We're divorced and have an agreement in court that we share in all our expenses with the kids. I work nights and he works days. I have to sleep so I have to take my kindergarten daughter to afterschool program when she finishes school at 11.30 am. I'm really exhausted when I pick her up from school because I only have couple of hrs of sleep. I feel ineffective mom when I'm so sleeepy and exhausted. I want to have a rest before they come home then I can cook them dinner and they can do thier homework as well with my help and not being crancky. I don't wanna spend money to ask a lawyer to fight for me because they can be expensive.
2006-07-23 20:34:30 · 8 answers · asked by yodge_123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The children are usually the source of main conflict after divorce.You story which is a usual happening will de dealt with according to your own circumstances.As what you are doing right now shows you as a great mother.keep it up! Do not feel being ineffective,I am sure your kids will understand you as long as you are teaching good examples and trying to figure out the scene to them.But please ,do not teach the kids to feel outrageous towards their father. Anyway,do you know how is your ex hubby doing? He might also have his own circumstances that is why your agreement has been breached.He is a father afterall just wondering how he could not share support to your kids. If he is doing fine and intends to avoid giving his share then you can ask help from a community support group which usually have lawyers with free services. But if your hubby is also down then what you will gain from rising the case to the court. Do everything you can for your kids 'cause' and things will be fine.
2006-07-24 22:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ lani s 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This always happen in a divorce, a child is a burden. I always wonder what is the point of getting married in the 1st place if both do not want to see it works.
They don't see the "give & take" and decide to get a divorce when a child is born. And it is always the case when the mom is the one who take the right of the child and later blame the dad for not taking a part in taking care of the child.
Don't all divorcee see that it is no mistake of the child to take the blame for the parents mistake.
Have a good talk with your ex-husband and try to work things out not bcos you want or he want to, it for the child sake.
2006-07-24 03:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by davidtay25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being the father to his own kids isn't a good enough reason for him to participate in their lives...what makes you think there is another solution to this without getting the courts involved?
As far as I know, there is no legal obligation to spend time with people?
Go the courts, and ask for money to pay for day care.
2006-07-24 12:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple.... he pays is 50% or goes back to see the judge again. Personally, if I were the judge he would have 60% or more. He was as much to blame for that child being here as you and he has a moral and legal responsibility to continue support even if he did change his mind on wanting the baby's mother. He cannot undo the baby therefore he can support.
2006-07-24 03:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by D J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people ask that question. My mom and dad went through that when they divorced. He accepted, but if your husband doesnt accept the fact that he needs to take equal care of your children, you can take him to court and make him pay you money so you can take them to a daycare, or ever a babysitter! (lol, I babysit)
2006-07-24 03:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by carolyn_a_131 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try a child support service if it is part of you agreement. Plus there are free legal advise you can receive. You could also try DEFCS. And your local family and children services.
2006-07-24 03:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't want to share then make him keep them in the evenings
2006-07-24 03:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can always always get some from me
2006-07-24 03:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by darwin_david2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋