My best friend was molested by her brother as a child. She's never told anyone before, I'm the only one she has told. Now that they are all grown up, her brother got married and they are having their first child, a girl. She is afraid that the same thing will happen to that little girl. I don't know what to tell her, it's so sad. Any advice. Please don't answer if you just want points, this is serious. Thank you...
2006-07-24 01:57:32 · 10 answers · asked by PingPongGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't know this guy or if hes changed any so I really can't answer all I can do is tell u my experience. I was molested by a family member time and time again and how we've grown up and hes had a lot happen in his life (lost his mom and dad tragically) so he has made a lot of changes in his life. And now he has a daughter and would never do anything to hurt her. Hes probably the best dad I've ever seen. But I too have a friend that was molested by her brother when she was younger and he has showed no signs of changing. And he had a daughter that he would do everything but hit her. Luckily the mother took the baby and left him and moved in with her parents. So I don't know what to tell u. You know this person better than any of us and u know if hes capable of that kind of behavior still. Just keep your eyes open and watch over them like any friend would. Best of luck :)
2006-07-24 02:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by onehot_mama23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is talk to her brother about it (which she probably never has). And explain the consequences to him, as an adult. So he understands how much it would harm his daughter.
Get him to swear an oath that he will not do this to his daughter.
Evven if he won't admit he did it to his sister in the first place.
Consider telling the brother's wife (after you have told the brother) so she can be on the lookout to protect the girl. These things get messy, it's likely the brother will deny or not want to hear about it. However this situation is not uncommon. But it does tear families apart.
2006-07-24 09:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your best friend that she should need to have a conversation with her brother about it. They are adults now right? If the brother gets mad about it well.. leave him alone for like a few months or so and lets just see what will happen. if he molests the child then you must sue him. you never know... brothers change at times.
2006-07-24 09:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by Hana-chan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear i think you need to know how he molested her, i mean is repeatedly or just once or twice coz what i want you to know that a lot of Teenagers at one point touch his sister in sexy way coz he couldn't find another way to let go of his sexuality but that doesn't mean he is sick and need help and if u noticed i said he is a teenager so you can imagine how much pressure on him, BUT if he did so many times and Even when they get older then you need to go and tell her to be open with her parents or some one who can help like a friend or a doctor.
I hope i helped some how and best wishes
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Note... when i said he is a teenager i didnt mean that what he did is right.
2006-07-24 09:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by Clark794 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend,
Its rely a hard situation to think, but it may seem so hard for the brother to do the same think to his child though it may happen and silence is maintained like it happen in the first instant.
You can always connect these friends in prayers and God's guidance that wherever such thing is to happen the Holyspirit rebukes the circumstance.
Any thing done in darkness will always be put to light as your friend was able to whisper to you that very problem, and they shall be set free.
2006-07-24 09:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Misy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's jealous because she had a relationship with him. If he does maybe his wife will bust him. Maybe he's a predator. Who knows for sure. If the relationship is ruined this little girl might be in more trouble with some other guy who takes over. I think you need to get more information before you jump to conclusions.
2006-07-24 09:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when it happened to your friends? how old was her brother? please don't think of something like that.. people change you know.. and some change for good.. so what will you do? report him? send him to prison? what if he is not like that? or you friend maybe over reacted that time.. what if his dreams for her daughter is the best there was for a father to a daughter, you will ruin it because you think "he might?".. please.. if you really are concern with his daughter then find ways to prevent it from happening..
2006-07-24 09:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by deadmeat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after that incident what diference it has made in her life ? what made her to worry and think same thing will happen to every child ? it is not a gud thinking. Ask her to change her thinking
2006-07-24 09:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I will talk with his wife that for sure...
2006-07-24 09:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by why? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should d tell her brother's wife wat happen to her if she doesn't belive her then talk to her brother.
2006-07-24 09:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by Top notch girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋