i am a teenager and in the past and peresent my dad emotionaly and phyicaly abused/es me. Like threatining to hang me and cusising at me all the time. But any way do i have a good reason to not want him to walk me down the asle when i get married? ( it is normal for brides to walk down by them selves?)
2006-07-23 18:41:32 · 13 answers · asked by Redtrack703 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can walk down the aisle by yourself if you wish. I've seen that happen at a lot of weddings. You can also ask another man--close relative or a family friend you are close to--to walk you down as well. Trust me, not every man who walks a woman down the aisle is her father. It is what makes you feel comfortable--either way is acceptable.
2006-07-23 19:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Valentina, if your father abuses you call the authorities ASAP i.e. Battered Women's Hot-line. Call 0 and ask the operator the agency. He is breaking the law!
No-one and I mean no one person has the right to raise a hand to you for ANY reason. As far as the emotional abuse goes he is changing the person that you are FOREVER. Please PLEASE talk to a guidance officer at your high school and deal with this asap. They will know exactly what to do. Trust me they will.
Your wedding is years away and walking down the aisle is the least of your worries. I worry you will find a man who will treat you the very same way. Many abused girls find spouses who batter them. They marry these men because it is what they know and understand.
Valentina, please get help. It will be the most courageous thing you do and I can not stress it enough that what your father is doing is changing you as a young woman. I fear for you and your safety. You must get across to him that what he is doing is absolutely unacceptable. I know it will be hard. It was for me. But I am glad I did it. God bless you each and every day.
2006-07-24 02:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by littleflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things remain as they are until you are ready to get married, then you certainly have a legimate reason to not have your dad walk you down the aisle. You may walk down the aisle alone or with anyone you choose.Let's hope that you aren't getting married any time soon, anyhow. That will give you time to work things out with your Dad. You should seek family counseling. If your father won't go with you, go with your Mom, or go by yourself. If you and your Dad can work things out, your problem with your wedding will be solved.I hopw everything works out for the best for you.
2006-07-24 01:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OM F G!!!!!
I have the same family prob too!!! My dad is just the same!!!
Anyways, I'm "only a kid" right now, but when I get married, I'm SO NOT walking the asle w/ my dad... And YOU DON'T HAVE TO!!! OK-- ppl might think it's weird, but who cares??? U have a good reason, and also, you're over 18. YOU are in control of YOUR life, NOT YOUR DAD. YOU decide who you're gonna walk the asle with :)
2006-07-24 01:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I have already answered one of your other questions, so I hope you don't mind me giving my opinion twice. I can't say I blame you for not wanting him to walk you down the isle! Forgive me for saying this, but your father sounds like one real sick bastard!! He has not earned the privilege of walking you, so don't feel guilty about it.
As far as walking by yourself, its been done before, but I would suggest that you find someone who can do it. Think of a man who you respect and trust, and ask him if he would be willing to honor you (Actually, he should be the one to feel honored).
I hope you are marrying for the right reasons! I have seen many girls in your situation marry to get out of a bad home, and not for love. Please be honest with yourself that your motive for doing so is the latter and not the former. God Bless!
2006-07-25 03:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you have issues and rights. Take heed to my advice. I would teach your Father a lesson, but unfortunately I'm not there to do it. I'd report ur Father to the local authorities and advise them that your father abuses you physically and threatens your life. Any man, especially a father who has a daughter should be a much better parent. If I was there, I'd arrest his sorry butt and slap so many counts on him that would make his head spin. I wouldn't have your father walk you anywhere, even if its your wedding. I'd put him in jail and move forward from there.
2006-07-24 01:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mindscrambler 30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I walked myself down the aisle, the history of the aisle walking is so that the bride doesn't run away, it is from older times when women had no choice, and....you DO have a choice, so no, i don't think your dad should be there to walk you down the aisle, that would be like saying, here she is, i am (the dad)handing her over to you (the groom) to abuse.
2006-07-24 01:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad doesn't need to be the one to walk you down the aisle. Many brides walk by themselves or have other family memebrs do it.
This is not something you need to think about. You need to get help for yourself to get out of the situation you are in with your dad.
2006-07-24 01:49:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not to normal for a bride to walk down the ailse by herself. When you get married though, you have a choice of anyone to walk you down the ailse. If you have a godparent, they could always walk down the ailse with you (or if you have a good, close relative). If your father abuses you, you have every right not to have him involved with you marraige.
2006-07-24 01:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by Sonico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all brides have a father, so they are given away by the mother, oldest brother, or maybe a grandfather. but ive also seen brides in movies walk down by themself. also, congrats on getting married..good luck
2006-07-24 01:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by somegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋