yes! just staying with my mate because we have 2 kids I dont want them to grow with out a Daddy figure but I am not seeing anyone or I was not even thingking of seeing anyone right now. just wondering hows somebody there feel about it. or how they're going to act if thats them.
2006-07-23 17:33:53 · 38 answers · asked by wilitotrell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok Cheating Does Not Solve Anything. I Am A Product of Exactly What You Are Talking About. My Mom Was Not Happy With My Dad But Stayed In The Realtionship For The Kids. Sadly My Dad Ended Up Cheating On My Mom And Things Did Not Go Well. It Led To A Very Nasty Divorce. Your Best Bet Is To Talk To Your Mate And See If They Are As Unhappy As You, And If They Are A Divorcre May Be The Best. If You Are Afriad Of Your Kids Growing Up Without A Father Figure You Shouldn't Be. After My Dad Left We Ended Up Becoming Closer ( We Never had A Good Realtionship). If The Split Up Is Amicable The Kids Don't Have To Have No Father Figure They Could Visit Often.
2006-07-23 17:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by EvEl_LiL_kArEbEaR 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not o.k. to cheat on your mate even tho ur not happy and are staying together for the kids. If there are kids and you and your mate arent happy dont stay together because kids know your not happy and they are worse off. How do u think your kids would feel if u cheated and your mate found out and was very upset and maybe even cried infront of ur kids, that would be real bad. If u and ur mate r fighting all the time the kids are worse off aswell cuz u arent setting a good example for them. There is lots to say on that subject but either dont cheat or get a divorce/break up.
Hope it all works out!
2006-07-23 17:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this fair to you? Can you see yourself living this way for the rest of your life. The children need a parent that is happy. However, you may be suffering from roommate syndrome. Try to read a book that I read a while back - The Truth About Love and go to here website to download the article on The Roommate Syndrome. We too often give up on a marriage because we think we know what love is but really don't and we end up blowing a good thing and living in regret. Before you make a decision seek professional help from a licensed counselor or Marriage and Family Therapist.
2006-07-23 17:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of resorting to cheating why not look at your other options. Think back to when you were happy with your partner, what were the things that made you happy? Try to recreate those things. What are the things that are making you guys unhappy, try working on those things, try to eliminate those from the relationship. Is he cheating on you? If so, tell him that you want him to stop. He is being selfish, you guys have two beautiful children and there is no reason why you guys can't work this out (unless he is abusive). Maybe try going on a second honeymoon, or start an exercise program together. Some sort of hobby that lets you two spend pleasant time together. Make a deal that you both are going to work on the relationship together. Best wishes.
2006-07-23 17:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well on first impulse, cheating is a dangerous and fun journey, and can be a turn on. that could be the problem with the fact that u see it in a different light than it is. ur breaking your vows, which to me can be as low as it gets. im trusting that ur not currently cheating so i think u should just leave that thought alone. maybe go to a marriage counselor about how ur not happy in your current situation. also remember if the kids find out, forget trust or anything. it will all be over. i hope for the best good luck
2006-07-23 17:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by lugasa3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not OK Because you will get caught and then he will get the Kids . When he takes you to court. Also your kids will be hurt because you will be gone allot with your lover. IF YOUR NOT HAPPY JUST END IT THE KIDS WILL BE FINE THEY WILL SEE THEIR DAD ON WEEKENDS AND HE CAN HAVE THEM IN THE SUMMER AND EVERY OTHER HOLIDAY. Maybe you should get help with you find out why your not happy . Does your husband know how you feel? you should have a talk with him see if he feels the same way. But don't cheat on him it will not make things better
2006-07-23 17:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Pattiiewack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not okay to cheat in any circumstances. Just because your not with your mate dosent mean they will grow up without a daddy. As long as you make a effort to be there you dont need to be in a relationship with the mother. But if you havent strayed already try relationship consuling(sp?) to see if you can work out your issues before you do.
2006-07-23 17:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating wont make you happy and what kind of influence is that on your kids? That is ok to go out and have other relationships? Its better for your kids to be apart if you arent happy. They will understand that mommy and daddy are better to be apart then together. I know, I lived that and my younger brother is going thru it right now. He doesnt want to be home because all my parents do is scream, yell, cuss, and hate eachother. Its not a good environment and going out and cheating doesnt make it any better. Trust me they would rather have you apart and happy then together and miserable. because the kids will just be misserable too....
2006-07-23 17:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by i_lovethis_bar03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is not a good idea even if you no longer love your hubby. I did it when I was in a situation and I got to the point I was so disappointed with myself, I just left him. No use staying for kids; they will adjust. But I couldn't stand myself doing those things. If I had it to do over, I would have left first; then pursued another relationship. He never found out, but I knew and that was enough. i didn't feel so good about myself.
2006-07-23 17:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt stay together because of the kids being with them just for the children will only make your life worst and in the end it will only hurt the kids because as they get older they willnotice the way you two act around each other and then theyll start asking questions then youd be force to lie to them or tell them the truth then they will start blaming thereselves i was in the same boat hun and it isnt easy but if your not happy then leave
2006-07-23 17:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by shyshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋