what wold you do if u discover that your husband is taking to an old girlfriend and?

Question

she is the on ho was trying to distroy ur lif befor??, but you all have to know that i open his mail to know that.

Answer 1

First thing to do is never, ever tell him you opened his mail. If he gets to know that - he can walk out on you because that is not acceptable. Dont ever admit it or any of its content!

Second you can talk to him about this. What it is that makes you feel insecure. What is it that you sence that makes you think he is turning to her? What can he do to make you feel safe? Does he want you to feel safe? Is it anything you can do to feel safe? You need to make space for these honest talks that makes relationships open and respectful.

Good luck

Answer 2

Question how happy you are in the relationship first. Most often People forget that just because the other person is cheating doesn't mean they are unhappy with the relationship. It could range from being bored with sex to just wanting the thrill of the cheat.

Just because he is talking to the " Ho" doesn't mean they are having an affair. I would however remind you to keep an eye out for late nights early mornings and strange calls.

Focus hard on the details. Best of all though Surprise him at work or at some place he should be hanging out. If he's not where he should be safe to say " he's not where he should be!"

Answer 3

First I have to assume that you read the content of the email(s) and you know the nature of their current "relationship".

If you feel threatened, write her from his Email, as your husband, and have "him" explain to her that he broke down and told you about her, that you assured him that she was gonna die if you ever hear from her again, and he has decided that you are the one and that she is a skank 'cause of that "smell" she has, that she is not the only "other woman" in his life, and that he's seen the light and decided to join a self help group and as part of the 12 step program this is his apology. Then block her addy.

Hubby and you have a trust issue, so discuss the trust issue with him. When he says "I trust you", ask him to prove it. Tie him up and pleasure him a bit before you roll him over and retie him SECURELY.

Take your largest dildo and shove up his azz to the hilt. Take a copy of the Email you sent her from him and prop it on a pillow so he can read it while you go shopping with the contents of his wallet.

He will be a changed man when you get home.

Answer 4

Mind your business! and before you or anyone else say that he's your husband you have every right, ya'll wrong. There is something not right at home that your husband is receiving mail from an ex and you were not aware of this or maybe you were but did he ever disclose to you what was in those letters? I don't thinks so because you would not have had to go through his mail (do you know that is illegal even if he is your husband, your name was not on it). Now I believe that if any man or woman allow the next mf to come in and destroy any parts of their home is worthless anyway. We need to stop living in a fairytale world and face facts sh** happens to the best of us and it's up to us to keep our sh** tight. I'm sure you are not as sexy as you used to be and you don't do a lot of things you used too I've said it before so here it goes again.
THE SAME THINGS IT TOOK TO GET YOUR BABY HOOKED IT'S GONNA TAKE THE SAME THINGS TO KEEP HIM. Don't let no ***** slide up in your space and do what you used too because it pulls them men away from you all the time. Don't do it for him do it for yourself, get out of the comfort zone and get your sexy back mind body and soul, it's hard work but you will feel better about you and he will forget about that ex if you play your cards right. See when you look for sh** you find it, so stop going through his stuff mind your business do your thang to get you back tight where he's looking through your stuff. Stop setting yourself up to get your feelings hurt by being nosy.

Answer 5

I would ask him if he's been talking to her. If he says no then ask him why he feels the need to try and hide it from you. If he still denies than he's definately cheating on you and should look into getting a great divorce lawyer. If he's not I'm sure that he'd be more than willing to take you both to lunch together so that you can all be friends. If he's not willing to let you be friends with her than I would look into the divorce lawyer. The only way he's likely not to be cheating is if he has no problem with you being as friendly with her as he is. I know that you probably hate her, but you need to at least fake the desire to be her friend to find out where he stands.

Answer 6

You definitely have to confront him...he will try to turn it around on you and tell you that you were wrong for going through his personally things but you are his wife and you have a right to do so......and obviously he had something to hide right? I mean how would he feel if the tables were turned? You definitely have some talking to do.

Answer 7

this a hard one . you ll have to catch him in the act i suppose or else he gonna carry on about u bein a snoop

im the kind of person that would of just went right of at him


oh good luck poor thing

Answer 8

Confront him about it and see what he says.
If you have doubts and feel you can't trust him, try counseling for the both of you.

You might need to reassess your marital status.

Answer 9

Block her email addy without him knowing

Answer 10

spying is wrong.and its normal to remain friends with an ex.if you dont trust him you are with the wrong guy.