I spent the last 2 weeks looking for someone I met 3 years ago. I finally found him - but he's a totally different person, doesn't remember me and doesn't seem to want to talk to me. I know I should just leave him alone - it's not even like we ever dated or anything - but I can't seem to get closure on this issue. Please help!
2006-07-23 22:10:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The more I think about it, the more I realize how ridiculous this is. Am I totally losing it or has anyone else ever felt this way?
2006-07-23 22:42:25 · update #1
Write a letter (addressed to him or to yourself - makes no difference - you will never send it) where you write down all your inner thoughts and reflections conserning this matter. What you did, all the hours you spent thinking about him, all you went through to find him, worries and how happy you felt when you found him. How disappointed you got when he didnt remeber you and all. When you are really certain that you have written it all - you can either burn it or rip it to pieces. Make it a seremonial. Burn one page after another. Let him go.
Good luck
2006-07-23 22:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an interesting question. But one that only changes with focus and time. I once waited two years to get back someone that I lost because of a misunderstanding. I thought I was loosing my mind, because in those two years I didn't sleep or eat well at all. I thought that I could change my feelings for her by seeing other girls, but that didn't work. And here's why...
I kept my focus on her. Everytime I thought I had forgoten, or had gotten over it, she'd pop back in my mind. And instead of pushing the thought on the side, or doing something positive that would help me to change my focus, I would play back all the good times we've had together. Every memory I could think of and recall that had to do with us I dwelt on. Especially the mistakes I made and that the reason we are apart is because of me. Personally, I use this at times to remind me that there is a hope and a future and that includes a special person in my life:
"For I know the plans I have for you," says the LORD. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope." Jeremiah 29:11
Another thing that I'd like to add is this: That when you are focused on something, it is like having horse blinders on. All you see is that which is being focused on, all other things become blacked out. That is why it is a good idea in most situations to wait and let time pass by, let the blinders come down and realize the situation, your feelings, come into clear focus (which is what we have friends for, to help us see clearly when we can't).
2006-07-24 06:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ikaika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess love has no bounds. I have been waiting for someone to come home for over 10 years. He is the father of my 20 year old son. I have said throughout the last 24 years i would wait forever. Please don't spend another minute waiting in vain. I am 42 years old and I am dieing. I will die alone. For even as I write this he is asleep next to the woman he loves and is married to. I sleep with my weiner dog. At least he doesn't talk back.
2006-07-24 05:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by crickslick181 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to write out your feelings or talk them out with a trusted friend, cry it out, and it helps to get out there and make new guy friends. Of course, you won't forget him easily and may always think of him from time to time. But remind yourself that you can DO BETTER than a guy who does not want you. FIND new guy friends and start having fun then you won't worry about him as much...as your new schedule gets busier. Trust me...it works...you just have to WANT to let go and if you do, you will and when or if you see him again some day....the pain won't be there anymore.
2006-07-24 05:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this time u caring 4 him......at the same time he might sitting with someone n laughing like a crazy......he din even know that someone is crying 4 him....forget bout him.......keep only the good things about him in ur memory......now...there is 2 choice 4 u......do u love urself....if yes.... y r u putting urself in sadness.....move on...Past is past...never come back.....it's better 2 think about the future....the other way..... keep on thinking about the past...when u n him together.....even if today ....that person who is in ur mind...don even remember u..
2006-07-24 05:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try meeting other men
2006-07-24 05:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥♥H뮧hË¥™♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but your losing it..
You found him hes not interested case closed.
move on people change its life sorry..
2006-07-24 05:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget about him and move on
2006-07-24 05:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by DL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋