My girlfriends 2 boys bully my son.?

Question

One boy is 8 and the other is 6. Mine is also 6. I told her to stop it, but it has not. She said because my son tells on them and that makes them dislike it. He is an only child and, very well behaved. So he does not know how to act 2 boys who are always doing the wrong thing. It is my fault I told him to tell me when ever someone does wrong to him, so that is what he learned. So should I put the fear in god in them, which will only make them hate me. That is what I did to one (the 6 yr old). And he stopped. Or should I break up, which I would hate. Or what do I do? She says punish him for tattling. But I have a hard time doing so. Because I told him to tell me. I told him to stop doing it so much, he did. He even stopped, not completly but it rarely happened. But one boy did not stop his bullying( the 8 yr old ). But if I scare him into not bullying my son, he would only hate me. I only want them to stop tormenting my son. I have lost my patients, and soon I will loose my temper.

Answer 1

You definitely need to talk to your girlfriend about this...she is practicing immature parenting by letter her kids act like that.

I do agree with her /somewhat/...your boy shouldn't 'tattle'. Tattling is a bad habit that I think would affect a boy's life when he becomes older. I think tattling would lead him to be obnoxious later in life and unable to solve things on his own. It's good that you talked with him. He SHOULD tell you when things are wrong.

She needs to talk to her children. If you have tried to do your part [by talking with your son] then she definitely needs to do hers. If she refuses to...I'd have to rethink the entire thing. If she can't put her foot down to her children now then just think about when they get older or when she needs to take control of an even more important situation in your lives later on.

Take care and don't let this go on for another second not noticed. Talk with her!

Answer 2

U r doing the correct thing by telling yr son 2 confide his problems 2 u. How did they bully yr son? Can he just ignore it so when theyc there is no reaction they will stop. It will be difficult at 1st but eventually they will get fed up. Just let yr son knows that u will always stand by him no matter what happens and u will always be by his side whenever he needs help. Discuss with him how he would like u 2 solve the problem.

Answer 3

uh hello!!!ure boy is doing rite he should tell u if someones bullying him she is the one that should stop her kids from bothering ures is not tht ure son is the bad one for tattlin is her kids r the bad ones for bothering him think about it cus u may b huriting ure child in this situation if u punish him now for telling u wuts bothering him he might end up being the kid that a lot of ppl pick on just cus he lets them u need to seriously talk to ure gf about it and she needs to learn to control her kids.

Answer 4

you obviously don't have the same parenting skills. i wish yu would have been my guy when i met my ex-husband way back when cause i went through the same garbage don't put your son though it find a woman that is the way you are.

Answer 5

STICK UP FOR YOUR SON! And tell her to take a hike if she can't make her kids behave.

Answer 6

you should tell ur little boy 2 beat up the other little boy! aiight my nephew was in the same **** but then he whopped that *** and know that little boy stopped doin **** 2 him

Answer 7

Tell your son it's ok to defend himself. If she sayes anything, tell her what else do you want him to do sit there and take it.

Answer 8

you are upset .
your boy is upset.

have a frank talk with your girlfriend.
surely she can't be blind to this.

if that doesn't work,
drop the friendship and move on.