my problem is very peculiar it seems.please advice me what should i do to solve it?

Question

i like my husband and afraid to give divorce but i hate his
appearence and cant find strength in me to lead life with him and he is also much older than me nearly about 16-17 years,most of the time he fails to do what i require
. iam in a dellema wheather to give divorce or live with him since 9
years of marriage.
iam suffering every sec of my life please advice me to over come this life threatening problem of mine.

Answer 1

if you just want to divorce him because of his appaerence that is a bit selfish, what about the reasons you married him in the first place, you survived for nine years, what kept you going all that time? the age difference is not a big deal either "age aint nothing but a number" but if you really cant take life with this man anymore do not sabotage yourself, put yourself first and take care of your best interests, do what makes you happy, just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons

Answer 2

I think that u should divorce him because of the fact that u are very unhappy and obviously he is not trying to satisfy u like u are satisfying him.....and if u stay in a relationship and u are miserable then u will begin feeling bad because u will lie to him when u say u luv him when u say that your happy and later on this will will build up and something worse will happen.Plus think about it if u are unhappy then your marriage isn't good because both parties should be happy not just one

Answer 3

Liking and loving a person are 2 entirely different things. Without love, the relationship isn't going to make it. You already know the side effects of being with someone you cannot stand and things will not get better, the suffering will continue unless you do something about it.

Answer 4

Have you ever wondered which hurts the most?
Saying something and wishing you hadn't?
Or saying nothing and wishing you had?
I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say.

Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them.
If you do, they might break your heart
If you don't, you might break theirs.

Too many of us hide our true feelings because we are too afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care as much, or even at all.

Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what theywould have done, or could have had.
*What would you do if every time you fell in love you had to say good-bye?
*What would you do if you loved someone more than ever and you couldn't have them?

Answer 5

You are not living in ancient times when divorce was a curse.
Its your life. You can rid of with your problems.
Get rid of him and find your true love. Life is full of joy.
Good times are always come.

Answer 6

His appearance is life threatening? Are you serious? Didn't you know he was much older before you married him? You need to grow up.

Answer 7

you say you hate his appearance, is it how he physically looks or how he dresses. if it's his clothes perhaps you could shop for him? was this an arranged marriage, i don't understand why you'd marry someone you don't want to spend your life with. You knew the age difference before marriage right?

Answer 8

still u have ur whole life to live. if u cant live happily with him than its better to give him divorce n search a partner whom u'll love

Answer 9

u shouldn`t talk about your family secret in the room, before u ask something, respect him first,,,, if u need to talk talk to him not to the room.....

Answer 10

get divorce,u will b much happier