Tired of the place you live, no full time job. Moving is an option but the thought of being lonely in a new place scares me. I only know one person there but he's nice and with time something more might develop. I would also have to find work and live in rented accomodation. Help!
2006-07-24 02:08:26 · 15 answers · asked by Am I bovered? 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Join a church, join a gym, join a club, make new friends, volunteer for a non-profit organization (a position that deals with people) and do something out of the ordinary. You can move, but you take yourself with you. Try to be happy where you are and then you can most likely be happy anywhere. Best wishes.
2006-07-24 02:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by E Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go on the assumption that a love interest might develop. Most likely you will be stuck in the same rut where you are now at the new place. If you are serious about moving to a new place, research the area for the average amount of pay and living costs. Then think about going to school to further your career. There are places that if you don't have your high school diploma, can help you achieve that goal. There are places that also offer financial aid and you can always get student loans. You can also find a place that has a room for rent. For now save up all the money you can for first month rent, deposit, gas money, hygiene products, etc. I would estimate about $1500 to get you started. Wal-mart is always hiring.
2006-07-24 09:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by theredheadedmonster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time to really figure out what you want. What kind of job, what kind of place to live, how you would meet new people if you did move. Only then, when you have figured where you want to go, can you go there. However, I don't advise moving for a man, not without good reason and something a little more permanent. Lots of people move to new places, new countries even and have no friends to start off with, but they settle and make new ones. Think on it, take a break, go on holiday, or go and stay with this friend and see what you think of the place, you may even meet new people during your visit, you can also check out any accommodation. If he isn't keen on the idea of a visit, then he won't be much in the way of support if you do move there.
2006-07-24 09:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by Tefi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont sound like you have anything tying you down, so I think that the best thing to do would be to pack up all your belongings, put them in storage, and travel around a bit....get a work visa for a foreign country, just for a few months - it will either open your eyes to the fact that there is so much more out there, or it will make you appreciate what you have at home so much more. Either way, I wouldnt move and rely on one person in a new place - join some clubs, get some bar work ( great way to meet people and build up your confidence) and a new life shall be yours.
Good luck.
2006-07-24 09:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly think that if you wanted to move, you would have done by now. Your life is not stuck in a rut, you are just bored and want a change. Unfortunatly only you can do that. Instead of listing all the things you dont like about your life right now, why not list the things you do? It might suprise you just how much you have going!
Good luck.
2006-07-24 09:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by doodlepol 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change can sometimes be good. If not you can always go back. Look at it this way..what are you accomplishing now. Stuck in a rut, no fulltime job, bored. What can possible be bad by changing your situation.
Give it a go. You've nothing to lose.
2006-07-24 09:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a time out to re-evaluate your life and note what's important and work on improving that, and letting go of what's not important.
Don't ever make life decisions because of someone else, if things don't work out the way you hoped, you 'll only have yourself to blame.
If you can't learn to live with yourself, trust me, other people will eventually figure it out and they'll hit the road.
Running away will not solve all that's wrong with your life. Give yourself time, and you'll eventually figure out what you want/what makes you happy.
2006-07-24 09:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can feel the situation of you very much, as i am more or less in the same situation. I think if the new place excites you then that could be the start point. Once you are there then things will role itself further. Sometime we think from far away things different or scary then they really are.
all the best, good luck !!
2006-07-24 11:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by dotab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in a rut so ive sold my car, worked my a r s e off etc so i can go and live/work in NZ for a year. Im scared whitless but you have to face your fear or you will be in a rut forever
2006-07-24 09:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by wtfnmy22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a car save up two grand and drive across europe and say to yourself this car isnt going home until 3 months have passed, thats what i did when i as in a rut, i got robbed a few times, slept on the streets, was put up by locals, got endless amount of woman and enough stories to last me till next year!
2006-07-24 09:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋