Please help, I dont think it would be a good idea since she is still so young. I dont have a problem with it when she's a little older, but she is very attached to me. I am the one who always is with her and gets up with her through the night, he never has.
2006-07-23 18:45:55 · 10 answers · asked by jenna r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would wait for an overnight but let him see her as often as he wants during the day. You wont be able to sleep and you know it. I doubt she will either. Unless there is a court order saying to do so.. tell him she is too young still. Do you breastfeed?
2006-07-23 18:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't got a clue what he's up against, will be in for the toughest nites or his life. Let him do it just once, and he'll never ask again.
But personally tho, I don't think it's a good idea since she's so attached to u. She'll hv as miserable a nite as he will. Mebbe u cld test him first by hvg him spend the nite (on the couch) and tending to her needs each time she wakes up during the nite.
2006-07-24 01:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by ka_franz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that unless you need your child to be with you because you breast feed, I don't see anything wrong with her father spending time with her. You are the one she relies on because you are around her all the time. Be grateful that her father wants to be involved in her life---a lot of fathers are absentee. Maybe instead of going directly into spending the night--have her spend a few hours in the day or evening with him first so that she gets used to him--his smell, the way he handles her. Then she can spend the night. Good reality check for him, too. You both made her, you need to make sure she gets to know you both.
2006-07-24 01:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has every right as her dad to have her stay the night with him, shes so little shes not even going to realize that your not there, so its not her that u have to worry about its you.. ur the one that is haveing the seperation anxiety not the baby, if you were still together u would have no problem leaving him with the baby for hours at a time .. so why not now, they need to bond just as much as u need to bond with your baby.. i know its hard, but damn its his child too.. stop being so selfish.. she'll be fine..
2006-07-24 01:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in some states, if u let your child go anywhere with the father without you, he could file for custody and u wouldn't see the child until after a hearing which could take months. so, no, don't do it, also, the baby needs you, the mother, and if ur not there, the baby will have a real hard time.
2006-07-24 01:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by somegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. He should see her in day time hours only, so if things get out of hand, he can bring her home to you. You may be setting yourself up for a baby who is afraid to go to sleep at nite or wakes often because she wants her mom and it makes her insecure when you are not there and he walks in.
Please dont send your baby overnite with your ex. It is a cruel thing to do.
2006-07-24 01:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is his child too. She should be bonding with him as she is you! He is showing that he cares about the child any you are very lucky in that aspect....there are a lot of single mom's who wish they had this problem!
2006-07-24 01:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by old dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just my opinion .. I would say no way, not until after she is a year old. If he wants her, then you come in the package.
Especially if you are nursing, but even if not ... not yet.
2006-07-24 01:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if thats his child she got 2 get a bond with him
2006-07-24 01:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah she should get to her father jus keep a check on her
2006-07-24 01:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by Top notch girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋