How to stop being nervous?

Question

Before I started dating I used to be Captain Pimp of the Player Squad. I was 15 and had girls in their early 20's telling me how they will date me when Im 21. Even girls my own age were crazy about me. Then I started dating and got hurt a couple of times, but now I know better not to do the things I did that messed them up. But now Im not the outgoing person I used to be (I think because of past relationships) and it's hard to talk to girls. How can I change this? I want to move on and meet other people but for some reason Im having serious trouble.

Answer 1

Paris, July 24th


"I want to move on and meet other people but for some reason I am having serious trouble."

Wondering whether you are not asking the question everyone is asking himself ?

From our origin we have inside us a sonar that tells us that the stranger is a danger. Then we go through the sniffing and tail wagging process, if the result is encouraging we wag our tails, if the result is negative we start a fight.

As none of these procedure is especially rewarding, we solve the problem by trying to avoid the stranger.

But we also have the urge to “mate”.

So we must meet an attractive and welcoming stranger.

Signals will be exchanged.

She will send signals to the effect that she does expect her advantages to be admired, as to the distance from which they might be admired, this remains to be negotiated. (put the sentence in masculine if you prefer).

So an object is there for acquisition.

The question you ask yourself is whether you have the substance to go into a Friendly Stock Take Offer Process ? And if the object is such that many suitors are on the market, whether you have the substance to get into a Hostile Stock Acquisition Procedure.

If you win the Stock Acquisition Procedure, you will all your life wonder whether you have been conned by a creative accountant. Where did all these alluring assets vanish?

If you loose the Stock Acquisition Procedure, you not only loose the winnings you were looking for, you also loose the assets you had.

Therefore engaging into relationships with other humans are to be considered with the greatest care.

Your negotiating position is greatly enhanced if you are strong enough not to be seeking any gain, such as gaining access to the tantalizing objects offered to your eyes, but are quite content to share time and words and space with a pleasant human being, however the risk is there that another predator will jump on the prey just under your nose.

Your negotiating position is greatly enhanced if you are the Company Rich in Wealth and Future. An astonishing beautiful, gentle, smiling, well behaved lady has only one problem, to sort which suitor she will welcome in her social embrace.

That makes you jealous and envious?

Do not.

The most beautiful, kind, attractive, intelligent woman will ask herself all her life if shed is loved for her assets or for herself.

The most powerful, attractive, and so on and so on.... man, will wonder all his life whether his companion would leave him if she ever say him when he is crying in the dark of the garden.

So, indeed, how right you are, he, she who is not nervous and anxious when meeting a stranger and letting a stranger get within her/his personal sphere, is a fool.

That is what makes life so beautiful.

Which one of us has not wondered how it would be to dive down the Niagara falls?

Diving down the Niagara falls is forbidden, yet it is less dangerous than diving down into her eyes.

Do it.

This is what live is made for.

Good luck

Get Hurt

It is far betteer than getting nothing

ns

Answer 2

it is hard to stop being nervous cuz u cant stop it. no matter wat u do it will come no matter wat u do. but u can get where u can over cmoe the nervousness.see i get nervous when i try out for band and when i get in there and start to play my insterment i calm down wheni get done. well ur relationship problem...every one gets hurts. u cant stop it i have tried trust me.... but getten over someone is really hard it has been 12 weeks or more and i still havent gotten over y ex-bf. but i looked for some one better and i found my bf now. just look and u will find it. u have to look cuz if u just sit and wait u will never date again!

Answer 3

breath man !!!
and laugh when nervous and while laughing think up of a reason to your laughing, something simple like a past experience. you should have this planned out before hand. that will allow your body and mind to "catch up" and calm your nerves.

Answer 4

just keep hanging out there. You have the looks so someone will eventually be nervous for you.

Answer 5

Start working out..
You probably be less nervous when you would be able to put your fist through wall..(don't misuse your power please)

Answer 6

be a man

Answer 7

stop thinking so much about it