Most of the time I feel straight, but then sometimes I think about all the reasons that I could be bi or lesbian, and I even want to be bi or lesbian, so that makes me even more confused. I have always felt uncomfortable in relationships with males, I strongly want to fight for the GLBT community, and does the fact that I want to kind of mean that I am? Is there anyplace online that I could go to discus this? do you have any ways to help me?
2006-07-23 19:25:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You said it your just confused ......
2006-07-23 19:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well girl ! it is more around in the worldd these days . Allot of are confusion is we have choices . plus we relate to a girl better then a boy . All people think this way ,it is natural and some are just adventures,in are minds. But if it is really confusing you, that it is on your mind all the time . I would see a doctor and they will help you. You may have things you need to get out that are berried inside that are making you concentrate on this so much. I am 50 years old and I still wonder now and then ,so it is more normal for a girl to talk about it then a boy. For they are more hung up on what people think. Where girls can adjust to all different situations better . So relax life has overdosed all the worl to this and it has become a fade in some pleases.If you feel not interested at all in men and are only attracted to girls then you are gay but if you think about it out of wondering what it would be like is normal. It is like different foods ,you see some one eating it and you wonder what it would taste like. Some times you are best keeping it as a fantasy, we all have them as well making love to many types of people . Your young and imaginative and you have a lot of time to explore. I did try once , I wished I hadn't for it was more imaginative and exciting to think about it then doing it
2006-07-24 02:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by lois k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First relax. You are what you are. Some say genetic, some say environment.
Now for some relligious observation: 1 Cor. 10:23-24 with emphasis on 24. This is the new testament.
The bible ban gay relationships is intended for the Jews.This is the old testament, and does not apply to you unless you are Jewish.
Your question requires more than a simple answer; however, try http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity and see if that provides enough material to help you with with gender preference.
Since you are sixteen and a minor, I suggest you go slowly and try to follow your emotions regarding this. Relax, go to your noral high school function. Sooner or later you will find yourself in an environment where you can experiment and verify what your sexual preference is; that environment is usually college.
2006-07-24 02:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by J. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about labeling yourself. Go w/ your feeling it will lead you to where you are supposed to be. Do you find yourself attracted to women? Just because you want to support a group doesn't necessarily mean that is what you are. (Thank goodness--what if we all supported AA and that were so. We'd all be alcoholics.) Sometimes you just have strong convicitions. Just don't tie yourself down...be you not bi or straight or lesbian.
2006-07-24 02:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by Sapiosexual 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are a great person who is offended by discrimination. That part doesn't sound at all confused. Maybe you are bi-curious, bi, les, or simply experiencing your hormones running a bit out of control. Confusing, yes, pretty normal, too.
Try searching for an LGTB teen site, or for a LGTB center in your area, maybe something thru PFLAG.
Have faith in yourself, always.
2006-07-24 02:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine to be questioning your sexuality. You could go to a local GLBTQ youth group or adult meeting to talk about your feelings and other issues to do with the community. There are many good web-sites that you could look at for information like (linked)
YouthResource: (can help you find local youth group)
http://www.youthresource.com/about/youth_group.htm
PFLAG:
http://www.pflag.org/Getting_Support-Coming_Out.coming_out.0.html
Human Rights Campaign:
http://www.hrcactioncenter.org/actioncenter/home.html
Radio with a Twist:
http://www.radiowithatwist.com/home/
2006-07-24 17:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every one goes through this stage...
some go past it with ease... otheres take some time to finally find them selves...
just think of what it would be like to be with a man...
and what it would be like to be with a woman...
think into it and just take which u think is best for u...
ur quite young... but u might need to have some lesbian experiencise...
be sure that its the right girl though.... not a loud mout that'll tell the whole world on what u did with her...
and be sure to be safe on what u do and who u do it with...
my best bet would be ur bi. but u need to find that out on ur own
2006-07-24 03:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by dannie gay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is not to fight your sexuality and don't try and wear a label of 'gay', 'lesbian', etc until you are comfortable with your sexuality. There is loads of support groups and forums for sexuality issues. The main thing is be proud to be who you are whatever that might mean!
2006-07-24 02:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to feel confused. You have a lot of time to work it all out and don't feel pressured to make a "commitment". You don't have to do so. There are lots of gay sites where you can get help with exactly your situation and where you can chat with others just like you. Rule number one.... Don't Panic!!!
Try www.gay.com to begin with. Good luck and be happy.
2006-07-24 02:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by pieter U3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the flow. 16 is a very confusing age. The hormones which bombard you is the reason for the confusion. Please concentrate on sports activities and try to keep your mind off the subject.
2006-07-24 02:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by tnkumar1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait until you are 42, and confused your children, I was. No w thihng are a mess, but I am finally happy.
2006-07-24 02:28:15 · answer #11 · answered by yourmyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋