what’s an acceptable age to start having sex?

Question

I’m 15... I feel like I’m too young or something even though I’m fully prepared for sex. I talked to my doctor about it and everything. I got all the protection I need and I trust my boyfriend with my life. We have been going out for 8 months now and I’m just about ready to take the plunge but am I to young? Every time I try to talk to a grown up about it they seem to be shaking there head at me like I’m not ready even though both me and my boyfriend feel completely safe and ready. What do u think makes someone ready?

Answer 1

When you are old enough to face the consequences of your own actions...when you can understand that NO form of birth control (not even condms) is 100% effective and every time you CHOOSE to have sex you CHOOSE all of the consequences that go with it including pregnancy, stds and hiv, and you are responsible for those choices. So if you're not ready to face the consequences both emotionally as well as financially then you're not old enough.

Answer 2

First of all...you seem to be a very mature 15 year old because asking this type of question means that you have the ability to foresee what can happen once you become sexually active. I did not have sex until I was 19 and I met my husband at 15 and we have been married for 14 years now...he is my first love...it works out sometimes and sometimes it does not, so before you take the plunge, make sure you truly believe that this guy is THE ONE or dam close because giving up your virginity is special. I honestly feel 15 is too young...I am 32...however, nobody can stop you and you are going to do what you feel is right. If my daughter, which is now 11 came to me and asked me at 15 this same question, I'd let her make the decision because i'd rather be involved in her life than to ridicule her and make her feel it's wrong. Of coarse I would counsel her on everything she needs to know from protection, to STD's, etc...what I did when I was ready to have sex at 19 was I talked to my husband (boyfriend at the time) and discussed everything from protection to being faithful...I would not take that plunge until I knew that after I had sex with him he'd still be there the next day. You need to feel trust and unconditional love for him. What really makes somebody ready to have sex is the ability to accept that once they have done it, they are willing to live with any and all of the consequences...good and bad. One of the things you must consider is pregnancy...condoms don't always work...birth control pills sometimes screw up your system, there is more to having sex that it seems...make a good choice, it's yours to do and I wish you well!

Answer 3

Age isn't the issue at all. Everyone should wait until they're married to have sex. If the condom breaks or falls off during sex, are you prepared to raise a child? Do you have the emotional and financial means to take care of that child? I doubt any 15 year old does. Some raise children out of necessity, but not out of readiness.

Adults tell you that you're not ready because they are right. They know you better than you know yourself. You think you're ready, but 15 years from now, you'll look back and realize you were wrong. We've been in your shoes. Listen to experience and not your feelings.

Ask yourself this...if you think you are so ready, why are you having doubts? It's an obvious sign that you're not ready.

Answer 4

I'm going to say if you think you're ready for the possibility of a child then you're answer is yes.

However you said you trust your boyfriend with your life but you never said you were in love with him.
I was 18 when I had lost my virginity and I don't regret it because it is somebody I am in love with and who is in love with me. We both discussed the up's and down's of having sex, if I were to get pregnant what would happen and what not. We're engaged now and we know we want to spend the rest of our lives together.
So if you feel that way about your boyfriend then it's your decision just make sure you're ready for what could pop up.

Answer 5

18. Or in some states 17 is considered a legal, consenting adult. Personally, I don't believe in having sex unless you're in love, and i KNOW no one under the age of 18 knows what true love is. It's all infatuation or puppy love, so to speak. You're 15. Don't have sex, no matter how much you think you love this person. Sex is a very beautiful thing that should only be done between two people who love each other, and at the age of 15, you don't understand love. One word: WAIT!!!

Answer 6

no, having protection and trusting your boyfriend doesnt mean you are ready. eventhough you said you are fully prepared to have sex, but are you really prepared in term of responsibilities, since sex is not only about fun and love but it also include responsibility.

trust most adult since they have much experience about this matter. you can see some/most (not sure about this, coz varies on each country) of them regret having sex before they are ready.

to add more, in my opinion, virginity is something precious, priceless, even more expensive that anything you can buy in this world. it is not something you can give others easily, eventhough you been with your boyfriend for a year or decade. moreover having a relationship doesnt always mean you need to have a sex.

well i'm 23 still young and virgin. there's nothing to be ashamed of it. (doesnt mean i'm ugly ok ;p)

Answer 7

I lost my virginity at 13, and no 1 could promote it. Now that I am 21, I really regret not waiting. In just a few years sex meant so much more. Its your desicion, but you should really think on it. How will you feel abou tyour choice 6 years from now. I never thought I would think this way. You might not either.Most likely you two won't stay together, no offense, but relationships at your age don't usually last, personal experience. Your virginity is a sign that you are strong enough to withstand peer pressure. it is a sign of you independance of a man. it is your badge of honor. wear it proudly.

Answer 8

nicely, the place i stay the regulation is 17 yet of course people forget approximately that, which i detect sorta worrying. In theory, i think of its perfect at 18 on the grounds it fairly is adulthood. on a similar time no one is waiting for a infant at that age subsequently my OPINION is intercourse may well be irresponsible as a results of fact there is not any certain birth control. intercourse might desire to be in a committed courting and marriage is the only dedication (i don't see why people dispute that). All in all, you have to be set for toddlers and/or marriage, emotionally and otherwise, and that age ought to variety for various people from, say, 18-30?

Answer 9

Records show girls as yoing as 8 giving birth to babies. At 15, ypu are no doubt physically developed for the sex act but , I suspect , there's a bigger question involved: are you mentally developed for being an unwed teen-age mother shpuld you conceive. You may not inmtend that to hapen but maternity wards are full of babies born to children. What's the right age? The night of your honeyrmoon!! Save that thrilling event for the right time!

Answer 10

You are too young to have sex.
Picture your life as a mountain. As a virgin you are on the top of the mountain. Your view is clear and you can see everything. No one is above you, everything you can see is yours.
Now you have sex and you go down the mountain, How far down? Well that depends on what you do, Marriage....bar night......15 years old.......drunken night in TJ.......long term relationship.......now you are not on the top of the mountain, you will never see that clearly again, you will never be on top of the mountain again. Why not enjoy the top of the mountain for as long as you can? You can always make up for it later and go wild, hopefully when you are married with a college degree, with your husband. You NEVER regret waiting, but you almost always regret not waiting.

Answer 11

marriage. Kids are start to young. I have a girl in my class that is 17 and has 2 children. amazing. If you are not ready don't do it. plan and simple..ReGRET can haunt you for awhile. What would your parents say if they found out. Just think about that.. Get Good Grades stay in school make lots of money. Then get married to a guy who has lots of money have kids. Then take half of the guys money. That is what my ex wife did.