What can I do to achieve orgasm through intercourse.It just doesn't happen for me and its so frustrating.?

Answer 1

Try lots and lots of positions. Buy a kama sutra book. Or any sex book of that matter. Its all about experimentation and having lots of fun trying to find each others turn on points.
have fun and good luck.
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Answer 2

Some women just cannot achieve orgasm through penetration, if this is how you are having sex then there may be your problem, getting frustrated by something that is perfectly normal – a statistic I do like to quote is that only around 30% of women orgasm from penetrative sex alone.

Simply women and men are different, our bodies are different and our minds work differently, it stands to reason then that we also have sex in different ways and need different sorts of stimulation. Orgasm is also not the goal of sex, the goal of sex is pleasure, and orgasm is the peak but compare a moment of extreme pleasure to a long time of pleasure building up.

I am of the belief that with the taboos and myths about female sexuality we have lost knowledge as well as have many social issues we have to combat I order to fully enjoy sex they way we want, it's really no surprise that the older a woman gets the easier they find it to enjoy sex as they learn how to gain pleasure and how to relax about sex.

If you really want to reach orgasm then it comes down to knowledge and attitude, of course biology has a big part to play but the advantage of being female is that we work more on emotions and mentally than men do when it comes to sex so the physical can be overcome. The disadvantage of course is what has already been touched upon, as woman we have negative attitudes towards our sexuality to contend with as well as many influences preventing us from really understanding our bodies.

Have a look online for good sexual health and female sexuality sites, there are plenty around, get yourself some good books not on sexuality but specifically female empowerment on the body – you know your body, you know yourself, and the issue is all but gone, it is however a lot of work to break through all you have to go up against.

Answer 3

70% of women don't orgasm during intercourse so try not to get to frustrated, we're more normal than the (o so lucky) women who do. Try different positions, and if missionary try using a pillow to tilt your pelvic area up. I've tried a lot of things, and no luck for me, on the other hand I have a wonderful man who makes sure I'm never dissappointed. Mostly try not to stress because it will never happen if your working to hard at it or really worried about it. Stress is the quickest way to kill any kind of orgasm.

Answer 4

I've given this advice to so many women who have this prob and it WORKS...put a matress on the floor,have him lie on top of you, but your upper body, head to chest, should stay on the floor, only your waist - and all thats below should remain on the matress, THAT way,
whatever way he moves he cant HELP but give you pressure in all the right places,
jiggle yourself about an inch here or there but it will work.

once you've cracked that, try and remember how you were and get into those angles again whneever you have sex, bare in mind not all women can come through intercourse alone...i dont agree with vibrator use if you're trying to achiever orgasm with your man

There's not a man on earth who could move his body or his fingers to match that speed...its like orgasm oin fast forward, and form my experience, vibrator orgasms are less satisfying that ones as a couple...(but hey thats just me)

Answer 5

First of all you need 2 relax! The anxiety of not being able to reach a full climax can cause stress. You could also experiment by taking longer periods of oral sex with your partner or by yourself.Then if you can climax by yourself, you can show your partner what gets you going! Somttimes the more affection and caressing expressed the better the orgasm.........

Answer 6

Practice on your own to see what works for you. Generally it is the stimulation of both the clitoris and the G-Spot. The only trouble with practicing on your own is that you can do it a lot easier than he can and it may become your preference over having intercourse. If this becomes the case, by a Rabbit vibrator (can get them online)....

Answer 7

You need to position so that you get more clitoral stimulation. you can do it manually or get into a position where he strokes and rub at the same time, have him also do pelvic rotation all the way in to stimulate. other suggestion are a vibrating **** ring stimulator, any number of small vibes applied during intercourse to the clitoris, your own fingers, etc
Just don't dwell on it it , or that will just make it worse.

Answer 8

My husband does manual stimulation for me till i orgasm and at that point he enters me. Its great for me should try it. Also try not to get frustrated, focusing on it makes it take longer.

Answer 9

You have to talk to your man.He may be having PE? A lot of foreplay is required for women to reach orgasm.Man finishes first before woman starts.Have the matter discussed and solve,

Answer 10

For some of us it can be harder than others. Most of us need constant stimulation of the clit. That stimulation doesn't come from normal intercourse.
The best way for me is to relax, use one of those vibrating egg things form constant stimulation.