Concern for friend
2006-07-23 18:18:31 · 25 answers · asked by aducksler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's hard to say you were wrong because you were giving your opinion and/or sharing your feelings. The question is if she asked for your input.
Sometimes even though we feel strongly about something a friend is doing, we have to keep quiet until they ask.
Unsolicited comments can feel intrusive.
It sounds to me that your heart was in the right place though and if the relationship never improves, you can walk away knowing that your intention was a good one!
Just make sure next time that they are asking for your advice or input!
Best of luck to you all!
2006-07-23 18:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by ididntdoitthedogdid 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It depends on two things.
1): How long she knew this guy.
2): What you think of him for what you know she needs.
You can be concerned about her and express your reservations but it is everything in how you do it. If you try to make her feel crazy or stupid for doing this then YES she will and should be mad at you.
If she got married in a hurry and really did not have a chance to know him then you have a legitimate concern. The way you present that to her however is everything.
2006-07-23 18:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend married a guy that she had never met before. They were pen-pals and talked on the phone a few times. He came to visit her and while he was here they got married. Everyone was mad at her about it, and he's a jerk and hates her guts, but he's in the military so he's using her so he can stay living in military housing. What a catch, eh? I am anti-online relationships. They don't work.
2006-07-23 18:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by i_hate_subway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't ask for your opinion, then you should have kept your very valid concerns to yourself. Love can grow or crash and burn wherever you find it. I've heard horror stories of on-line romances that went very, very wrong.. On the other hand, yesterday I attended the wedding of a lovely couple who met on-line and moved in together within two weeks of their first face-to-face meeting. Just hope your friend has found her soul-mate. And be ready with a box of Kleenex if it doesn't work out.
2006-07-23 18:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Leah M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hun, i imagine many friendships do decelerate after one man or woman strikes in with their boyfriend, receives married or has toddlers, as they look to get wrapped up in somewhat bubble and overlook about the international. besides the undeniable fact that, no longer being friends with you because you're unmarried looks very unusual and that i'm no longer fullyyt particular that may be the reason - except she's reported so? in case you truly imagine it is the reason, why no longer purely overlook about her, as it is craziness! it ought to correctly be that she's wrapped up contained in the honeymoon era and probably she feels particularly envious of you and your unmarried existence and your career! Or.... it ought to correctly be that she feels somewhat conceited about being married and thinks that each and every man or woman else might want to be. Getting married does no longer make me experience any in yet differently about my friends though. if you're no longer particular of the reason, why do not you communicate which includes her? from time to time there's a reason you should under no circumstances imagine of it is making her aggravated at you and no one needs to strengthen the issue, so it purely festers. If she made you a bridesmaid she must have theory a range of of you. Why do not you purely say that you're feeling you've been drifting aside at the moment or purely purely ask in case you've executed something to harass her, because you experience an surroundings? She may no longer even comprehend that there is a situation! do not possibility dropping a friendship because of issues on your own head - communicate to her and get issues out contained in the open. If there is truly no longer something incorrect, she'll be a great deal stunned that you're feeling she's drifting away, and if she truly values your friendship she'll make alterations to save the friendship going. you would possibly want to experience free being unmarried and financially self sufficient! 25 is so youthful and to be honest, i does no longer get married at 25!! Take her out for a drink or 4 and function a heart to heart. you'll experience plenty extra ideal once you do. xx Emmie
2016-10-15 03:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you were not. You were being a concerned friend but she is grown all you can do is ask her like are you sure this is whayou want or do you really think this is best bcause in acuality it doesnt matter what you tell her grown folks gon do what grown folks want to do. So you were not wrong. More people need friends like you!
2006-07-23 19:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends.. is she old enough to make her own decisions???? if so but out.. just because she met him online doesnt mean u know how they feel about each other, its one thing to ask if she thinks things are moving to fast.. but to just tell her to slow down as if u know anything about how the 2 of them feel about each other is wrong..ur intentions were good, but the way you conveyed ur oppinion to her was bad..
2006-07-23 18:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a guy I met online and I have never been happier. Trust that your friend has enough sense to make the right decisions for her. Did she ask for your opinion? Trust me, you will know when it is right.
2006-07-23 18:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some ways yes and some no you are just being concerned about her but and don't want to see her hurt or divorce in a few months.
2006-07-23 18:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by mean and green 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you were right we really dont know these folks only what they tell you and most of its lies at least take the time to find out who they really are some are child molester some are already married some ate loking for young women to make the do there diry work such as support them and they usually turn out abusive drug user some have jail records check them out please they could be the one to take your life i fear mens on line and womens i really dont know
2006-07-23 19:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋