We met and there was chemistry right away. she has three kids from same father who died in a car accident. I know this sounds shallow but I'm not ready to be a father of three. She seems to want to be with me. Should I have sex with her knowing that we are not going to end up together? I can tell it's going to happen and I think we both want each other sexually. But I don't want to lead her on. what should I do?
2006-07-23 19:46:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BE HONEST WITH HER
2006-07-23 19:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by barbaradjt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it for goodness sake! Her last man died in a car accident. She does not need to deal with another accident with you. Would you want someone to do your mom like that? Just be friends with her. Tell her you are not looking for nothing serious, and you don't want to get involved. If she dosen't want to get involved with you, and just want to be with you just for sex, then go for it. Use protection, because she can get pregant then you are stuck with an baby mother with four kids! She may try to trap you. So you can help her with those children.If she is this desperate. She may also be sexually active with someone else too. It does not seem like one night of passion is really worth it does it?NOOOOOOO. Move on dude?
2006-07-23 20:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all she wants is sex too, then it is fine, but if she has feelings for you, then no. You have to ask her how she feels, tell her you are not ready to be in any kind of serious relationship right now, but that you want her very much sexually, however, do not tell her it is because of her children, in fact, don't even bring them into the conversation.
2006-07-23 19:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kdot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep it as friends, she might tell you she's OK with just sleeping together but deep down she'll be hoping you'll want more.... If you chose to hang out with her make sure she knows that you don't want a relationship and do all of you a favour don't get involved with the kids.. if your not looking for anything you won't need to get the kids attached to you... it's not fare to them....
2006-07-23 20:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you are upfront with her from the beginning. Some single mothers have learned from experience that it's not a easy thing to bring a man into a ready made family and all she is looking for is sex.
2006-07-23 19:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by sweetp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, before u just use her and throw her away, if u atleast tell her how u feel, she can decide for herself if thats ok with her or not, but to not tell her, and to sleep with her, and just use her for sex is WRONG.. so talk to her, let her know that ur not interested in being anything serious.. that u like her, and that basically u want to be friends with benefits.. u could get lucky and she could say thats all she wants, but u owe it to her to atleast let her make that choice..
2006-07-23 19:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by preciosa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your feelings straight up. And let her make the choice. If you do have any sort of feelings at all for at least respect the way she would feel afterwords if you didn't say anything at all. Honesty can still get you lucky, at least she will know up front how you feel.
2006-07-23 19:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you both understand there is no commitment.
She is simply satisfying her urges, and yours, there is nothing wrong
simply put, in it's basics
Sex does not correlate to love, love is an emotion, sex is a urge.
Simple rule of thumb, as long as it does not hurt you or her physically or mentally.
Enjoy
2006-07-25 07:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by Juggernaut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shes been through alot already, if you dont see her for anything but sexually than maybe you should end it before she gets attached and than hurt
2006-07-23 20:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she knows that's what you want and is alright with it. I say go for it...AS LONG....as you do not meet her kids. Stability is important to kids. You should not be around them and in their lives...AT ALL. But you are grown enough to have casual sex if that is what you want.
2006-07-23 19:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by bengalicyberia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight with her and never meet the kids. If the kids get attached to you, and you don't want them, then you're a jerk.
2006-07-23 19:51:36 · answer #11 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋