ok lately ive been hanging around this guy. i like him and he seems to like to hang around me to cuz he calls me and texts me all the time but the thing is i dont know if he is gay or bi. it bugs the hell out of me cuz i wanna know. can someone help me out or give me some advice. i wanna know if he is bi or gey. i cant just ask him cuz that could mess up the friendship ive tried so hard to establish....
2006-07-23 20:24:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
well i have asked some gay friends. one said hes not 2 ure, one said hell yea, and my cousin who is gay said he has 2 be bi at least and that he prolly hangs around people that he wouldnt prefer for them to know that kind of stuff which is kind of true since i know some of his friends...
2006-07-23 20:41:36 · update #1
Invite him into a social setting. Invite a gay friend and see how they interact. If that is still inconclusive, ask the gay friend what he thinks. They have "gaydar" they can tell--usually--other gay guys.
2006-07-23 20:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by amish-robot 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try asking him. Ask in a non-confrontational way and in a relaxed venue. Ie:party, social gathering, etc. That way he'll not look at it as being an accusation, but rather an honest curiousity on your part.
If you're an openly gay male, and he's paying that much attention, I'd say it's a good bet that he's at least Bi. or curious. He may be looking for an opening, and just "feeling" around. (no pun intended.)
2006-07-24 11:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by Dell W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend would rather be asked up front. Honesty and trust should be present if this is a solid relationship. question what you would like your friend to do if the tables were turned. You've already asked people behind his back. Go to the source directly and you will know in a moment. You can always say you wanted to know if he was interested in meeting other girls or other guys. I am gay, and friends asked me for that reason. I was glad they were comfortable enough to ask me, and one even set me up with a date! don't be afraid.
2006-07-23 21:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he hasn't made it obvious in the way he walks talks and wears a rainbow pin...then your only option is to ask him.
Do you really need to know (ie: do you fancy him)? If so, then if you ask him in private (but without making a song and dance about it) he'll likely answer you. There's no need to say "R U GAY?" ask him his opinion of gays and bi-folk and then continue, depending on his answer.
2006-07-23 20:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that YOU are gay. If he's straight, but a friend, it shouldn't matter. If he's gay or bi, this discussion should lead to some understanding of whether or not he's interested in you.
2006-07-24 00:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to the guy without having to ask the question outright. I guess it's all about making him feel comfortable so that you can find out the issue. As with alot of things it may not be as simple as it first appears. Good luck!!!
2006-07-23 20:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well not much to do but wait...
wait to see where this friendship leads u to...
maybe itll get u ur answer...
think of this ask ur self:
does he know ur gay/bi?
does he look at u when ur not looking, does he check u out?
is he fem or is he manly?
has he tried to make a move on u?
2006-07-23 20:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by dannie gay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows you're gay, and is totally ok with it, then try to hint around that you want to know. or just flat out ask him. if he does know you're gay and isn't ok with it, then don't bother trying to find out. you could break the relationship that way.
2006-07-24 10:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by gaygoddevil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
srry to answer with a question but what difference does it make...and if you're friends I'm sure he'd understand the question if you put it to him..discretly.....say at a movie night for two... and in any case,dont you know that curiosity killed the cat.
2006-07-23 22:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by raven jack. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him. bring it up casually. im serious. ive done it lots of times and NEVER has it ruined, or even damaged a relationship. have i mentioned about half of the time they arent gay? my gay-dar is really f-u-c-k-ed up.
2006-07-23 20:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by Adrian N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋