i know a guy who treats me with tender n' says i'm in his heart but when i tried to know if he really loves me he said no ur just best friend for me...i dunno waht to do in fact i don't love him but i loved his concern n' truly i need to b loved by someone i like no matter who!!! what can i do to get rid of this feeling. help plz
2006-07-24 02:48:42 · 10 answers · asked by fluer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you need to be loved by someone, then you are. He cares about you alot, obviously. Men and women can be best friends and not be "in love" with each other. Enjoy his company, but remember to leave your options open since he is only a friend.
2006-07-24 02:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by cutesquaw69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question: Are we just really good friends, or could he be using me as a fill in for when he doesn't have a girlfriend? Most guys do have a female friend that they use in this way. But as soon as the girl mentions having feelings of more than just friendship, the guy starts saying "Nooooooooooo, I don't feel that way". Or it could just be that he's confused about his own feelings. Just back off and enjoy the friendship. If you're meant to be a couple, in time you will be. If not, then you've still got your friend. What's worse? To not have him as a boyfriend or not have him for a friend at all? Ask yourself that question and give it some SERIOUS thought and go from there. But I would just be patient....................
2006-07-24 02:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ken'sBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are starving for some kind of affection. The problem is you don't like yourself enough yet. Start doing things on your own - get busy - plan your life out - have direction. Once you know who YOU are then you will know if a guy is really "the one" --- you have to love yourself before another person can love you the way you truly need it.
2006-07-24 02:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a desperate need for attention, unwanted (bad) or wanted(good) ... it doesn't seem to matter to you..
Possibly, and usually stemming from abuse as a child (either neglect, apathy, or even sexual or physical abuse)..
you MUST tread carefully, learn to read people and educate yourself as the the TYPES of people that exist in this world, this way you will be able to say "he's a dominant aggressive abusive type... I am going to avoid him" or "he is a sensitive man with an innate gentleness, I am going to go for him"... become a judge of character.
If you dont, if you just go for the first guy who pays you attention, then I will probably end up seeing you in some XXX movie... those girls are EXACTLY the type that you sound like.. desperate for any type of attention whatsoever...
2006-07-24 02:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Peter Griffin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get out and meet people. Don't settle for anything less than a guy who loves you and treats you like a Queen.
2006-07-24 02:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by Milkman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him you two will not be for longer.because he treats you with tender n say Ur in his heart and really say is best friend. that mean he will not be love you longer. coz you don't catch him back.you need to catch him back with love. coz love is very strong rope.can't cut with any knife.but if you don't tie yourself and him with love that will not be long.coz it easy to untie.
2006-07-24 02:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb he's just playing with ur feelings.
and dont rush there will come the time when u love and be loved.
2006-07-24 02:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by Musty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him n move on
2006-07-24 02:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by la_chica716 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he says he loves you and your not married,dating,ect. then leave him alone!!!!!
2006-07-24 02:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by kittyluva911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get Trojan condoms
2006-07-24 02:51:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋