i have this friend who last year split up from a girlfriend of about 3 years!well really they were on/off for three years!they were always arguin and falling out and they had a love/hate relationship!
last year a while after they spilt she told hima bombshell that she were pregnant wiv his baby!
the dates add up and they baby woz born in april this year!things were goin fine and my friend seen the baby and brought him sme things and that but recently theyve had another major fallin out and he said he doesnt want to see the baby and she says she glad that hes avin nuffin to do wiv the baby!now he says that hes jst gna leave them alone and not have anyfin to do wiv the baby!i know he doesnt want anyfin to to wiv baby bcoz he really doesnt like his x girlfriend!wot advice shud i give him???
2006-07-23 23:00:24 · 19 answers · asked by david h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
better he stays away than raise the baby in a family that shows blatant hatred for one another...
2006-07-23 23:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by X box lady(who doesnt play Xbox) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day its got to be his decision....but a word of warning for your friend.........my partner was in a similar situation,but he did see the baby until he was 2 years old.....then he left the area for a new job and made the decision that he would not contact his son any more......that was 13 years ago and that decision has haunted him ever since.....he doesnt know where is son is or even if he's still alive...and realises now that turning his back on him was the worst thing he's ever done......i wish your friend all the luck in the world with his choice.
2006-07-23 23:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by julie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't want anything to do with the baby, and she doesn't want him to have anything with the baby....... then there's a problem that will occur later on in the baby's life. the ex girlfriend will regret saying it, and ur friend will always no that he has a baby and that will be with him for the rest of his life,
suggest to him that he and his ex have time apart, keep in minimal contact, and that he continues to be "there" for the baby. suggest that he has contact throught the ex's mother/family....
Dont let him regret that he cant have anything to do with the baby, encourage him to play a part, All babies need there dad whether the parents get on or not!
good luck with this, it is very important that u support him, and advise him positvely....
2006-07-23 23:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You look somewhat youthful. the courting looks at ideal new and tentative. And the time is late for birthday plans. You seem to think of the international and this females existence revolve around you. awaken. it fairly is a distortion. She has shown that she is fascinated, yet you have not invited her to take part in any sort of celebrations. She has given you a minimum of two possibilities, which you have neglected. And now you declare that she would not care? it sort of feels which you are the single lacking the cues. that's a thank you to proceed: Make your individual plans to spend the day with acquaintances and kinfolk. it particularly is not as much as her to create the occasion for you. in case you like, you may invite her, despite if it fairly is late. in case you do not invite her, it fairly is probably to electrify any way forward for an imagined courting with you. it would have been greater suited which you will have planned the way you go with to spend your individual day nicely in develop, and to have invited people who you will possibly have enjoyed to have shared the day to connect you previous to time.
2016-11-02 21:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they both need sense knocked into their thick skulls!
THEY made a baby and HE accepted the kid as his own. He can't just dump it like a used car. Does he have any feelings for this baby or not?!
She can't, for the sake of the child, deny him access to his kid either. In years to come, they will both regret it, and the kid will want to know about its father.
Sounds like a contender for Jerry Springer.
2006-07-27 08:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Curly Locks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his kid for God's sake. I really think he should make the effort.If you old enough to have sex, you old enough to deal with the consequences, (getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant.) Just cause he doesn't like his ex, doesn't mean he shouldn't make the effort to be there for his baby. The poor kid will be worse off without him... He really needs to get a grip on things and take responsibility for his actions!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-24 00:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by ZimHon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The obvious sound advice is to advise him to see and have contact with his child. The child needs a father figure in its life and the contact he has will certainly mature his outlook in life and learn how to deal with his ex-girlfriend.
2006-07-23 23:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by Gar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,i guess,that your friend needs to realise his responsibility....baby is no joke,why should the baby suffer after what parents did and after all the fun this is what he wants to give his child?
you need to put some sense into his mind and make him understand,m sure hes no baby to be told all this but some people...........god help him!!
2006-07-23 23:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, stay away from all this complicated situation. Yes, he is your friend but try to help him in other way, avoid giving him advice about this because you are not at his place. It's not the same...
2006-07-23 23:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by ChillyღAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he made his bed, now he has to sleep in it. He's got the responsibility of being a father now, he can't hide from that. It sounds like he's being unbelievably selfish... tell him to get his act together.
2006-07-23 23:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by Burnsie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋