Ok heres the deal. Ever since last october ('05) I've only seen my best friend outside of classes a maximum of 6 times. Around that time something really bad happened to her and I understood why she was that way for awhile, but for the last 4 or 5 months she's been the same way. I've tried to come in contact with her but she's always either too busy or gone. I finally asked her about a week ago if she was still my friend or not and what was going on and she just said she was really busy and she still wanted to be my friend. But the thing is, I see her hanging out with some kids in my neighborhood alot. And she can't be that busy that she can't even call to say hello, can she? Should I believe that she wants to be my best friend still, or should I stop worrying and realize she doesn't have time for me anymore?
2006-07-23 17:47:53 · 21 answers · asked by iloveallanimals123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just let her be for a bit. I know how that is. Whatever happened is bugging her enough that she felt she needed a change. Maybe these other people don't know what happened and she likes that? Just give her time and space. If she doesn't make an effort down the road from now, then move on. Good luck.
2006-07-23 17:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by stowchick01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you did something to piss her off or annoy her severely. Ask her. Just say "Hey, you say you want to be my friend but you're never around, did I do something to upset you?" And make sure she knows that you won't be mad if she says yes you did offend her. If you genuinely did something crappy, apologize and let her know how much you would like to continue being friends. If she says you didn't do anything and has no valid explanation for her behavior, then I think maybe you should move on. Sometimes friends just grow apart. I'm guessing you're in high school. If so, this is pretty normal for high schoolers. I hope for your sake that she's just going through a rough time and you can work things out. Good luck.
2006-07-24 00:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she just does not want to associate with you anymore. So what? She's not the center of the universe! It hurts to lose a friend, but you have time, you will make so many more. Go out there and be friendly, start making new connections of your own. It will be good for you. Don't dwell on her, she's history. I would also recommend ignoring her completly from now on.
2006-07-24 01:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it i mean you can't make someone be friends with you. You seem really nice and i am sure you have lots of friends. People change and maybe whatever it was that happened to her changed her she still might like you.
I guess best thing would be just to leave it alone and if she wants to be friends and want to talk she will.
2006-07-24 00:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some slack. It appears that she's backing away from you for some reason and finding time for other new friends. Why not do the same? Friendships are funny. Sometimes they just need a cooling off time; then before you know it, that person pops back into your life. I wouldn't write her off for good, just find some others to hang with and make new friends. You don't have to just have one! Make time for yourself and your new buddies. When she misses you, she'll be back.
2006-07-24 00:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it sounds like she's moved on and is too afraid to be honest with you. Instead of putting so much energy into trying to be someones friend that is rude and obviously won't give you the time of day, put that energy into finding some new friends or hobbies that will get you in touch with new people. Sorry, that really sucks and she will miss out but you shouldn't waste your time with her.
2006-07-24 00:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by mr.mister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she still wants to be your friend. I'm a pretty busy person so i know what it's like to not have time for your friends. ask her when will she be free and set a time day and place for you two to go out and have lunch see a movie go shopping or something. just be patient with her.
2006-07-24 00:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by bowman_w04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your hurt, first of people change, people dissapoint you, people will lie and hurt you thats life and thats humans. I say just let her be it's obvious that you care alot about your friendship with her so if she ever comes around do recieve her because thats what friends are for, but for now try not to worry about her.
2006-07-24 00:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should realize it and move on. You deserve better then to be pushed to the side. She isn't a real friend anymore, I'm sorry. Don't worry though, you will find a way better best friend!!!
2006-07-24 00:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to maintain a friendship, you must have mutural trust with each others. I don't think she want to lose you as a friend. She is just too busy with her new group of friends. Just give her some time.
2006-07-24 02:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by Nanako 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋