explain how. i am not talking about the kids you might have as a result of the marriage but the actual marriage itself.
my wife gives me nothing but constant aggravation. is this just my bad luck or is this just the way it is all the time?
2006-07-24 03:11:06 · 7 answers · asked by jeremy k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it is. My wife is the only person besides me who knows me completely, as she claims I know her.
Though aggravations are common in most marriages, they are there some of the time, not all the time, and what you construe as aggro, may not be so intended, maybe your wife means well? I sometimes feel like you, but when I look back at my wife's intentions, I generally end up foolish if I have reacted unpleasantly before understanding what she means. Incidentally it works both ways, my wife sometimes does agree that my intentions were good.
Understand each other, and then probably you'll not see innocent actions as aggro.
All the best!
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2006-07-24 03:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by Starreply 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Seems like everyone agrees that it's ok for your woman to be a constant aggravation! Maybe you're a real screw up and deserve it -- just damn lucky to have anyone sleeping with you on a regular basis, and the complaining is part of the package.
OR - guys buy that load of crap so the women keep selling it! I don't need constant butt kissing just to keep from getting my lip turned down - why should I put up with someone who does?
I'm not saying you should get divorced or anything drastic, but if this kind of activity started up after you got married and not before, you really need to figure out a way to discuss the problem calmly. But I disagree with just about everyone else -- accepting it as 'that's just the way women are' is not an option.
2006-07-24 11:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by tirelesstraveller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but my husband and I have been marrried for 8 years and there are times when I bug him. It is a woman thing. We like to talk about stuff. And the talking usually leads to an annoying argument. Women can be stupid because we let things bother us like other women and the things men do. We want everything whether it is clothes, new car, etc. And if we don't get it then we complain and usually cause arguments.
If you love her then you're stuck with the annoying aggravation...every woman is like that.
2006-07-24 10:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i know i am not a guy, but my husband and i have been together 12 years, married for 6. everytime i do something, like say taking the car in to get repaired, something he would normally do he always tells me that he's so lucky and if it's humanly possible he loves me even more.....i truly believe that he really really appreciates me. he very rarely says mean things to me,and when he does they are so mild compared to what i know other couples say to eachother in anger. we are both very much in love still. people have funny ways sometimes of showing their feelings. maybe your wife is going through a phase, maybe she nags you and such b/c that's her way of trying to get you to be a better husband, maybe that she doesn't want to have to actually say the words so she tries to encourage you (which just comes off as nagging). or ofcourse there is the reality that maybe you guys have to work more on your communication or intimacy. best of luck whatever you do.
2006-07-24 10:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I feel that I would have been better off staying single. I love my son to death, but sometimes my wife just drives me crazy, and it is over the stupidist things. I always get a comment when I am driving "to fast, slow down, watch what your doing". The funny thing is I pay more attention to the road than her when I am driving. It is just crazy. It is just how it is my friend. So if your looking to get out, then get out or just live with it.
2006-07-24 10:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by Shocker3:16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate...it is so normal it is almost abnormal. Trust me wifes are all basically the same, they are funny / strange creatures. All I want is for my wife to be happy, but als, i truly believe that they do not know how to be happy, they always manage to find fault with something. Just learn to live with it!
2006-07-24 10:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by aussiebloke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, so here goes................I'm married for the past 2.5 yrs, having been divorced for 14 years prior. My wife is 50, I'm 58, she is Chinese and I'm Caucasian. I have to say that I'm VERY VERY LUCKY to have found her at this time in my life!
I'm not sure if it's because of our cultures' being different, or that at this age I've matured, or slowed down :), but I've never been happier!
2006-07-24 10:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by ecodave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋