cause your husband could hold bad feelings against the new baby and you and that just wouldn't be good for your marriage or your other child.
2006-07-24 03:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by shadie_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be horrible. No one should ever be a parent if they do not want to.
You could pretty much kiss your marriage goodbye, at least on any meaningful level. If it is that important to you, you're in the wrong relationship.
2006-07-24 04:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋