2006-07-23 19:49:58 · 28 answers · asked by foolish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was on business in Florida nd she went to california to see him.Why would she tell me now.She said it waas a good friend and she needed the vacation.
2006-07-23 19:51:39 · update #1
I also asked what her feeling were for hi and her answer was tha she liked him and he was very immature.do women reall need to have sex witha man that bad they will go anywhere to see them
2006-07-23 20:13:30 · update #2
at least she told you ...you gotta respect her honesty ..as far as leaving ...follow your heart
2006-07-23 19:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by l2hunt2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry about that
sham on her 4 doing this 2 u but if u believe in forgiving then idk n
maybe u should go talk to ur pastor well idk
well i guess this is a very personal problem and there is many bad and mean ppl out here that might give u a bad though well i think u should let ur heart decide and no 1 here can really answer 4 u should ask ppl in ur family b8ter than asking this kinda Q here is not a good idea
well i hope 4 u the best dude
2006-07-23 20:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by chinese_lil_bratty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a family, than as the man of the house u need to take the responsibility and try everything to keep your family together. If she was honest enough to tell you then that is pretty good. But even then, i suggest you go to marriage counseling and just pray about the situation and see how everything goes. If you don't have a family, then you will see the signs if she is or is not mateur enough to BE married and tie the knot.
2006-07-23 19:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a woman has an affair, there's always an underlying reason. Maybe you have been neglecting her? It's a cry for attention, that's why she told you. But the damage has been done and this is hard to repair, you really have to open a new leaf in your life and either forgive her, if you can't then you have to leave her. It's pointless to stay in a marriage if you don't have trust and respect for each other.
2006-07-23 19:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all I can say is you have to learn to forgive and forget, and if you can't do either, then leave. Forgiving is the easy part. Forgetting is the hardest.
Did she tell you because she wanted you to know or because she felt guilty? Then there is the trust issue. Do you think you'll be able to trust her again? It takes a long time to deal with cheating, it's not something that happens overnight. Only you can make the choice to leave. YOU know what you can handle and what you can't!
2006-07-23 19:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women need a man to lead her. She went for the other guy cuz she figured he could give her something that you weren't providing (at this time)
If you are interested in staying married to her talk to her about what i just said. All your answers are there.
Before you have this conversation make sure she knows that you want to work it out and that SHE needs to trust you and discover what it is that sparked this behavior.
Some women aren't worth the trouble...but she's bold and told you. That's a good sign, man.
2006-07-23 19:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by Rustomji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, some vacation....Seriously though,.....What is the root of the problem? You gotta ask yourself. What is wrong with your relationship that she did this....Did you do something to upset her? Do you give her enough attention? Are you a good husband? Talk and see, maybe your relationship is salvageable. Infidelity is usually a symptom of a greater problem...Trust is the core of the relationship. If you can still have trust then maybe you can work it out.....
2006-07-23 20:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Bram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why she cheated. If something goes awry in a relationship...it's BOTH of your faults. Sure she is the more wrong...but you need to find out what the impetus behind her doing so was. It will teach you alot about her, you, yall, and you can then make a more informed decision.
2006-07-23 19:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by bengalicyberia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two questions. Do you enjoy living with her? And do you think she'd repeat it? If you do not enjoy living with her and think she'd fool around again, leave her. If you enjoy living with her and do not expect she'll fool around more, let it go and enjoy your old age with her.
To put it in perspective: next time you see an old woman, ask yourself if anyone cares whether or not she had an affair or not. The real question is whether or not anyone enjoys her company.
2006-07-24 15:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO that would be foolish to leave such an honest wife. If she would not have told you then you would have never known. So if you have done anything like that then you also tell her and make a new beginning.
2006-07-23 20:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cannot make it anymore then better move on with your life. but settle everyhting especially your children. let them understand the really picture so they would be able to accept it. but im hoping that the first act of infidelity will not jeopardise your family if you can still accept her after what happened give her a chance.. but if you cannot anymore. you ha ve a life. build it again!
2006-07-23 19:55:07 · answer #11 · answered by gemini kra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋