I am 16 years old and my boyfriend wants to have sex , but I am scared that it might hurt. I feel ready, but don't know if it hurts. please tell me
2006-07-23 19:04:24 · 29 answers · asked by sexymama 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
it depends on you...it hurt me the first time and a couple times after that
2006-07-23 19:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by bella91722 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl. I read the answers and it sounds like people are trying to scare you. Look, I'm 16 too and i've lost my virginity. I have a pretty high pain threshold, but it only hurt a little. It might've helped that my boyfriend is experienced and knew what he was doing. But even if urs doesnt, don't worry. Just tell him to be a bit careful the first time. Sometimes bein a little gentle aint a bad thing. And i promise you the pleasure is so worth whatever little bit of pain you might feel. I also want to tell you that, unlike apparently lots of other people, I think if you are sure about urself ad confidant, go for it. Just be safe. And if you do make a mistake, it is not the end of the world. You can always e-mail me and I'll help you however I can. Don't worry though, use a condom and make sure it doesn't break, you should be just fine. Oh, and as embarrasing as it may be to ask, ask you your bf and make sure he does not have any std's. My sister made the mistake of not asking. But honestly, go out and buy urslef some sexy lingerie and some condoms for ur boy toy and have fun! You only ggot one life to live and it aint long, so enjoy it!!!
2006-07-23 22:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! Not if you know what your doing. Ofcourse if youre boyfriend is pressuring you, dont do it HE WILL LEAVE YOu afterwards it happens to people I know all the time, they go out with a guy for 2 months or so then they have sex then they brake up and the girl is left heartbroken. SO make sure you you feel the same way about each other, try not to seem to vunerable and dont just let him have his way because he wants it. It is a bad way to have a relationship. But really make sure beyond a resonable doubt that this guy cares about you, and your emotional and physical needs before you take the plunge. I mean sex is great and beautiful experience, with the right person ofcourse dont let him use you. And I only would reccomend it if you have been dating him for a while and you know him better then yourself, I mean REALLy Well! And ofcourse use protection if he doesnt want to, then he obviously doesnt respect you and you shouldnt be with someone like that anyways. And dont listen to the whole "He'll Pull Out SPeech" there is a 15 year old girl at my school who got knocked up by a 19 year old that way. So be safe.
2006-07-23 19:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by Myranda! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a virgin, it might hurt because sexual penetration pierces the hymen, which is a thin layer of skin in your reproductive tract. You will probably bleed, but the pain will vary according to your boyfriend's experience, size and your personal pain threshold. You won't be able to have intercourse for a day or two afterward as the injury heals.
Sex after this won't hurt in the mind-blazing way the first time will, but I really urge you to wait. You may be ready for sex, but are you ready for pregnancy? Can you bear and support a child if your boyfriend gets you pregnant, and could you raise the child if he abandoned you? Are you certain he's the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, and settle down with if you have a child together (for the baby's sake)? Are you willing to risk STD's, and living the rest of your life with something nasty, painful and permanent like genital herpes?
These are all things you have to consider. Be strong, and take your time. Whatever you decide, if he really loves you, he'll respect it. If he forces you, report him for rape.
2006-07-23 19:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by bracken46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's up with abstaining until eventually 16? that maintains to be too youthful. there's a reason the criminal age is eighteen. a minimum of wait until eventually you're legally no longer a baby. besides, you want to inform the certainty. i comprehend it sucks to enable your self get in difficulty, yet once you're honest, your moms and dads might want to possibly believe you to inform the certainty about some thing after that. They comprehend how not easy it truly is to inform the certainty about some thing so enormous. the very incontrovertible certainty that you would take care of to can make you seem as if a saint.
2016-11-25 20:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all if ur ready than theres no reason to worry bout it, but if ur asking than ur not ready. I was 16 when i lost mine and i always asked does it hurt and im scared but when it happened i wasn't thinkin about that because if u love the person and u begin to get intimate with them all the fears and questions go away in an instant
2006-07-23 19:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by butlersgrl07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex when I was 15 and now I am married with the guy...and have a daughter...and have had a few other things go on. My advice is to not have sex with him because it doesn't help anything and you will then know if he loves you. you are to young and although I am not saying that you shouldn't have sex before you get married, I really think that you need to wait. There is no rush or no reason.
2006-07-23 19:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by sam g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time always hurts.
There is a difference between having something taken away, and giving something away. When you give yourself away like that you can only do it once in your entire lifetime.
Do you really want to remember for the rest of your life that you gave it to a guy, then later you broke up, and he doesnt cherish that special part of you that you can never give away again... your inocence?
I gave myself away on my wedding night, and it was beautiful. It was like being half of a beating heart. I have the comfort of a safe and wonderful marriage where that gift to my sweetie is honored, and cherished. Nearly nobody gets that.
2006-07-23 19:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by Curly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 15 and i had sex for the first time like 2 weeks ago, it was awesome, ive heard that it hurt from many people the first time, but it didnt at all. just make sure that your comfortable and that its something you want to.
good luck!
2006-07-25 13:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by itsniicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex for the first time TODAY, okay? And I CRIED it hurt like CRAZY... and you bleed for a while, but you'lll hafta get it over with eventually... just if you're prepared for it... I WASN'T ....dang it hurt...for hours afterwards too....and then you have naeusea )sp?) the rest of the day :(
2006-07-23 19:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel scared about having sex, then you are not ready and if your bf cannot respect that then he isn't worth it. and yes it does hurt and it might bleed. really think about what you are doing before you do it!!
2006-07-23 19:11:57 · answer #11 · answered by Lillie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋