I have a bad temper and i'm ashamed of it.
I threw my husbands brand new laptop at him just because he asked me not to buy more clothes from the internet.
What do i do?
2006-07-23 23:51:47 · 18 answers · asked by I don't have a name 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Well, it sounds like you do have a problem with your temper, but on the good side, at least you are aware of it.
I would seek professional help... maybe even try an anger management program, I know it can all be pricey, but if this continues, I think it's safe to say it can have a pretty Serious effect on your marriage!.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you!
2006-07-23 23:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lyssa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The serious answer is counselling. But it's hard to find a good counsellor and don't bother unless you really want to change yourself and your life for the better. The NHS offers some counselling; but it's often one hour a week for 6 weeks or something. They will probably refer you to an anger management group. I'm tempted to tell you to take it out on someone who deserves it. Go give John Prescott a Right hook! But he does hit back! Maybe your husband doesn't or isn't assertive enough.
2006-07-24 00:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mike10613 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know if someone suggests you have PMT it makes you even more mad (it does me anyway) but recently I started taking Evening Primrose Oil and I have (oh, the bliss!) stopped wanting to tear people's heads off and tie their legs in a knot one week out of every four!
If it's completely unrelated to that though, you could try Kalms or Rescue Remedy, they're both good for giving you a little calm bubble to come off the ceiling in. Give homeopathy a go too, it's vastly underrated for this kind of thing.
Good luck and keep chilled!
:)
2006-07-27 07:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by SilverSongster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all get bouts of anger at times in our life. my friend had a simular problem, she found she was acting over the top about the slightest of things. i work for the mental health team and devised her a plan.
1) she had to have at least 30mins excercise a day (more would be great) this takes the frustration and anger from you
2) make sure you eat as healthy as you can ( really try this it works) plenty of fish, chicken, fruit and veg. stop the caffeine, it dont help
3) Treat yourself - take half hour a day to just lie on the bed, destress, bath, lie in the garden, listen to music anything but you must be alone and relaxing
4) reconise the trigger points of when you are going to "lose it" and at the times find something to control it - it wont be easy at first but take a deep breath and go outside think of something really funny and come back in
5) final step remember if you shout at people they switch off and dont listen BUT if you talk quietly they have to pay attention to what your saying and believe me they will listen more. discuss your concerns/ worries with people they will understand.
i wish you luck im sure you will be fine - you have reconised it and thats the difficult part. id love to hear from you
2006-07-24 21:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by lou897 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, seek counselling. It helps me with my own problems.
Stop obsessing about what the BNP think.
I don't have much to show off about, i.e. I couldn't afford a laptop, never mind break one for shear rage. So calm down look at whats good in your life and forget about petty race issues.
Take care now
2006-07-24 00:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by Neil - the hypocrite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try visiting a shrink...... but I bet you £5 they'll most likely advise you to take up a hobby/sport that enables you to take your anger out on something else..... e.g. Kickboxing / Karate, etc...... I recall some women claim kneading bread dough is good for venting tempers, too.
2006-07-23 23:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get help...have you took drugs in the past??i used to have a bad temper...i threw a knife at my boyfriend,and tried to strangle him,because he said he fancied some celeb off the t.v!!i only started chilling out when i got pregnant(nearly 9 months now)do you smoke??i found that i was a lot more stressed when i was a smoker believe it or not!go to your doctor and get some help ok
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2006-07-23 23:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by ibiza_shandy_pink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think meditation can help u! I mean everyday after taking bath u can close ur eyes for 5 min and think nothing else .. but concentrate on ur breathing! and see the miracle within 15 days!
ok good luck!
2006-07-24 04:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just chill out, you can do it yourself, take up yoga. if you think about it maybe he was fiving you good advice, there are loads of shops in town, l dont buy anything off the internet, l like to see what l am buying. and l know a lot of people who have been done buying on there.
2006-07-23 23:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by scooby.doo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking yourself what it is you are really angry about, then try to work from there. Not an easy task but well worth the effort, trust me.
2006-07-24 01:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by honey lugs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋