What are some things you should do and know about someone before you decide to marry em?

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Also, what kind of questions should you ask yourself?

you can never know everything about someone

Alea...no I didn't know that...but at the same time my question had nothing to do with the word Jiggaboo either...you spelled it Jiggabo and mine is Jiggaboo so technically its not the same...Its like saying to means the same things as too does...don't come preaching to me...take it else where

Answer 1

I agree, you can't always know everything and even after years of marriage will find yourself surprised sometimes. I can tell you though, that there are MANY different things you need to do and to know-- I HIGHLY recommend premarital counseling-- you can go to a professional couples counselor, or some churches provide this service for those considering marriage-- for some, it is a requirement.

You need to know many things and discuss many topics in detail-- Money, Housing, Work, Sex, Chores, Children, Family, Religious beliefs, Personal Values, What you expect, what you are afraid of, What you like, what you don't like, and so on-- there are always surprises in marriage(and that's good) but you should REALLY know the PERSON you are considering-- you may find out things that endear you to this person, and makes you love them more than you realized. OR you could find out one single thing that is a dealbreaker for you--

Answer 2

'Jiggabo' is a very insulting word, especially to older African Americans. It is just as bad as the N-word (when I typed out this word in its entirely, it got censored just now as offensive, I hope you know what I mean by N-word. It is an American slang word, I'm not sure if it is used in Britain or other places.) Anyway, the name 'Jiggabo' was used to psychologically oppress Negroes/blacks in the USA. (You probably know this, but just in case I thought I'd mention it.)

It is hard to know everything about the person you are going to marry. Dr. Phil has a good book about relationships that is easy to read. He covers kids, personal growth, religion, different styles of handling problems and stresses, etc.

Good luck! Compromise is always a virtue in relationships. Everyone should get at least some of what they want, and give in once in a while too.

Answer 3

1. You need to know how he behaves when he is angry or upset.

2. Does he care as much as you (Example: does he care how you want to decorate a room?, How you want to wash something hot, cold water, etc. My husband cares just as much about these things a women do, which can be frustrating and casue many arguements, if he cares as much as you it can almost feel like your living a with another female!!!)

3. Know what kind of family backgrounds you come from. (My family is not close, my husbands family is like the cleaver's all perfect, etc....this makes for a lot of debates about family values and having close relationships)

4. Know what your sex drive is for each of you and how you match together.

Answer 4

EVERYTHING...if they want children, if they want a two income household. Method of birth control if any, Religious views. Values, morals, upbringing. Any family illnesses, views on social and political more's

Answer 5

well ask yourself these questions:
am i ready to wake up every morning seeing his face first thing in the morning?
am i ready to accept his whole being, what he is at home, who he is with his friends?
am i willing to be with him as long as i live?
is he willing to accept you as you as a whole being?
is he willing to love and be honest with you as long as you live?

these are just some of the questions... I think you also have some in mind now...

Answer 6

Finances (managing etc), Children (how to raise), Religion...
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Answer 7

You should know just about everything there is before you marry them.

Answer 8

make sure you have the same sex drive is my advice after 21 yrs