I have been friends with 2 girls for 6 years and occasionaly we have called eachother bestfriends. But they have always buddied up together. Like in high school whenever we went on trips they would always sit together. When we walk on the sidewalk I usually have to walk behind or in front of them. At amusement parks they walk to fast and I'm often left far behind, unable to catch up till we stop. Occasionally they look back but that's it. I have been trying to look at the positive and remember all the good times but after 6 years, I feel like I've had enough. I don't know if I'm being paranoid or not, but it really feels like I'm always the third wheel. And it's finally starting to bug me. I don't know what to do. Also they don't let me talk most of the time unless I say something funny, usually they have to be the ones with the spotlight on them, and I'll get interupted if I try to speak. What is happening? Am I being to paranoid? Or do I have a right to b upset? What should i do?
2006-07-23 20:28:39 · 6 answers · asked by genuine♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
a glutten for punishment is what you are. they are not friends of any sort if they are treating you like that. sounds like you need to move on and find people who will truely be your friends. thats no way to treat anyone in my books.
2006-07-23 20:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are sailing in the very same boat as i had they care for you but still seem to neglect you a lo0t and i used to feel out of the place weneever i was with them tooo we were a three some too. you atre having the same experience try to make them feel that you are feeling neglected it helps a lot but some people just dont change they still do that pairing and neglect others and think they are at the top of the world. so just move on and find new friends if they dont change even after a trial you have waited enough.but ya make sure abt the reason behind their behavior or else you would be loosing your friends due to a total misunderstanding. so be careful abt watever you decide
2006-07-24 04:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by manini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah--I have been treated that way most of my life--in high school and on down. You are being treated bad. You need to let them know what you feel or just find a better friend who will appreciate you for how you are and not treat you as a 3rd wheel. Sometimes friends drift apart and change and that is not your fault. That is just reality. I am sorry about this I have been there, but it usually does not change. Maybe they will be more mature one day. Please don't let this bring you down. They are no better than you know matter how they act or look or anything. Just be a nice person and find a better friend. :)
2006-07-24 03:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have EVERY right to be upset. They dont sound like they are being true friends.
I had a similar thing happen to me when I was in highschool. i was best best friends with a girl for years, and then this girl who moved to our town, that I became friends with... kinda become good friends with my friend and I... well... it turned into me being the thirdwheel type of thing, so i know exactly how you feel.
You could try talking to them... but from my experience, girls can be pretty bitchy when it comes to this stuff (at least from my experience)... they sound like awful friends though. If I were you, I would find new friends.
Good luck!!!!
2006-07-24 03:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope nothing is wrong you are not being paranoid...it doesn't sound like they ever considered you as your bestfriend...I think its about time you move on and make newfriends.Isn't it a bit too obvious they are not treating you as one of them...there is nothing to feel bad about ....i guess we do make mistakes in choosing friends sometimes..well let's learn from our mistake...
Cheer up...
2006-07-24 03:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by Preez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'd be pissed if my "best-friends" dis-included me witch one time they did i felt like my friends thought maybe i wasn't cool enough but i talked to them about it and they said they didn't realize it and when they did it one purpose it was b/c they thought i wouldn't be into it and thought I'd be mad at them but after we got it figured out we've all been best friends and left nothing out so talk to them get mad and get serious yell at them if they interrupt while you try to explain get fierce and get to the point your real friends will understand and your point of view and if they don't than theirs room for change but it would be a sad loss of 6 years
2006-07-24 03:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by teresa d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋