SOS ,someone tell me what to do with my Unhealthy obsession?

Question

I have an unhealthy obsession about this hot guy who is embarassed to tell me how he truly feels about me,one time he confessed that everytime he saw me he wanted to **** with me,i am so crazy about him,i miss my school and just lie in my bed thinking of him,
i dont want to loose my virginity to him,but he is all i ever think of,HELP,WHAT TO DO?
i am 21

Answer 1

It's nice to meet a girl who won't sell herself short just because a hot guy says she's sexy. Keep your virginity. It's a special gift that can only be shared once.

First, you can try to distract yourself. Pick up a hobby or something else that you like that would not get you totally obsessed with the guy. If your time and energy is spent elsewhere, you won't have much of either left to obsess.

Second, take some time off to think and understand why you like him.

Is it because it's the first time any guy, hot or otherwise, has told you you're sexually attractive?
In that case, don't sweat this one. Believe it or not, there will always be guys who think you're sexy and desirable.

Is it because there are things about the guy's personality or looks that send that heart pitter-pat?
Keep those factors in mind because now you know what kind of guy you're attracted to.

Does this hot guy really love me or is he more interested in my body?
This takes time to figure out as you will actually have to get to know him first.
Spend some time with him and his friends. See what kind of company he hangs out with and you'll get a general idea. It'll be better yet if you know someone from his circle already. But remember one simple rule: Avoid the ALONE ZONE because then you'll put yourself in a potentially awkward position.

Lastly, if you can, share this with a close friend whom you can trust. It should be a friend who understands where you're coming from and be willing to protect you from yourself. Use him/her as a companion, a safeguard and to get a second opinion. That way, you won't face this alone and you'll be least likely to get into situations you're not ready for.

Good luck, girl, and all the best.

Answer 2

Madamesophia gave you the best answer. Focus on your schooling and do not give up anything for it. When you are ready to lose your virginity, you will know. If being around the guy puts too much pressure on you mentally, then avoid him. If you prefer to be around him, AND only if you can maintain your grades, then be around him. Explain your situation to him, and tell him you want to wait for the right moment for the big event. Ask for his support of that goal by him not pressuring you. Do not allow anyone to coax you into going “partway” with other sexual acts (hands, oral, dry, etc.) either. Those acts may cause you to react in ways you would ordinarily avoid.

One other source of support is your mom and/or your dad. Both of them have already experienced what you are right now. I believe you would be surprised at their compassion and understanding.


Good luck!!

Will D
Enterprise, AL
http://www.notagz.com/

Answer 3

If keeping your virginity is important to you, you should do your best to avoid situations that would put you at risk of losing it (intimate, alone moments with him). If he truly respected you, he wouldn't push something on you that compromises something that is important to you. If you're missing school, it sounds like this is really consuming your life. So the choice is either give into those urges you have or get some help from a (campus?) counselor to work past them.

Answer 4

You Are 21 ?
And Still In School ?
Shame.. Shame...
Stop Thinking About Boys & Start Thinking About Your Self....
I Generally Dont Advise This, But

Be Selfish...

Answer 5

heres what u do, invite him over. make some pina coladas and have a few, make them a little strong. by the 3rd or 4th one he will probably start fondeling you and instead of being the prude that you are give him the green light . but dont let him bust in you, thats a no no.

if this dont work out and you need to be de-virginized, email me

Answer 6

u didnt say how old he is so i guessing he is roundabout ur age, and all guys well most guys at 21 just wanna f$%*...they dont hav emotional baggage like girls...they dont think like us or feel the way we do. so i suggest u really think about how u feel, how u REALLY feel about this guy...is it lust? curiousity? its all natural how u feel, u not the only one trust me,but (and i'm not trying to sound like ur mum) 'be careful'...there some real cock sucking bastards out theres who'll use u there loose u without out even blinking...so dont let this little fixation get outta control-no guy is worth all that if every time he see's u he says, 'lets f$%*'. That real smooth...not!!

Answer 7

Get out of bed and go to school or you will flunk out. It will also get your mind off of him and back on life. If you don't want to lose your virginity to him then cultivate a friendship or just walk away. But rejoin the living.

Answer 8

Make sure he is really interested in you for who you are as a person and not just to have sex with you. If your virginity is important to you, it will hurt you really bad if you lose it to him and find out that he was only interested in that one thing. Try to get to know him and have him get to know you, start out as friends, because those are the relationships that last. I hope I was helpful.

Answer 9

Get your pearl garden harvested by the manlihood of that boy. This will be the most proper medication for you

Answer 10

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