Just say no to support without visitation, saying no to support when you're not the father but have the most money saying no to support when you have no rights at all as for as the child is concerned.
2006-07-24 01:32:15 · 6 answers · asked by James S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes that is a blanket statement I made.
Yes I have rights of sorts what we are seperated. I call and drive 300 miles and when I get there it time to play hide the baby, after a few days I might see her might not I have made many trips and not seen her. and all the courts says you have to work something out.The only time I can talk on the phone to baby(4yrs) is when she calls and tells me Mommy says we don't have no money could you send some extra money. this is what I'm talking about. And I'm not the only one all Men are not dogs
2006-07-24 02:14:51 · update #1
also let me point out you do have to pay child support even it yhe child is not your.
Example:
We were dating off and on for two years and when she told me she was (P) and I was the only one that could be Daddy I married her well after she was entitled to all my V A bennies she put me out 2 years later I had DNA done and I'm not the Father but I was there I sign the birth record and even though I was lied to and thought the child was mine and the courts says in the best interest of the child you have to pay, But that is not the point it takes more then sprem to be a Dad where that leaves the bio Dad as for as the child is concern I don't know. And when I stated what would happen if we all didn't pay I didn't mean to keep the money from the child send it later but we all have to do it to make the statement that we have rights as Daddys and these rights should be enforced as much as the support laws. It goes all the way back, taxation without represention support without visitation
2006-07-24 10:01:37 · update #2
Holding child support isn't going to hurt anyone but your child. Get an attorney and get it set in court when you are suppose to have visitation and then if she tries to deny you your rights call the cops and have them escort you there. If you live that far away get it in writing by the judge she has to meet you half way and enforce it. If you don't stand up for your rights then you can't blame her for taking them away. I have no respect for a mother or father who will use their child as a bargaining tool when it comes to money, the kids didn't ask to be born or to have mommy and daddy fighting. My kids dad is a lot of things and we have our problems but every week when he picks up the kids he hands me the child support and when he has problems with money I will let it go till he can catch up, yes it is hard on me but it is what is best for the kids. All parents need to think about how their attitude affects their child and while I know that the money is needed I also know a lot of times it is never used for the kids in the first place.
2006-07-24 03:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Martha S 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, and I pay child support. With holding visitation because a person isn't paying child support is illegal so long as you have a visitation order. If you don't have an exact schedule for your visits, I suggest you get one. I applaud you for stepping in and being a father when even blood says you're not. Blood isn't always thicker then water. Most child support or family court offices have the paperwork needed for you to put in a request for scheduled visitation. If she neglects to follow a court order, then she can be held in contempt. I think she should be held in contempt for having your daughter call you for more money in the first place!
If you stop paying the support, they can take away your drivers license, your tax returns, put you in jail... so much more out there. It is a sticky situation for you, in that you are not the biological father. Some others don't seem to realize that you are venting your anger and frustration about your lack of visitation and not truly saying to stop paying support all together. It pays to read the entire question before answering.
2006-07-24 10:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe guys who say they pay child support and get no visitation.
If a father is denied visitation, he has a recourse through the court. If both have custody with a visitation arrangement, then both parties are court ordered to uphold the contract in the first place.
I think the reality is more like this: The father pays, but visitation is too much work and they prefer to visit when it suits them, not what is stipulated in the agreement.
When you're not the father, then you don't have to pay support, unless you adopt the child.
No support when you have no rights? How did you end up having no rights? and what rights are you refering to? Sounds like a blanket statement that isn't backed up here. Please be more specific.
2006-07-24 01:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i beleive that the courts woulod take note
i have a father who was ordered to pay child support 16 years ago and have not seen a dime of support
on the other hand the mother does pay her $20.00 a week
when she can afford it ?!
2006-07-24 02:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the courts would notice and all of you would be in jail at the same time looking stupid if men dont want to pay they shouldnt lay be responsible men and women these kids dont ask to be here i say if you grew up without a dad and you have a kid wouldnt you want your child to have the relationship you didnt have with your dad and if you grew up with your dad wouldnt you want to pass on all the good things your dad taught you to your kid
2006-07-24 01:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than half of you scumbags don't even pay child support now. Live up to your responsibilities moron. Oh, I am a guy by the way.
2006-07-24 01:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋