What do you do when you feel so blue ?

Question

When you know something is wrong but you can't do anything about it .
Stuck by many things , the rule , culture , your attittude and behaviour .. JUST STUCK ! , can't fix anything :(

Answer 1

i visit my dads grave

Answer 2

It happens with almost everyone sometimes or the other & it's a thing or many makes no differance. Moreover, at times, it makes U more & more helpless when U particularly know that something's surely wrong, but can't fix it. The best way to overcome of it's let the time pass by & let the life take it's own course. U will find sooner or later that the things are improving step by step slowly on its own. V R likely to make mistakes & things worst in such a helplessness, hence remain calm, don't get upset. Get it ? Right ? This's mostly due to stars & destiny.

Answer 3

Hey, you may not actually be able to change anything, but Christopher Hitchens says that you should live "as if". So for example, if you are not allowed to eat sweets but want to, then you should live as if you are allowed to and go ahead and do so. If enough people did this, then eventually the rules would have to change. I know this is really tricky in some situations. Also, it is daunting when you think you can change nothing at all as you say. But how about trying to change something very small, that may eventually change the bigger picture (maybe not even now but for a future generation). Think of the difference you could make with these small changes, and maybe that will make you feel a bit better.

Alternatively, if you feel so negative about everything, have you thought that you may be suffering from depression. Maybe you should go to a doctor to talk about it?

Answer 4

Forget the world and the actions of others, we have no direct control over that. But for yourself, you need to "fake it til you make it" Laugh, dance (maybe cry first) then get up and change something. Go out and do something you love with a friend or loved one. Sing a song at the top of your lungs. The funk will pass, trust me. Check out the Joyce Meyer book, Battlefield of the Mind.

Answer 5

You go on. You just go on. There is no easy way or shorcut.

You need to "roll with the punches", accept the difficulties, and move on. You know, from the things you enumerate, your attitude is the one thing you can change, and your present and future behaviour (one cannot change the past). It is one's attitude that makes things difficult to bear, you know.

When I do feel blue, I take some time on my own - a walk, or something like it - I read a lot and I spend time with people I know will soothe me and will help me find my balance - people who are calm and balanced themselves, and sunny and fill me up with positive energy. And I try to distance myself from the irritants - in my mind, if impossible physically. And I try to work, slowly and patiently, to changing the circumstances - my attitude first, then removing myself physically from the problematic place.

Answer 6

Recognize that there are things you cannot change and focus on what you can and that in the big picture, what you have going is good. Skip work and go enjoy a nature walk or something similar to help get your perspective back. You need to appreciate the easily overlooked goodness in just being.

Answer 7

You may be suffering from depression. I am, and have felt the same way as you. Exercise can help relive your stress, so you might try that. But if this attitude continues for a long time, then you should see a doctor.

I hope you find a way through the dark.

Kyotskete

Answer 8

I talk to a friend, usually cry and then afterwards i feel as if a weight has lifted off my shoulders. I also set my mind to trying something new. I was so down and went indoor skydiving, what an experience, i realised i was capable of doing something like that and that there were other people not as fortunate as me.

Answer 9

Understand your 'circle of influence' - that which you can change.

Work on changing what you can, try to relax and accept what you can't.


If you're looking for help here though, you probably need to be more specific in your question.


General advice - you can't live for other peoples' ideals - you'd let your life pass you by without ever being happy.
Try to be strong and go with what feels right to you.

Answer 10

Sounds a bit deeper than your telling us Girl, is it the pre-arranged marriage, lack of male off-spring or what. As it depends on what the problem is, as how to resolve it..!!
Seems to me people have lost their way in todays world...!!!
If you do not agree with things do not follow them, if things are painful...get rid of the problem..!!... Find rules hard to follow, make your own..!!!( just do NOT hurt others in the do-ing of such..)!!!...


THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS " I cannot do anything about it.." in life, just a lack of self-esteem and /or self-belief..
I want to so I CAN..!!!..Easy enough to live by...
Family related....leave, get a new home....
Neighbours causing trouble... kick their butts..!!!
Or simply do as i do....Be a heart-less non-emotional ego-maniacle B***ard. Then not much can/will affect you !!!

Answer 11

listen to Pink Floyd's the Final Cut.
I need to process negative feelings. I can't just tune in Katrina and the Waves "Walking on Sunshine"

"i held the blade in trembling hands
prepared to make it but just then the phone rang
i never had the nerve to make the final cut"