What do you do if your wife's sex drive is much lower than your own?

Question

I have tried talking about it but to no avail! Can anyone help?!

Answer 1

That's quite normal. For most wives most of the time, sex is a chore like dishwashing and ironing and cleaning.

For most of their lives, women are not naturally horny like men and the pleasure they get out of sex is derived from the feeling of being loved and wanted.

Take stock of your sex life. See what you can do to make her feel loved and wanted (and that doesn't mean just in bed!).

Answer 2

Be patient with her. You know how to turn her on so use some of those tricks....and while you're at it, don't put any pressure on it. Tell her that you just want to play a little and it doesn't necessarily have to lead to lovemaking so that will make her relax more. You'll find that she will be more responsive to you when not under pressure and most of the time, if you get her hot and bothered enough...she'll make love with you! But cheating is never the answer. There's no point being married to one person but sleeping around with others. There are, after all, more things to marriage than bedroom antics.

Answer 3

Deal with it and cheating is not the answer to your problems, just sit back and take time with her, sex is not the most important thing in life & all you young kids think that it is and you will go thru alot of heart breaks just on that one thing your mind is stuck on and you married the girl for what reason, LOVE or LUST, you have a hand, learn how to use it or try the approach on her in a different way, not like you just got to have it right now and with some women, talking about it aint going to get you no where, try being more loving with that girl because it might be something about you thats got her upset in some way and just to scared to talk about it

Answer 4

You need to sit your wife down and talk to her about it. Find out if there is a reason for her lack of interest. IF so find ways to work around it. Most women think men's sex drive is just a thing to deal with every now and then. Some men take sex as a form of affection and a way to share their feelings for their spouse. if your wife doesn't understand that she may not realize how much her lack of affection is affecting your relationship. if it is simply that she isn't in the mood as often then talk to her about alternatives. such as toys for yourself or simple manual assistance. cheating on your wife is not acceptable in my opinoin. Now if you speak to your wife and she suggests another partner to cover your urges then there is nothing wrong with that but i wouldn't hold my breath lol. if it is going to be that big of am issue i would suggest therapy for the two of you.

Answer 5

hi this question is bang on. My hubby sex drive is higher than mine well for now anyway. He has talked to me i talked to him. You keep trying with your wife but don't put pressure on her. do something nice for not big, little things that she likes but don't make a big deal about it. Is it just you or have you noticed something else about her? Does she talk to her friends/family? Does she eat less eat more? Does she sleep normally. Has anything happend to her in the past? Did this problem just happend or as it been dragging along? If i were you ask her to see her doctor if it isn't you. Does she still give you affection other ways cuddles, kisses, nice words? Or is it just sex? I think you no what to do really. You need reassurance. For your needs spend longer in the bathroom, watch porn very discreetly but don't upset your wife with this. Try Try try talking to your wife Good luck hope you sort it out.

Answer 6

Easy answer? Masturbate.

Right answer? Find out if it's:
1) biological, as in a hormonal issue,
2) confidence, as in a weight/smell/capability to please issue,
3) chemical, as in caused by medication - anti depressants and birth control are the two big ones for women. Oh, and these can cause 1.
4) you, as in something you did.

As to how you'd find these things out...buddy it's gonna take some time & probably a LOT of frustration before you get to the bottom of the issue.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Well u can do 1 of 3 things cheat which you shouldn't do are 2 jus play wit her click not to hard but hard enough and 3rd use some K Y Jelly u know the kind dat heats up on contact put that on her click and she will heat up!!

Answer 8

most men have a higher sex drive than women, just wine and dine her make her feel really special and you might just get lucky. if that fails then let her have a bit of space and use her treatment against her when she want's it tell her no your not in the mood don't worry if you are just roll over and ignore her she will soon realise what emotions your going through and hopfully you will get it more often

Answer 9

Wait till she hits 30, then you may find that you are asking yourself where your youth went. I have always loved sex, (been married for an eternity), but he and I over the years have switched shoes. I have quite the collection of toys to compensate. "Cheating" is only the answer when there's not just you two at stake...kids?? Just be honest, tell her it is important to you. But be sensitive to and make her feel sexy. Women are generally very verbal and love to be told how special they are, sometimes this is all it takes to recieve special treats. you have some decisions to make.

Answer 10

a mans sex drive is usually higher than a womans. Try to be extra nice to her.Get her to relax in a hot bath with candles all around the bathroom and give her back a rub etc. Make her feel special.A woman has to get slowly turned on where a man can instantly get turned on. We think with our minds and you think with what's between your legs.