My boyfriend has hit me on 4 or 5 diferent occassions leaving my body bruiced but I know I crossed the line with alot of the things I said to him before he done it so does that make it ok???
2006-07-23 20:55:47 · 29 answers · asked by Kate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Violence is never acceptable.
Please do not start thinking that you caused it or you "crossed the line".
When I was 18 I was with a man who told me that it was my fault when I finally got my self esteem back a little and left him he stalked me and finally stabbed me.
It is NOT something you have done. You deserve better and no matter what you have done or said it doesn't deserve a reaction such as that.
Please talk to professionals about this situation and if you can leave him. There is someone so much better out there for you x x x x
2006-07-23 23:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 37⤊ 7⤋
the only people who would agree with you on this one ,is people who are beaten,and still put up with it,who must in my mind enjoy the experince,as they keep going back for more.if you protect these people,who beat you,you are failing your self and the person who is doing it.
all you will get are empty promises.the first hit you should have done something,and you didnt,so if you are killed by this person,that will be ok,as long as you can justify it.
show them up for what they are,you will when it is the open, find that this person, will leave you/or stick by you,so what are you waiting for do something about it,your the only one who can,or simply justify it evertime you are beaten.the choice is yours?you may have your 15 mins of fame but at the cost of your life.i once hit my wife when i was drunk,that was the last time,no excuses because there arent any,i was reported to the police who reported it to social services who put in front of a psychtist,now was my wife right, yes she was,and this year we are 39 years married,but i never hit her again,and after my treatment for 3 years,i didnt even know i had a problem,it was too fold when i wasnt drunk i was ok,i had a head injury where i was laying a carpet and there was a tin opener on the wall as i jumped the carpet into the wall i came up under it in it went 3/4 ince into my skull, drunk i could have killed someone,and not have even known.could have been a different story?
2006-07-23 21:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by archaeologia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're blaming yourself for the way he behaved?
There might also be a difference between a single hit from an outburst (which I could consider forgivable in very emotionaly charged situations) and pummelled repeatedly. Besides, 4 or 5 different occassions seem to suggest more such occassions are coming.
2006-07-23 21:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by Odin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER. get out while u can. i was in an abusive relationship 4nearly 3yrs over which time i had a child who saw everything that was happening. like u, i thought it was my fault 4 things i said but it got worse, i had black eyes, perferated ear drum, my earrings ripped out, a huge bruise over 1 side of my thigh from where he repeatedly kicked me, cracked ribs, almost ran me over with MY car. my advice is if a man's capable of hitting u once, let alone 4 or 5 times it can only get worse. he probably apologises afterwards doesn't he? dont believe it, my bloke did the same. i hope this has helped u in some way, no1 should go through what i did and if i stop it happening 2 u it'll all be worth it.
2006-07-23 21:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Violence is only okay if you both agree that it's okay. However, if you decide it's okay, be aware that violence always escalates over time and can eventually result in broken teeth, bones or even death.
If you want a decent relationship with this guy YOU must get a grip on your tongue and HE must get a grip on his acting out of anger. If neither of you are mature enough to control yourselves you're not mature enough for a relationship.
2006-07-23 21:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it's not ok to hit - anyone, but especially a woman and double especially a woman who he is supposed to care about. Get out of this abusive relationship while you still can. Imagine if you had children...
2006-07-23 20:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Violence is never ok. We all say things we don't mean that can hurt, but bruising another human is never the answer. If its something that really bothers you, you don't want to live with that forever....so why stay in the relationship? Try talking to him...if it makes it worse...dump him, you can find somebody better..somebody who will treat you better. If he truly loves you, he'll listen to you :)
2006-07-23 20:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetthing4u09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said nasty things to him?
Well, there is something about the "fighting words doctrine" - not sure how that would factor into things here. But if there is so little respect between you two I'd say just walk away.
2006-07-23 21:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by sincere12_26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NEVER OK for a man to hit his wife.
take photos of your bruising. Get yourself to a doctor to document this. Find a Battered Womans group to help you understand what you need to do.
Nothing you say if cause for being hit.
Get out before he kills you.
Don't you people watch Ophra of Doctor Phil?
Hitting is NEVER OOK
2006-07-23 21:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly not, you should walk away now before you get hurt more. When a guy feels its OK to hit someone he cares for it is time for him to be dumped. Do not be a victim
2006-07-23 20:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Violence to a girl is never, ever ok. Violence in a relationship, verbal or physical, is never, ever ok... and so forth. Find a person whom you can live peacefully with, everybody deserves that!
2006-07-23 20:58:31 · answer #11 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋