i often fantasize about how great it would be to single and spend my money on whatever i want rather than what

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she wants. spending my paycheck on things like big screen televisions, fishing trips, a sports car, etc. i also imagine myself doing things that single guys do like going out whenever you want, not having to answer to anyone, watching tons of sports and not getting grief over it. do other guys think like this as well? just seems like the life of a single bachelor is really a beautiful one.

Answer 1

Remember that the grass is always greener on the other side. There are a lot of bachelor men out there who are wishing that they could be married and have a partner in life. The fact of the matter is that you have to be happy with what you have and if you aren't, then you might want to consider separating for a while to find out what you truly want. To stay in a relationship when you are not happy is not fair to you nor to your partner. If you really want to be somewhere else then do everyone a favor and take a break. But remember that it may not be as wonderful as you think it will be....

Answer 2

Wow. Hope that your wife or your girlfriend does not read this or you will probably be single. You can find a compromise, why should you not be able to enjoy the things that you like because you have someone. You can tell her that you do not want to buy her whatever it is because once a month or whatever you are going to buy yourself something that you enjoy. I just do not see why people think that when you have a husband or steady boyfriend or whatever that means the end of your own personal life. That does not mean that the lives that the two of you had before one another should no longer exist it just means that it is altered a bit. It is important for the both of you to take part in what each other is interested in and maintain interest in your own personal likes. I hope that made sense. But keep in mind that the grass is always greener on the other side.

Answer 3

properly in certainty is that each and every guy has there want to be unmarried and they aleways fantisize about it yet they under no circumstances do some thing about it. yet the undesirable part is is that the single existence might want to be outstanding yet you may want to get lonely. so there's a sturdy part and a foul part to it. My suggestion is is once you've a GF or you're married then only ask her if once a week you and also you're guy acquaintances might want to party only you and them. about the money aspect however youmight attempt to positioned only particularly of money off to the part for a present for her eveny each and every now and then. Say that you get a 100 and fifty funds at you're pastime only keep the single hundred for you and set the 50 off to the part for her or perchance only 25 funds.

Answer 4

We all have had that thought at one time or another. The way my wife and I dealt with it was we have a household account for all our bills. Then we each have a account for what ever we want to spend it on. We each get an allowance that goes into our accounts. This work great for holidays and b-days don't have to worry about each other getting a clue of what type of gift we are giving. As for the single life think about all the memories you have with your wife. Singles don't have that.

Answer 5

IF you have kids... its only a fantasy...
IF NOT, I suggest starting a savings account in your own name (assuming you have a joint one now) put some in it each week, and by the month's end, you should have enough for little toys for yourself... if you want something big, wait a few months before touching the loot... she wont argue, as long as the bills are all paid.

OR, TALK to her, if you are married, try to work it out, if you are not.... maybe you should begin to see she isnt RIGHT for you, there are actually women out there who DONT want kids, LIKE to take Fishing trips and fast cars, and LOVE having Girl time, just like you love Guy time....

Answer 6

This seems like the ideal life, but it would only feel like that for a while. The good feeling would eventually die down and you would be missing a woman. It's good while it lasts, but remember variety is the spice of life. If you feel like you're in a rut maybe you should talk to your girl and do things differently for about a month or so. It would make her want you and you want her after that month.

Answer 7

i think you are basically dreaming about a life of decadence! You are married. You made the decision and when we decide on something, we surrender something else. You can still have fun, but need to talk and negotiate w/your wife. A responsible life entails accountability and something good that you can say you have accomplished. No one says on their death bed, "I wish I could have partied more..." Love is the only real thing

Answer 8

lol...

I feel your pain bro. My wife and 3 year old son went on vacation to Mexico to see her family, and I have never been so liberated in all my 8 months of marraige. I love it! *cartwheel*

All I can say is MAKE time for you and your friends - without her. It is not healthy to be so involved in any relationship. You are within your right to have a boys night out - I suggest you keep in your with your guy friends, and force yourself to go out once a week with them. 1 night for sports, 1 night for male bonding.

2 nights out of 7 is fair...maybe once a week, and 2 the next week.

Answer 9

Its called being a man and having responsiblities .You need to grow up kid!!Hell id like to lay on the beach all day and never work or have to worry about cleaning house or taking care of kids but o well thats life and its called growing up,if you dont like it you should of never gotten married!!You are a looser,and i hate it for your wife!!

Answer 10

I guess I am lucky. I am married to a wonderful woman who lets me do all you mentioned. We are also the happiest married couple in the world - at least that is what we think.