I found these pictures of really obese women in a mens special mens magazine he buys and now I think about it with all the takeaways and extra food he buys me I've been slowley piling on the pounds. He says he finds it attractive but I'm fast getting past the point of no return and I'm worried this is an obsession. I'm afraid to stop in case I lose him.
2006-07-24 01:32:02 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is an obsession . i would say stop now and be the person you want to be. No one has the right to make such decisions about another person that can have such disastorous results to your health and wellbeing
2006-07-24 01:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please, please stop as you are putting your health at serious risk. I would say he is forcing you to gain weight because he is insecure and doesn't want any other man to find you attractive and take you away from him. He is a man obsessed and possessed. He is controlling you which is not right. You need to talk to him about how you feel and gain control by refusing to eat the unhealthy food he gives you. You say you are afraid to lose him,. but reading between the lines I would say it would be the best thing for you as he will make your life misery with his control if he isn't already. I was married to a control freak for 12 years until I found the courage to break free. I am now married to someone else and I couldn't be happier because he accepts and loves me the way I am. Your husband can't truly love and respect you if he wants you to be like someone else. It has to be your decision whether to make or break the marriage and I wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-07-24 01:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh i read something similar in a magazine once a woman had the same problem her boyfriend loved her fat and would force her to eat by bashing her if she didnt or using verbal abuse. It got to the stage where she became obsese and that she decided that being healthy was her number one priority she ditched the guy shed the kilos and found some guy that loved her irresepective of how much she weighed. If this honeslty resembles anything in your situation get some help from a doctor or a support group, and let him know that beautiful is in all sizes that are healthy to the person!!!
2006-07-24 02:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Imogen228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 06:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by kroner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of men who are attracted to very obese ladies
It can get dangerous tho, in the sense that the attraction comes from being a provider, and having to look after these women who are too large to do most things on their own.
These men are often refered to as "Feeders" and you , on the receiving end of this will be eating more than you want or need probably without even realising it. It may make you feel good to have this attention from your husband, but hopefully you realise that this is the sort of behaviour that will eventually kill you if you allow your husbands desires to get out of hand.
Scary to hear, but the absolute truth. Your body and welbeing comes before anything your husband wants you to do for his pleasure. Please dont let him pressure you into getting bigger than you feel comfortable with.
the very best of luck.
2006-07-24 01:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am certain that the most important thing would be to keep your health. Overweight, even in cute-looking energetic plump women, goes hand-to-hand with a bunch of health problems. I think you should be concerned with how you feel and how healthy you are, and if he finds that problematic... if his obession with obese women cannot be overcome by his love for you as a person, inside the body, then I think he should get some help. I mean, psychiatric help.
2006-07-24 01:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to think hard about this. Large women can be very attractive to men as long as you keep fit. (Ever seen Jennifer Saunders?) why not have some fun with it and set a wight target you or dress size your both happy with (say a size 22). Remember your breasts are larger and your body will be more inviting to him so go along with it and just play the large lady role. By lots of really sexy clothes and change your image. remember your here on earth to please your husband.
2006-07-24 04:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by monica x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, get yourself back on a diet and kick this extra weight before it kicks you!! You werent a lardass when he married you, so why let him make you into one as one of his sick games. Is he trying to kill you off, or what??? You were slim before, and will be again- if he doesnt like it, why didnt he marry a blubberass in the first place??. Stick up for yourself, and tell him to eat his extra portions himself!!Keep your health and wellbeing
2006-07-24 03:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by k0005kat@btinternet.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, there are men who love obese women; but they usually get them that way. If he's wanting to change you, it's strictly for his own personally satisfaction and he's not thinking of you and your health. Stop eating all of that junk! You won't lose him. He may be wanting to get you fat so other men won't want you. Either way, it's selfish and he's not putting your needs first. If he doesn't stop all of this nonsense, pack him up and send him home to his mama.
2006-07-24 01:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not 'normal', but his likes should not really be an issue.
But you should not deliberately put on weight, just because he wants you to - higher weight is unhealthy, to the extent of being life-threatening when taken to extremes. If he liked you when you married, why should he be concerned now that you are not as fat as he would like?
2006-07-24 01:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by nige_but_dim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop!
Whether he's doing this out of a fetish or insecurity (he's afraid you'll leave him, so wants to make you less attractive to other men), this is damaging your health, taking years off your life, exposing you to a risk of heart problems.
Explain to him the seriousness of the harm he's doing to you, explain to him that this is, quite literally, killing you.
If he loves you he'll stop doing this to you.
Otherwise his fetish or insecurity has surpassed what he feels for you. Get him into counselling or leave.
2006-07-24 01:48:32 · answer #11 · answered by Wax Crayon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋