I'm in love with my bestfriend and it hurts alot everytime I feel unattended and dissapointed,I dont know how to move on and forget her because I'm totally attached to her and I'm even the godfather of both of her children, weve been bestfriends for about 9 years already at first I've accepted the fact that she can only love me as a friend because he loves someone else and its impossible for her to love me more than being bestfriends, we became as close as bestfriends because of all the things that weve gone through, I'm always there everytime she needs me, I cant let anything happen to her, I've attempted to forget about her alot of times but everytime she contacts me and expresses her needs I cannot help but be there for her. what should I do? it really hurts alot everytime I misses her and cant ask her out because of the situation, and Im afraid that someday she will completely forget about me because of her responisibilities and family life..
2006-07-23 19:36:57 · 15 answers · asked by rohn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well I am in a similar situation. I've fallen for a guy who is married, and I just found out he was married or I never would have given him a second glance. Anyways the best thing I've found to do is try your hardest to forget your love for them. How?? Take your focus off of this person by not seeing them as much as you would like to. Fill your mind with other things. Meet other singles in your area, try to find interest in someone else. Also if you are religious pray about it. God can do wonders to heal a broken heart. I'm sorry you are going through this situation, I feel your pain. It hurts really bad, but in the end everything will be okay..but don't ever break up a marriage. That will only hurt you and everyone else and you will regret it forever. good luck and God bless you!
2006-07-23 19:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not married and have no children, and would love a friend like you too!!! Really, I am dating a man who went out on his wife, and he told me all about it and more, and I wish he never told me all this.....because I have a really hard time trusting him now and its been going on for three years now.
Look at it this way, what happened if you did get together and she found a new friend and she started to call him and he would come and help her,
I feel you would have a hard time with this, because you have been on the other side of this too, and you would know and be afraid that this other person just might fall in love with her too.
I bet you would have a hard time trusting too?
It's never easy, but I am learning too the hard way still, but would I know now, if it doesn't feel right and there are alot of questions, then its best to keep it the way it is, and don't go any further than that and keep your self safe and from getting hurt.
Hang in there and many good blessings to you!
2006-07-23 19:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will never forget you......after all you are her best friend. If she is happy with her family life then you should honor that and let things be. Do not become a home-wrecker!!!! Be happy that you are the kids' godfather. If you truly love her then support her and be there for her and expect nothing else. If you were destined to be a couple then God will put you guys together one way or another.
2006-07-23 19:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Solara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,you almost have answers to all your questions its just that you are too involved in self pitying your self.....
dont forget that your best friend is married with a family,which means she has a responsibiltiy,how fair it'll be the part of those kids if she has to get invovled in something like this.and the main part is that she does'nt love you....please try and get away from her and do not expect anything like tis to happen....you being the god fatherof her kids proves that they trust you a lot,so why do you want to spoil relations and why do you want to spoil a "Family"?
neverforget that love is to give happiness,love is not about taking awya someones life.....
the best thing for you is to find some one nice for you and m sure there is someone best waiting for you out there,just look out!!
try and be away from this family for sometime,get invovled in some sport and keep your slef busy and above all,accept the fact that shes married,she loves her family more than anything and any body else...........
2006-07-23 19:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same sitch here, and everytime I look at those kids I just repeat the word "Homewrecker" over and over until it gets through that it couldn't be a worse move.
Quit being selfish and move on!
2006-07-23 20:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by mithril 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unrequited love - bummer!
Respect and accept her marriage and move on - the right person is out there for you but you keep missing her because you are so blinkered by your feelings for your friend
2006-07-23 19:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to another continent and establish a new circle of friends and lovers.
2006-07-23 19:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by klunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer.... get a grip, a life, and move on. There's no hope and she's only using you.
2006-07-23 19:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont break up their marriage,just tell that person you in love with them.its better to tell someone what s on yo mind than to hold it in.but you know they married and you waited too damn long to say something so thats your lost.move on find someone else to fall in luv with.
2006-07-23 19:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by $2Stout$ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone els to like in that way stay her best friend it will help you feel more comfurtable around her and thans will go easer on you
2006-07-23 19:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by medical junor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋