My bf is very possessive about me.. we are deeply in love with each other since th past 6 years an we are marrying next year. he has his reasons to believe that i cant be trusted coz i had some very dark skeletons hidden in the closet which i told him at the nascent stages of our relationship. He was complely shaken ...he wanted 2 leave me but i begged him not 2. tht was my past n it wd nevr cme back. he 2 lved me 2 much 2 live without me. we moved on but he was always scared tht i might 4get him wn we got away fm each other. i went 2 sme other place to study n 1 day i lied to him fr goin to a guy friend's bday party. we had th biggest fight of our lives tht day an since then he was so disturbed mentally tht he started taking sleeping pills. he s the nicest guy i know but now he hs developed a split personality.. he gets paranoid wen he remembers th numerous mistakes i ve committed .. i want 2 help himself n myself. an no.. plz dont tell me 2 leave him.He's my life!!
2006-07-23 19:24:57 · 4 answers · asked by sonz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe you should have a good talk with him and understand what he is thinking. Love is not just a guessing game. When it is time to ask question, pls don't keep quiet. It won't help in the relationship development. Furthermore you should do something to give him the assurance that you are serious abt your relationship with him and gain back his trust. After having a good talk will improve your relationship with him and gain more understanding. Give yourself and him another chance to save this relationship.
2006-07-23 19:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Nanako 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U destroyed a person mind just becos u feel guilty abt yr past. U r not worthy of him. Teach all a lesson. What is past is past. When u meet some1 new start fresh. The only solution is 2 reasssure him at every moment that u will not make any more stupid mistakes. No more lies. Win his trust back. Let him know where u will be all the x u r away fr him. Encourage him not 2 resort 2 sleeping pills. Ask him what he wants fr u 2 give him peace of mind and do it if u really love him.
2006-07-23 19:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by lynnbtohs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey one piece of advice u never tell your present relationship about your past relationships ever.However now that u have told u can try to involve him in everything u do like every outing u go to and every party u go to.In his presence avoid interacting too much with any one and spend as much time with him as possible. this wont happen overnight .U have to do this for quite some time. Becoz trust is something that cannot be earned overnight.slowly he will realize how much he means to u and have trust on you.
2006-07-23 19:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...that's a complicated one but...it's very important to have trust in a relationship, without it, there is nothing.
sO Do what u can to continue working at things becuz that's what building a relationship is...if things continue to get worse and not better, than u kno what needs to be done. u can only try for so long.
2006-07-23 20:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by bubblegum0402 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋