My girlfriend Just got a new bikini.?

Question

Hey everyone, I need a little help here.

My girlfriend just got a new bikini last week. Before this new bikini she had only had one other one before. Before that, she always wore a one piece with a big t-shirt over it. It was only this summer that she got the first bikini. At first in my head when she got the first one, i was like "Woah, why all of a suddon?" But I got over it quickly without even letting her know it ever even bothered me. Not a big deal, it was really quite moddest for a bikini and all. Then she got a new one last week. I don't really know what i should, think or do. Im not angry, im just confused. The new bikini is a white, triangle tie-up bikini. Its really small (like really small) because she got a size too small both tops and bottoms ( check it out at bikini-beach.com, its under Body Glove and its the white one) Anyways, it wouldn't be all that bad....but! It is supposed to come with padding in the top, but it didnt!!! and when it gets wet its half see-through

My half see-through, i mean you can see her nipples through it when its wet...I tell her that but she doesn't believe me. Although you can clearly see it. I just kind of told her though, it wassn't a serious talk or anything just kind of off the cuff talk.

Should i be worried? Or do somthing about it? I know i Cant forbid her or anything, but i dont know...we have been together for 4 years now.

You people are not any help at all (most) Im not here for people to ask for pictures of her in it. I need help. Im not one to tell people what to wear, but she doesn't think it does. And its not completely seethrough, but you can see the darker area where her nipples are, and all of the shape of it.

Answer 1

Wow. I wish I could find a bf who was so concerned for me, instead of one (ex!) who just wants to perv.
I think you should tell her, calmly and clearly, that it bothers you that so much of her is exposed publicly. Adn you should get her to stand in front of a mirror while in the bikini and wet so she can see what it really looks like.
Either she will be horrified and never wear the bikini again (but be greatful to you for pointing it out) or not care in which you know she knows what she is showing, and either you then enjoy the view (along with all the other guys around) or dump her if you can't handle it
B

Answer 2

She's a little bit bored with the relationship or from gettin only one guy's attention, and also she probably either lost some weight or got over some self-esteem issues, and so now she's realized she looks good and she finds it exciting to show off her body and get some attention from other guys (and girls!) other than you. She wants to explore a little. Or maybe she doesn't feel emotionally full-filled in the relationship and she wants to fill the void by gettin attention from other guys.. ok I'm not saying any of this is the case, but they are all possibilities that you should consider, and if anything you should do something about these things before worrying about guys checking her out.

There is nothing wrong with wearing a bikini and in normal circumstances it should not bother you one bit. However, to be honest, wearing a white see through bikini is kind of pushing it, it's borderline slutty. The fact that other guys stare at her should not be what bothers you, but the reason as to why she's wearing it in the first place. Because there's nothing you can/should do about other guys staring at a good-looking girl. It's really about whether you trust her, and why she wants to be stared at in such an obvious secual way. For instance, if I wanna wear a bikini, a short skirt, or a low-cut shirt, I will do so whether it makes other guys stare at me or not. It's not my problem. But only as long as it doesn't look slutty, like I'm just desperate for attention. My boyfriend tells me he actually likes it when other guys check me out because he's the one who is holding my hand not them, and because he's not insecure and he trusts me.

Talk to your girlfriend and find out why she suddently has the urge to fish for attention from other guys.

Answer 3

When you told your girlfriend that you could see her nipples through her bikini top, she said she doesn't believe you. Let me tell you something about women. WOMEN KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THEY ARE DOING. SHE KNOWS HER NIPPLES ARE SHOWING THROUGH. I would be a tad concerned if I were you, but don't let her know it. It may be wise to detach a little, in other words, don't be as available as you have been. Give her something to think about, and even worry about. And you dont' have to tell her at all that you are detaching or why. Just busy yourself with projects so that if she asks (and she probably will) why you haven't been calling as much, or where you have been, or what you've been doing, you have an answer that is true yet harmless and not apparently vengeful. As long as she knows that you are there all the time, and putting up with whatever she dishes out, she will take advantage of your love and good graces. If you start to detach somewhat, she will most probably start to wonder and worry. At this point, that sounds like a pretty good scenario in which to work this out. If she does start to get insecure about your affections, THEN you can tell her that you think it's quite inappropriate and just a little SKANKY for her to be revealing herself out in public this way and you're not all that gung-ho about it. And rather than to embarass yourself by being seen with her in that mode, you thought you'd just step back for a while. If she loves you and wants to save the relationship, SHE'LL GET THE MESSAGE and tone it down.

Answer 4

So you're worried that other people will be looking at her? I wouldn't worry about that so much, if you are with her you should trust her. The t shirt thing really is pretty uncommon, (and causes drag while swimming) and maybe this means she's feeling more secure in herself. I would think that its being too small would make it kind of uncomfortable, though. If it's already too late to return it, I'd reccommend sewing in a lining into the top. That's a pretty easy project.

Answer 5

alright man, i understand where you're coming from. so here's what u've got to do: inform her (in the event that she doesn't already know) that the suite is partially see-through when wet, and ask her if shes cool wit that. do not tell her that u don't want her to wear it because imagine how it would be if she told you that you could not wear a certain beloved item of clothing. hopefully that will be reason enough for her to not wear it.

or Plan B:
if it really bothers you that much, just jack the bikini, get rid of it, and tell her that u don't know anything of it's disappearance. much more deceitful i know, but much more effective without all of the akward conversations. good luck man.

Answer 6

Obviously you care enough to be asking here, so that's good. Be honest, tell her it's kind of see through. She should believe you, show her a mirror! Lots of girls get rumors or nicknames for things like that, you don't want that happening now do you? Especially since the bathing suit is white. Explain what you just told me to her. Or maybe you could like suggest a date with her to go bathing suit shopping and just take her along and buy 2 or 3 suits so she doesn't realize anyting.

Answer 7

tell her how you feel. she probably doesn't realize it because its her first bikini and she's defensive and afraid of not looking good in it. maybe you can suggest going shopping or to the mall and look at bikinis together casually without saying anything. show her a few you like and casually ask what she thinks. give her a bit of time to adjust. and when you talk to her make sure you compliment her. say "honey, i think you look really great but i'm worried bc when you're bikini is wet it is see through on top." I'm sure she'll understand. good luck

Answer 8

Just know that while you cannot "make" her get something new, that it bugs you that her bathing suit can give Everyone on the beach an eyefull. Maybe she hasn't realised that it shows that much. Just tell her how you feel and hopefully she'll respect your opinion.

Maybe she wants it that way because she used to have issues (as in low self esteem from when she wore one pieces) that she realised she looks good and wants to show it off.

Just talk to her, I'm sure she'll understand.

Answer 9

I am assuming this bothers you, because other people get to see more of your girlfriend than you like. If that's the case, you need to talk to her, but be prepared for some backlash, because if she is comfortable with her body, then you need to try to be more accepting as well. It also may be good to tell her what you think looks sexy on her as well, since she may be trying to convey that sort of presence.

Answer 10

u should tell her, unless u want all the guys checking her boobs out
if she doesnt believe u...tell her to look in a freakin mirror rite after getting out of the water, maybe u can even take a mirror outside, b/c i suppose u can see them more clearly under the sun