what do you do ?

Question

ok i am in love with my boyfreind very much and we live togather,. here lately though things have not been so good. I had the gut feeling that he maybe cheating on me... and things i see tell me that my instincts maybe true..i want to work things out i really do. we have been togather almost a year and i know that he loves me, its just other people or should i say friends as he calls them cant leave him alone and is trying to break us up he said he loves me and he is not going any where,,, well what i am most confused about now is that my ex sent me a email asking me tonight if if wanted to try us again and if i would move back to nc so when he came home we could be togather? I dont know what to do because yes i still have feeling for my ex and we did not break up on bad terms at all....

Answer 1

If you are having problems in the relationship, you need to figure out what's going on and learn from your experiences before you try to jump into or back to another one. And if you haven't learned anything form the first relationship, then why do you think it will work out the second time especially since you don't even know what happened the first time? You need to have repsect for yourself, know what you want and never accept anything less. Even if that means moving on and never looking back. As for me, I expect no playing of games, being honest and if things aren't working out or if theres a problem, tell me about it. And what I expect is also what I give. That's the only way a relationship can really work. If he wants to sneak around behind my back, or be vague about what's going on, or if his actions don't match his words, then it's seeya later and have a nice life.

Answer 2

Girl,
You need to sit down with your boyfriend and let him know the way you feel. Keeping it tucked away will just make you think more and hurt your relationship. A good relationship is basic communication, trust and honesty. Without any of those things you have nothing. Just open up and let him kow how you feel. As for your ex, he's an ex for a reason..............right. You made a decesion to not be with him for what ever reason and it must have been a good one because your not with him. Xs become Xs for certain reasons. You will always have some type of feelings for your Xs. But that will pass and the only feelings you'll have for your ex is to be friends. I hope this sort of helps you. Stay strong and be Blessed.

Answer 3

Girl it seams to me that if you are having a feeling about your boyfriend cheating on you then you are right. You know what they say, "Women's intuition is always right". So what you need to do is talk to your man and tell him what you feel. If you think he is cheating and will continue to cheat then leave his *** you dont need him. Talk to your ex for the moment. And yes think about the reasons why you two broke up. But most importantly think about yourself. Who would you be happy with? Who will treat you the way you want to be treated?

Answer 4

you still have feelings for your ex? you want things to work out with the guy who you suspect is cheating on you? YOU NEED TO DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT! (yes i meant to shout) you need to get away from both and take some time to figure it out! its not fair because it sounds like you want both although if you still truly have feelings for your ex this relationship you are in now is doomed whether your boyfriend is cheating on you or not. take some time and think this through, its the only way! Good Luck!

Answer 5

Just from the sound of your scrambled question and the fact that you use this forum to get an answer shows that you were not ready to live with this guy in the first place, especially after dating less than a year.

Answer 6

first sentence that you wrote answers your question. you still love your current boyfriend. and a hunch is not a reason to leave him. tell him you love him constantly. then one night ask if he's been cheating (watch for change in expression, presperation, all that) and just because your ex calls you back doesn't mean you should. i mean there must be a reason he is your ex. and even if your new guy has been cheating... that doesn't mean go back to your old guy, find someone new, never look back. only forward.

Answer 7

Well think about the reasons why you broke up with ex, if you think that you could easily be together with him without any problems, then go ahead. But that would not be fair to your current boyfriend by any means.Also, if you have doubts that your boyfriend might be cheating on you, talk to him about it CLEARLY instead of being paranoid about everything eventually.

Answer 8

I think if you are unhappy with this guy and you think you will be happier with your ex, you should do it. But then again.....you didnt leave your ex on bad terms but you'll be leaving this guy on bad terms and if things dont work out with your ex, it'll be hard to go back to the guy your with now. I think you shouldnt leave just cuz his friends are trying to break ya'll up, you should talk to him and ask him to tell his friends to bac off, cuz if they dont you always have another guy willing to take you : )
I think you should not jump the gun and just talk things out with your bf and she if he is worth staying with. Just dont rub it in his face that you could always just go to another guy cuz then he'll be angry.

Answer 9

well, thats a tough desision, and 1st of all, u shoodnt be livin wit sum1 if ur not married! maybe u and ur current bf r not ment 2 be 2gether. but watever u do, dont cheat on him 4 revenge or ne other reason.

<3 dez~

Answer 10

if you really loved your b/f.....you wouldn't be asking this question.......if you think he is cheating..then hit the bricks......but i wouldn't run right into the ex's arms....time between men is good!