so I began talking to this guy a while back and four months into us flirting and making out passionately....he tells me hes married!!...may I add that I am extremely sprung on him...so I get REALLY pissed.and quite sad..but it didn't last long (2mnths)..but I have been seeing him for almost a year and I can't seem to get him out of my life!! i see him almost everyday, and I don't feel as guilty as I used to..and I don't feel like looking for anyone else either... but I know that I have to..... or do I? by the way.. the sex is AWESOME!!!!!
2006-07-24 00:06:15 · 19 answers · asked by lovely 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow the sex is awesome???? cool I BET HIS WIFE THINKS SO TOO.. :)
Look, i wouldnt of blamed u since u were tricked into an affair since u didnt know he was married.. but U KNOW NOW.. and look a year later and he's still living the double life.. u get to see him when its convient for him, and he goes and plays house with his wife and Kids??? after he gets what he wants from u.. lol.. Curious does he leave money by the bedside when he leaves cause he definately is using u like a whore.. so he mine as well be paying u like one.. and the part that kills me, is u dont mind being another mans whore..do u have that low of a self esteem? HES MARRIED.. HE HAS A FAMILY, and he OBVIOUSLY isnt leaving her any time soon because if he really loved u.. he'd left his wife by now to be with u , but NOPE he's playing u for the FOOL that u are.. getting what he wants out of u .. then going home and snuggling up to his wife.. Why should he want to be with u , when he gets to love his wife.. and f**k u?? hasnt anyone ever told u that when u give it up for free that it enables a man to just take it???? Thats what he's doing to u, ur giving it, he's taking it, then running home to his wife.. other then some sweet talk, and sex what are u really getting out of this??? What u should of done from the beginning was Walked away quickly, told him that if he ever gets a divorce to give u a call but untill then he is off limits.. But instead u decided to become a homewrecking whore.. and what makes u think, that ur any more special then her? dont u think once upon a time he was doing and saying all those things that are making u fall for him to her??? Possibly still doing it too.. if he's capable of cheating on his wife.. what makes u think that even if he left her that he wouldnt eventually become bored with u like he is her, and cheat on u too..??? he obviously like u , has zero moral, or valuses.. and treats his marriage vows like they are nothing, why would u want to be with a man that already has tendencies to cheat.. wheres the long term in that??? Would u want a woman to do this to you and family if u were in her shoes.. wheres u respect ??? STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN.. and go find your own man.. have enough self respect to realize this is not a good man, good men dont do this to their family, that he is only letting u see the good in him so he can get down ur pants.. HE IS NOT A GOOD MAN.. he will only HURT U, after he's done USING U..
2006-07-24 00:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, regardless of how amazing the sex is you never want to be with a guy who cannot fully commit to you because he is fully committed to someone else who has a higher rank than you (wife). Also, any guy who is cheating on his significant other may cheat on you someday...and I have been through it and it isn't fun regardless of how amazing you think the guy.
The best way to get away from a guy who is so addicting is avoiding him at all costs, avoiding things that remind you of him and making sure that you have another eye candy in sight and friends who will help you stay active so you don't think about that guy. If you do this for like a month or few over time he will be out of your system and then you will be able to live again and enjoy things. Make sure you don't answer any phone calls, text messages, IM's, emails, letters and any other means of communication from that guy...and if you continue to avoid him and focus your attention elsewhere then you are more likely to get over him faster.
2006-07-24 07:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by monavyas15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so hard for you and I know you are going to do what you want to, but in the "long run" if you want him, you have to break it off now. He will not want you if the marriage breaks up because of you. He'll date someone else before ever dating you openly.
Put yourself in the wife's place, how would you feel if you were married to him and he cheated on you with her (or someone else)? If he cannot make the choice to leave his wife and be with you, then all he wants is a cheap affair and he doesn't love you enough to stay with you. Also if he'll cheat on her, he'll cheat on you.
But you can choose not to believe me and date him for the next ten years and be no further than you are now.
2006-07-24 07:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a bad situation. It's a dead end road...he won't leave his wife...and even if he did, would you want him? Tell me you respect yourself more than that. It's easy to get him out of your life.....don't answer his calls or see him. The longer you do that, the less you will want to see him.
Also, keep in mind how you would feel if you were married or in love with someone and found out he was sleeping around.......cuz karma is a b*tch.
2006-07-24 08:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex has nothing to do with the whole situation gal. You need to realise that the relationship started with a deception and that is how it is going to continue. Sooner or later you might start asking him to leave his wife (then you will wonder, what the hell did all this emotions come from, because I know he cant), the you will get hurt and he will eventually dump you and get himself another one. Just go and get yourself someone who is genuine.
2006-07-24 07:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by ngina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should leave him alone put ur self in his wife's position an worst yet if they have kids the detestation is worst imagine how his wife probably feels an let's say u get married his family would not really accept u nor the kids an if he is doing that to his wife currently who's to say he wouldn't do that to u also ??? after he gets bored with u ???
2006-07-24 07:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by vicsha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing. Leave him and find someone else. Sex is awesome but your dignity has gone down the drain. Have self respect, respect for his wife and respect for your community.
2006-07-24 12:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I have to say, sxybrowneyed has hit the nail right on the head. Every single word she said, is right on the money.
You are in a losing situaltion. There is GOOD reason everyone here is telling you to walk away......married men, BAD NEWS!!!!
2006-07-24 10:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really like being used? How will you feel when you find out that you are the one being cheated on? You know what you have to do, kick him to the curb.
2006-07-24 07:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by miki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ey yo this fool is a playa many men are like him. he is a low life son of a ***** to cheat on his wife. n if he does it to her then he will do it 2 you. even tho tha sex is AWESOME! there always sum1 out there dats better. look 4 sum1 else not worth it at all his wife could be some crazy *** trick u dont know that she find out. you dont know wut might happen
2006-07-24 07:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by zacstubbs2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋