How can someone obtain inner peace after emotional and physical trauma?

Question

Lets say a child doesn't get the proper guidance and nurturing during the developing stages in life topped with intense physical trauma at an early age, how could he/she go about undoing the damage. I.E. low self esteem, confidence , self image, . Lack of lust for life. Inability to make solid connections with other poeple to make and maintain healthy friendships and relationships.

Answer 1

That is a very hard question to answer in a forum such as this. The unfortunate thing is that so many of our youth slip through the cracks after they have been traumatized. We chalk it up to a bad seed and move on and that is so terrible. The scary thing is that the child has about a 50/50 chance of maintaining a normal life if he or she does not receive the proper rearing as a child. I personally have suffered from low self-esteem all my life. I am now 30 and I still suffer from it, but I have not let it ruin my life. That is the main thing. At some point, the individual must want to improve their life and find a way to cope with the feelings that they have inside them. That can be through therapy or medication, but I tend to believe that is an easy way out and really just puts a Band-Aid on a bullet wound. The best way is to find outlets in their lives that allow them to express themselves and communicate their emotions. Bottling it up inside is disasterous and can lead to bigger problems later. There is no real answer to your question and everyone is different. But yes...there is hope and through the corect regimen, it is possible to overcome these tragedies...

Answer 2

My suggestion is geared toward the teen or adult who has been been thru trauma as a child and is trying to grow from it.
Personally, I've been through some thingz and I feel that it REEEEEEALLY helpz to stay around good, well-grounded people. And when I say "good" I don't mean it in a judgmental sense. I'm talking about people who have your best interest at heart, people who will tell you, " It WASN'T your fault!", people who are happy to see you grow into a better person and DEFINITELY people who won't encourage to do 'negative and empty thingz' to 'ease the pain'.
Also, whenever you see someone who is sooooooooo happy and full of life that you can feel their great-glowing energy, pay attention to them and the thingz they do or talk to them to find out what makes them so happy. Read good positive literature that can help inspire you. You may also wanna find a good counselor. I find watching Oprah helps, too!
Except for the counseling, I've tried EVERYTHING that I've suggested to you and they DO work! Even though it'z a slow process, I feel that if you incorporate GOOD thingz (people, habitz, behaviorz, food,etc.) into your life, nothing but GOOD can come from it. You eventually begin to have a different outlook on life and everything else rises from there!
God Bless EVERYONE who's goin thru somethin...
'cause it'z tough out there!!!
Peace.

Answer 3

I think sports have some therapeutic value. A person learns that they can do things, and that others admire the accomplishment. The physical activity is good for the body and it gives the mind focus beyond past problems. Its just a question of finding the right sport and there are many to chose from--team sports like baseball or football, individual sports like track or swimming, and even less physically active sports like golf or bowling. Also sports like skateboarding or surfing.

Answer 4

help them to understand that what others do to them is not their fault. Others actions are out of their control, and what someone else does is that persons problem..not the person taking taking the damage. When one can understand that...they will be free from "thinking that it is their fault".... I went thru emotional trauma growing up..and I took classes at an education center..and it changed my life... I learned that I am only responsible for my actions... we put meaning behind so much..and it blinds us from what is real.... if interested... look at website for landmarkeducation.com....its awesome..better than any therapy around...trust me..

Answer 5

All peace is inner peace. What are you speaking approximately? not something brings it to you. you opt for it or you do not. Peace comes from the interior and is going to the exterior. it particularly is not something available in the international which you will placed interior your self. you don't get inner peace from issues in the exterior international. you're making the choice to sense non violent approximately issues in the exterior international. If this weren't the case, all wars on earth might have ended hundreds of years in the past. we ought to in elementary terms magically produce the majestic peace making merchandise and anybody might unexpectedly substitute into non violent. It would not ensue like that. not something will make you non violent yet you.

Answer 6

They can't. They are messed up and someday they could look forward to spending the rest of their life in jail for either committing rape, armed robbery or murder. This is why women should not have kids if they don't have a husband and each parent is making decent money, otherwise society would go to hell because we are all innately evil.

Answer 7

Yes, that's me all right. Well then, the way I did it was by forgiving everyone then letting it go. Now I'm free. It sounds simple but it took decades. You really have to want to get out of that box to succeed at this, if your there that is. God do I hope your not, I wouldn't want anyone to go through this; but if you are then take heart; I got out just the way I scripted and now I'm doing just fine. Good luck either way and thanks for the question.

Answer 8

I can relate to most of what your asking. I have supressed my feeling for about 47 yrs. It was driving me crazy. The thing is I felt crazy, misunderstood, I could go on and on. But what worked for me. I went to my church and talked to the Rev. wife. I then go help with a theraopist and solved alot of how I felt, It wasnt easy. I also had asked God to help me. He did. Seek help and be honest about every thing.I no it seems impossible, but one can over come the pain.
I hoped this may have given you some insight on what to do.
It's a shame the life can be cruel, but God is with him now and always has been. It' hard to ask for help, But that is the first step to long over due life of hurt. God bless you and your family
good luck on this journey to a healthier state of mind.

Answer 9

you have to be your own person....there is no reason to live life unhappy ....you make your own path...i had a pretty bad childhood but i think that if i change then the endless cycle will end with me....that gives me my drive to make myself a better person and to prove people wrong....so far it has worked and i am happy ....good luck to you and i hope that everything works out!

Answer 10

accept what has happened and learn from the incident is all needed and we are all able to do this do not analyze it just accept it. no need for blame