My husband wants me to have sex with another man just once. I am an attractive and intelligent woman. What should I think of that?
2006-07-23 21:16:42 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I`m a bit confused about your first question, well,... don`t you know whether or not you were a virgin when you got married? If you don`t know, how could any of us possibly know? Your next question which is a far cry from the first, tells us that you`re an attractive and "intelligent" woman, I sure don`t doubt that, but USE your Intellect to "think" of the situation you`re in, and Do Something intelligent about it, maybe Get counseling from a Minister, you already know this is not right, nor is it lawful, the man you married Needs help Now, because he`s SICK ! I`m afraid of what he`s capable of doing sexually or otherwise, May "God help you." and Save his soul.
2006-07-23 21:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your husband is a really cool cat then maybe, but usually men have other intentions in mind. At any rate, you really should get out and have some fun with another man. Variety is the spice of life. You will be amazed at how wonderful sex is with many different people. Don't worry, you will still enjoy your husband, probably even more. Everyone is so different and we all bring different things to the bedroom. Read Penthouse Letters and I bet you will take your old man up on the offer.
2006-07-23 21:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by 3 Card 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is full of crap.
A marriage is about commitment and faithfulness. Why get married if the two of you would consider him being with someone else.
I think this says a great deal about his morals and about your inability to stand up for yourself. If you valued your self you wouldn't share you husband with anyone. Why even consider it or ask the question here?
You being attractive or intelligent doesn't make any difference when there is a marriage commitment/contract
I don't understand the question.....it is like saying should I let my husband hold a gun to my head and pull the trigger????..........
2006-07-23 21:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a somewhat common fantasy, but a very dangerous one. It won't stop at "just once". He has deeply-rooted issues and he is likely hiding other sexual fantasies that are not really appropriate for a husband to have. I am scared for you. Please think very hard before you do that. If it turns you on, then that's fine, but he should be protecting you and loving you as you are, not wanting to use you as an object (like watching a porn movie, with you as the starlet, and another man the...star). If it's mutual, then that's up to you. If it's not...then please try to talk to him and if he gets upset...he is likely hiding more things. You both need some counseling. Take care.
2006-07-23 21:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO! He's is stupid for even thinking that! What if you end up liking this other guy and then want to do it more than once or want to find other men to have sex with? Nothing good can come out of this if you do this! ONLY PROBLEMS!
2006-07-23 21:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ray W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is how do you feel about this? Also, I think this would only open a door for him to be with another women. Are you or would you be ok with this. I think this is unhealthy and it would only add fuel to the fire. And I am not talking about rekindling a flame or adding spice to your life. He is obviously thinking something, and you need to find out what it is he is thinking deep down inside...good luck:)
2006-07-23 21:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by slykitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him no, especially if it is not what you want to do...Maybe he is trying to open doors to bring other females into your relationship in an attempt to make you feel guilty when he tells you that he wants to have sex with some other female...Because you are smart and intelligent, you would tell him no but he would always say "well you slept with ????....DOn't do it....homeboy may have a disease....don't put yourself in that situation....But it is your decision.
2006-07-23 21:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your body, not his. If you don't want to do it, then don't! You don't have to give into him. I think if you thought enough of your virginity to wait until marriage, then I think you should continue to honor that and not have sex with anyone other than your husband.
2006-07-23 21:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's weird for a husband...
I think most men love to be with and marry a virgin girl...
your husband is really wierd...
by the way it's up to you...
depends on your decision...
but if i were you, I won't do it with another man
but to my husband alone...
2006-07-23 21:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
But, were you a virgin when you were born. More and more nowdays are not. It's a sad comentary on the times.
2006-07-23 21:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by EMAILSKIP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋